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Neighbour has people staying over for a week now

123 replies

spababe · 30/12/2020 09:11

We are Tier 2.
Visitors arrived the day it was announced London was going into Tier 4 and neighbour happily told DH that visitors had 'got out before lockdown'.
Neighbour only moved in this Summer from Surrey.
She is on her own (normally) so I suppose they formed a support bubble.
Must be a few of them though as there are now 3 cars on the drive instead of 1.
WWYD? Anything?

OP posts:

8lue8ird · 30/12/2020 09:42

@DownWhichOfLate

I’d mind my own business.

Same

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 30/12/2020 09:43

I had someone to stay for a few weeks with her daughter because her husband was having a mental health crisis, it wasn’t appropriate for them to stay at home and they had nowhere else to go.
I didn’t explain to the neighbours because it seemed rather confidential plus they are not twats who would assume the worst of everyone!

WeavingWandering · 30/12/2020 09:43

@GetOffYourHighHorse- my mum’s my support bubble. She lives right the other end of the country... Im pregnant and if my partner can’t get home from o/s due to Covid - I don’t want just ‘someone local’ as a birth partner. I want my mum! Or would you prefer I switch support bubbles whenever I need that support?

Toocold · 30/12/2020 09:46

My DM came to us for a week six hours before tier 4 happened ... It’s further than just London ... and stayed for a week, part of a support bubble over 200 miles away as my DSD passed away in Aug, but I tell you what I’ll just get the neighbours to drop some shopping off to her, to hell with her mental health, she’ll be alright on her own for 3 -4 months in her flat, FFS, people do have a multitude of reasons why they’re bubbled with others miles away, I really wonder about some people’s empathy. You know these neighbours will still be your neighbours when this is over and you might be reliant on them one day?!

MellowYellow101 · 30/12/2020 09:47

@Chloemol

Gosh the normal rude posts in here I see

Yes it maybe a support bubble but I wouldn’t expect three cars. Perhaps just a case of asking her

Why are people so nasty? I just don’t get it. Would you all like to be spoken to like that in RL?

Not rude at all. It is not her business to ask. If someone knocked on my door last week to ask, I wouldn't have given them a response. In truth i would have asked them to get off my property and to call the police on me as its not their business! Same applies to OP - if he/she is that concerned, then call the police.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 09:48

'Yes it maybe a support bubble but I wouldn’t expect three cars'

Ah maybe the home owner who is single has 2 cars for some inexplicable/flouter reason or the 'support bubble' has a spare car?

Not to worry we mustn't pry! Let's just blame Johnson its all his fault, compliance has never ever ever been the problem oh nooooo

HelloDulling · 30/12/2020 09:50

Two adults often means two cars. If DH and I went to stay with, for example, my MIL, for a long stay, we would take both our cars to give us freedom of movement while there.

GetOffYourHighHorse · 30/12/2020 09:52

'my mum’s my support bubble. She lives right the other end of the country... Im pregnant and if my partner can’t get home from o/s due to Covid '

Yes and for every genuine case like yours there are thousands others with driveways full of cars parroting 'support bubble'. I have total empathy for vulnerable people, not so much those just carrying on as normal. Which if you were honest would admit is widespread.

TheSockMonster · 30/12/2020 09:57

Two cars indicates they think they’ll be staying a while, either to keep your neighbour company as part of a support bubble or because they’re moving house/awaiting repairs after the flooding that decimated much of the country just before Christmas/etc.

Either way they have not done anything illegal so don’t rush to ascribe bad intentions to it.

partyatthepalace · 30/12/2020 09:57

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'People are using support bubbles, which may be miles outside a tier 4 area, to access support, as they are entitled to do'

True, however surely a support bubble would be a single person locally who we help on a daily or weekly basis with shopping or social support.Travelling 200 miles for example (from tier 4 fgs) to visit someone that you don't normally see for months on end would seem a tenuous definition of a 'support bubble'. Still they're entitled so that makes it all great innit.

This is not the case. Support bubbles are for emotional as well as practical support, if your family lives 150 miles away then they may very well be your support bubble.

If support bubbles were supposed to be just practical and local the guidelines would say that. As it is they say they should be local ‘if possible.’

I don’t know why some people can’t grasp this.

Bluntness100 · 30/12/2020 10:00

Do you feel single people shouldn’t be permitted support bubbles op and would like her to be alone? So you want to report her? Make it a little worse for her?

Can you clarify further what you’d like to do to her?

PerhapsOverlyWorried · 30/12/2020 10:03

Genuine question, what do you think you could do? Why do you think you should do anything? Why do you believe it’s your business at all?

This pandemic has really brought out all the people who’d be the first to grass in their friends, family and neighbours to earn a gold star and a pat on the head. It’s truly pathetic.

hazelnutlatte · 30/12/2020 10:05

We have had my SIL staying with us for the Christmas period,she lives 100 miles away, but she lives alone so we are her support bubble. She stayed with us for a month in May/June and then for a week of the November lockdown, and now Christmas. She had recently moved to the area where she lives now so she doesn't have anyone to be in a local support bubble with her. What we are doing is within the rules and also low risk - she does not work so has minimal contact with others, and none of us are vulnerable.

PerhapsOverlyWorried · 30/12/2020 10:06

@partyatthepalace some people don’t grasp that because they’re too busy stamping their feet and sulking over the fact that they’re not speshul enough for anyone to recognise they’re sacrificing everything while their neighbours run around killing grannies.

ChronicallyCurious · 30/12/2020 10:11

I’d shut my curtains and watch the tv with some biscuits.

Keepgoing88 · 30/12/2020 10:14

OMG mind your own business OP! If they are causing trouble going in and out and annoying you With noisethat is different but really if they are not bothering you I think you should stay out of it

Tyranttoddler · 30/12/2020 10:15

I don't know why some people think it's automatically taking the piss if someone's support bubble is far away.
My sister is in a support bubble with my parents. She lives in London and my parents in the North West. She has no friends in London as they all left during the first lockdown. She has been furloughed since March. She sees no one. She has seen my parents 3 times.
Why is this worse than say, my best friend, who mixes daily with her sister and their children all mix who go to separate schools and they all work in different workplaces. One acceptable socially, one not, but both in my mind totally allowed and needed.

OP, do nothing.

BeeDavis · 30/12/2020 10:15

Step away from your fecking windows for gods sake.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 30/12/2020 10:16

Could you make straw effigies of all them and burn them on your front lawn - as a sort of hint?

sneakysnoopysniper · 30/12/2020 10:16

The attitude of people who are fortunate enough to live in families towards single people has always been selfish and thoughtless. We dont all have relatives nearby nor do we all ponce about in cars. Get over it.

Plussizejumpsuit · 30/12/2020 10:16

Jesus christ just mind your own business.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 30/12/2020 10:18

If they are bubble cars on drive then everything should be above board and OK!

GintyMcGinty · 30/12/2020 10:19

As a single person she has legitimately formed a support bubble.

Stop twitching those curtains.

WeavingWandering · 30/12/2020 10:25

@GetOffYourHighHorse- of course, there are people who are exploiting it. There are people exploiting every aspect of the rules.... I wasn’t disputing that at all- and I’d be surprised if anyone did. I was merely presenting a reason why someone might choose not to have a local support bubble. Some people might need that local, regular support - others might be willing/able/required by circumstances to forgo that in order to support or be supported by a specific person.

Anyoldname12 · 30/12/2020 10:26

@GetOffYourHighHorse

'my mum’s my support bubble. She lives right the other end of the country... Im pregnant and if my partner can’t get home from o/s due to Covid '

Quite a fitting name.

Do you also challenge those not wearing masks? Because for every genuine person not able to wear a mask there will be people not arsed? However it is incredibly intrusive and boarding on disablist to do so. Just as is you thinking you have the god given right to charge over to your neighbours house and demand an explanation.

You don’t know what this person / family is going through OP. My friends uncle was dying (nothing to do with covid) and his daughter had a knock on the door from the police because one of their twatty neighbours reported her for “having lots of people over” .. imagine the distress that caused while her dad was ACTIVELY dying the police bang on your door because some utter nobcheese who doesn’t even know your surname is frotting away about “breaking guidelines” .... sad little people.

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