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Neighbour has people staying over for a week now

123 replies

spababe · 30/12/2020 09:11

We are Tier 2.
Visitors arrived the day it was announced London was going into Tier 4 and neighbour happily told DH that visitors had 'got out before lockdown'.
Neighbour only moved in this Summer from Surrey.
She is on her own (normally) so I suppose they formed a support bubble.
Must be a few of them though as there are now 3 cars on the drive instead of 1.
WWYD? Anything?

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Moondust001 · 30/12/2020 10:27

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'People are using support bubbles, which may be miles outside a tier 4 area, to access support, as they are entitled to do'

True, however surely a support bubble would be a single person locally who we help on a daily or weekly basis with shopping or social support.Travelling 200 miles for example (from tier 4 fgs) to visit someone that you don't normally see for months on end would seem a tenuous definition of a 'support bubble'. Still they're entitled so that makes it all great innit.

But that isn't the definition of a support bubble, so it "surely" isn't! What support people require isn't for you or anyone rise to define. Nothing says that it must be about a weekly cup of tea or nipping to the shops.

There's far too much judgement based on personal opinions about the rules already.

SunshineSetty · 30/12/2020 10:30

@spababe OP if it were me, I’d look into some hobbies.

NYNY211 · 30/12/2020 10:37

@Randominternetbitch

Nothing. Mind your own business and get a life.
This!
AnxiousAlpaca · 30/12/2020 10:38

All the Covid rule breakers want to be careful. I hope they know there’s talk about bringing the death penalty back Xmas Wink

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 10:47

'Quite a fitting name. Do you also challenge those not wearing masks?'

Oh you're the first person ever to say that, clever you!

No I don't challenge them. I do of course silently judge knowing there is not one medical reason (barring significant psychological distress) to prevent wearing a thin face cover, visor or pulling a scarf up. They are probably the same people with 4 cars on the drive who then wail about 'the government'.

This year has been one long endurance test for many. Particularly tolerating the 'ah but the rules don't apply to me!' folk.

PoppiesinOctober · 30/12/2020 10:51

I'd do sweet fuck allllll

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 10:52

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Nnkk · 30/12/2020 10:55

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'Just as is you thinking you have the god given right to charge over to your neighbours house and demand an explanation.'

No. I dont have a 'god given right' to charge anywhere, nor can I be arsed. Just know that when you have a houseful everyone nearby is thinking you're a twat. HTH.

The definition isn’t just disabled suicidal or terminally ill for support.

You are disablist.

dangerrabbit · 30/12/2020 10:55

I hate what a nation of stasi English people have become.

Katie517 · 30/12/2020 10:57

It amazes me how people seem to think everyone has family living in the next street. My support bubble (I have an under 1 year old) are my parents they live 80 miles away, my PIL live 150 miles away so we chose the “closest” option available to us. OP just mind your own business they are not harming you and are doing nothing wrong. Travel to see support bubbles is permitted across ALL tiers.

ConfusedatChristmasTier4 · 30/12/2020 11:02

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'People are using support bubbles, which may be miles outside a tier 4 area, to access support, as they are entitled to do'

True, however surely a support bubble would be a single person locally who we help on a daily or weekly basis with shopping or social support.Travelling 200 miles for example (from tier 4 fgs) to visit someone that you don't normally see for months on end would seem a tenuous definition of a 'support bubble'. Still they're entitled so that makes it all great innit.

@GetOffYourHighHorse well named, get off your high horse. Support bubbles aren’t just for practical support, they are for emotional and mental support too or instead of. We’re in a support bubble with my mum who lives 140 miles away and I try and visit her every one or two weeks and I stay over. I help her with her shopping and washing, but the main purpose of my visit is to provide companionship. I don’t have to be local to do these things.
Orf1abc · 30/12/2020 11:05

@GetOffYourHighHorse Given the many hateful posts you make on here, often aimed at vulnerable groups, I can only assume you have a very miserable existence.

My support bubble has three cars, and I can't wear a face covering. You want to try living with a disability through this?

Nnkk · 30/12/2020 11:10

God forbid anyone would have a support bubble which includes parents with a car each and adult children who also have cars.

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MountDoom · 30/12/2020 11:12

Stop curtain twitching and go occupy yourself with something else.

I really hate what this is doing to people.

SideboardOfDoom · 30/12/2020 11:26

I wouldn’t do anything personally.

DecemberSun · 30/12/2020 11:32

Ignore the fuckwits who say it isn't your business. Of course it is everyone's business. It's people like your neighbour and visitors who are spreading the virus.

Report her.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 11:33

'My support bubble has three cars, and I can't wear a face covering. You want to try living with a disability through this?'

Oh I have a family member living with a disability thanks so I totally understand challenges. They do manage to wear a visor though. I did say barring disabilities, suicidal people and terminally ill.

My point was many are using the 'support bubble' to flout. We all know it but to mention it anonymously on here is being a 'stasi' apparently. Again, if you aren't a single person household you shouldn't have a load of cars on your drive, if you do people will think you're a flouting twat and that is without the need to curtain twitch.

Nnkk · 30/12/2020 11:36

I’ve adult children who live at home we have three cars.

If we go to my aunt (who lives alone) there are four cars on the drive.

So what?

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 11:48

'If we go to my aunt (who lives alone) there are four cars on the drive. So what?'

Why go in separate cars is it because one has to go to work, the other has vital business to attend to and the other has to return home to feed the cat? It's funny you all go at exactly the same time, really must take some synchronising. No I wouldn't charge over and challenge you either but wtf has happened to common sense. As the great Chris Whitty said just because you can doesn't mean you should.

Cases are 53000!! Support bubbles are for the emotional and physical support it isnt just a free for all for a family knees up. Well, it is going by this thread but it shouldn't be. Roll on the vaccine..

Nnkk · 30/12/2020 11:50

We leave at different times because my two children work in different places. And do different shifts. We don’t all arrive together.

I take my car because I have the cage for the dog in my boot.

SionnachRua · 30/12/2020 11:53

I'd take up a hobby or something to get me out of my curtain twitching ways. Good NY resolution there.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 30/12/2020 11:53

What would I do?

Get on with the housework / reading my book / cooking lunch / going out for a walk - in short, whatever I’d be doing if there weren’t extra cars on next door’s drive.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 11:58

'We leave at different times because my two children work in different places. And do different shifts. We don’t all arrive together. I take my car because I have the cage for the dog in my boot.'

Ah right. Got it. If she's elderly I'd maybe just keep it to you visiting? Or even one at a time what with social distancing and all. That's just me though I'm a stasi as I like to reduce risk.

Sitt · 30/12/2020 11:59

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'Just as is you thinking you have the god given right to charge over to your neighbours house and demand an explanation.'

No. I dont have a 'god given right' to charge anywhere, nor can I be arsed. Just know that when you have a houseful everyone nearby is thinking you're a twat. HTH.

But how do you know who to judge? I don’t advertise the state of my mental health to my neighbours. It must be very stressful being you.