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Supermarkets need to get real!

456 replies

Justa47 · 11/01/2021 17:32

When will supermarkets stop being a day out and only allow single parents in with kids and not families and couples?

Why doesn’t one parent wait in the car?

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Jojoanna · 11/01/2021 19:52

peak2021
I agree, but would most women trust their DH to do the shopping and get everything correct?

WTF ??

ToadsThePeanutButterSnob · 11/01/2021 19:53

Plus not everyone can always afford a taxi.

SendHelp30 · 11/01/2021 19:55

@vanillandhoney no I completely understand that that’s the truth for some, but that doesn’t explain the huge numbers of families and couples shopping together. If only one of a couple drives, why can one not park up and wait in the car?

DoctorHildegardLanstrom · 11/01/2021 19:55

Because there are no slots for delivery
Because we don't have a car
During the summer it was much easier to have an 8 year old outside
We can't do click and collect because its at least 2 trips and they won't allow us to do half and half and I am not in a position to pay for 2 charges

ICouldHaveCheckedFirst · 11/01/2021 19:56

DH and I shop together, with a list. We don't "shuffle round" or dither. We go when it's quiet, we have a list, and are decisive. We split up and each get different things, so it's quicker than just one of us doing it.
When they restricted it to just one person, we just went along with it, of course, like sensible people do.

We only go once a week, and see nobody the rest of the week, but rant away.

BananaPop2020 · 11/01/2021 19:56

It’s not quite as simple as some make out is it?

Stellaris22 · 11/01/2021 19:57

Supermarket staff here: after being shouted at for asking couples if one member can wait outside you kind of realise it's not worth the abuse to keep doing it.

MummytoCSJH · 11/01/2021 19:57

Yes I agree @BananaPop my Mum takes me shopping when she goes once a fortnight as I don't drive and would otherwise be shopping a few times a week due to limit on how much I can carry due to disability, and I would have to go on the bus to get there. We don't live together but she is my support bubble as I'm a single parent. She needs to get her shopping too, surely it's better for us to go in and out together once. As you say even if I could get a delivery slot (not vulnerable or anything) I can't afford to spend enough to get a big delivery all at once, nor do I have the fridge freeze/storage space to buy in bulk which is why I shop at aldi more regularly - they don't offer online food deliveries. I also can't afford a taxi to and from my nearest aldi at least twice a month on top of my shop. We looked into getting a delivery from somewhere together and it would actually be cheaper to pay a delivery cost between us, but the shop would cost a lot more overall and slots are gold dust here.

Londontown12 · 11/01/2021 19:57

I have been doing the shopping by myself but after having had a steroid injection due to psoriatic arthritis in my hands my hubbi had to help me because I couldn’t carry the bags ! I do all the coking so he wouldn’t have a clue what to buy so we had to go together .
I agree it’s not a day out but don’t just be judging people mind your own business this pandemic is turning people into judgmental people !

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 11/01/2021 19:59

Because supermarkets care about profit above all else. I used to work for a major uk supermarket. I refuse to give them any of my custom.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 11/01/2021 19:59

I suspect that many people on here just don’t like couples or families shopping anyway and Covid is a convenient stick to beat them with

Couchbettato · 11/01/2021 19:59

In the first lockdown I didn't live close to a super market nor did I or my partner drive and we had a toddler.

Because we had to carry a week's worth of shopping back by foot, we needed both of us, because it wouldn't all fit under the buggy and we couldn't just leave our son at home.

Not every one has a car they can just sit in, or regular online shopping spots, and it makes more sense to reduce frequency of going out to reduce exposure than to keep popping back in and out and risk bringing god knows what back with you.

2pinkginsplease · 11/01/2021 19:59

Dh and I go shopping together more so now as we are shopping for our household , my mums shopping and also some week shopping for his mum. I can’t do all that shopping on my own and makes it easier if we are both there. One shopping trip a week is safer for us or I would need to go 3 different days to get 3 different households shopping so easier for us both to go!

I wish people would stop being so bloody judgemental and just concentrate on themselves!

burnoutbabe · 11/01/2021 19:59

Same as @ICouldHaveCheckedFirst

Don't drive so we go together, mid week when quieter. 6 bags to carry home.
I nip off and grab items from other aisles to speed it all up.
Use shop and scan to avoid checking out.

starfish4 · 11/01/2021 20:01

It's about limiting exposure for everyone. I totally understand there are exceptions though. I work for an essential retailer, not supermarket, and we're still getting quite a few families of 4/5 in together. Also many couples - the husband often stands in the aisle getting in the way of other customers while wife pays at self serve.

BananaPop2020 · 11/01/2021 20:01

@AlecTrevelyan006 100%. People need to be a bit more understanding.

Parkperson · 11/01/2021 20:01

@peak2021. Really? You really believe most women would not trust their husband to do the shopping. Most of the couples I know it is the man doing the shopping.

katseyes7 · 11/01/2021 20:02

I work on a supermarket checkout.
I've seen so many couples doing 'big shops'. Usually one stands fiddling with their phone while the other one packs.
Then, there are the parents with two/three/four young adults. Either their children/or other family members/friends.
And three generations. Small children, their parents, and (what usually appear to be) grandparents.
Also two/three forties/fifties women, buying wine and treating it like a day out.

I'm like ssd. We get paid just over £9 an hour, except on Sundays. We get treated like tweenies at Downton Abbey. Some people are either rude, ignore us, stay on their phones the entire time we put their shopping through, or get nasty or abusive when we tell them that toilet rolls, etc are restricted, and they're only allowed so many of some items.
Back in March when all this started, one young girl l work with (a student, working her way through uni) was called a "fucking P*ki" by a man when she told him he was only allowed one multipack of bottled water.

I had a customer actually swat the cardreader at my face when l was pushing his shopping towards him, just because l'd asked him (politely, but twice, at both ends of the checkout) to stand on the social distancing 'lines'.

People wander round with their masks under their noses, apparently oblivious to the fact that they may as well not be wearing one. They come to the checkouts and either take them off or pull them down, complaining they're 'hot and can't breathe', or lean right over towards us, pulling the masks down to speak to us.

The store l work in is actually putting out public address announcements asking shoppers to "treat everyone with respect."
That should not be necessary. We're all in the same boat. Unfortunately like most front line staff, we're a captive audience.

Only once have l refused to serve someone. He was complaining, very loudly and aggressively, about the lady in front of him at my till who (in his view) was too slow packing her shopping. He chose to stand there, with four items, behind three other people. He could have used another checkout or self scan. I stood up and told him not to bother waiting, l wasn't going to serve him. Fortunately there were a few big Yorkshire lads about, who weren't taking that from him, and made their feelings very plain. The lady was mortified and very embarrassed.

Don't get me wrong. The majority of people are lovely, we have our regulars, they ask how we are, and thank us for doing our jobs. I work with amazing people and our management are very supportive.
It's worrying, though. People either don't care, believe the 'hoax' stuff, or are totally convinced 'it' won't affect them. Or think being asked to wear a mask for the time it takes them to do a shop is against their freedom and their rights.

I really don't know if there's a solution. Some people really don't, or won't change their behaviour. And we still have to go to work.
My neighbour is a practice nurse, administering Covid vaccines. She says that if anyone comes in wearing a mask under their nose, she gives them two options. Put it on properly, or leave.
If they come back with it under their nose, she tells them to leave.
Unfortunately, we don't have that luxury.

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Lucieintheskye · 11/01/2021 20:07

I went to Sainsbury's today and nearly everyone in the shop was with their partner, partner and kids or adult/teen kids. Kids were running around touching everything and running up to people while both parents stared gormlessly at a shelf. Teen kids stood looking at their phones while parent held up 5 items reading ingredients lists. Even saw a couple lowering their masks to talk to each other from across the aisle.

knobs.

studychick81 · 11/01/2021 20:08

I get what you're saying about families treating it as a day out but I think you need to cut people with young dcs some slack. I took my dcs to the supermarket the other day as my DH needed to get on with work- already missed several hours trying to help me sort IT for home schooling and I didn't want them on the iPad again as they've been on it too much anyway. DH took them with him the other day as I was working. Many of us are doing the best we can whilst trying to juggle home schooling, work, studying etc. Criticism for using KW club and when we don't, criticism for going to the supermarket. Give us a break.

Kazzyhoward · 11/01/2021 20:11

Seeing as there will be large numbers of "bouncers" unemployed at the moment due to pubs/clubs being closed, why don't supermarkets employ them to "man the doors" to enforce social distancing, single shoppers, etc. They'll be accustomed to abuse etc and dealing with awkward people.

RedToothBrush · 11/01/2021 20:12

Last night the newspapers were reporting that the government were strongly suggesting they were going to make supermarkets legally responsible for ensuring mask wearing and enforcing other guidelines....

... so its not the supermarkets that 'need to get real'. The supermarkets are crapping themselves about this...

Purplethrow · 11/01/2021 20:13

I utterly , utterly , utterly despair at grown bloody men being unable to do a food shop !!

Husband doesn’t do the cooking so wouldn’t know what to buy ? Give him a sodding list.

Husband is greedy and would buy too much?? Hmm
Give me fucking strength.

Elcantador · 11/01/2021 20:15

I shop with my DP once a week. Nothing to do with being entitled fuckers.
We dont drive and live 35 min walk from the big sainsbury's so either go together (adult couple)and do a big shop once a week or i go in more often for smaller shops.
I dont use delivery because i feel those slots should be left for the more vulnerable.
During the first lockdown couples were not allowed in so we took turns, i did tuesday, he did saturday.
I dont see how that is better

Londonmummy66 · 11/01/2021 20:17

When the schools reopen

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