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Another “angry with the neighbours for flouting the rules” thread

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MrsExpo · 21/12/2020 18:25

My neighbours are both police officers - the husband is quite senior in rank. We are in Tier 3. This afternoon, their DD has arrived for christmas, clearly intending to stay for a while. She lives and works in central London, where she lives with a long term partner (he hasn’t come, as far as I know)...... What the hell is the point of having rules? Speechless really .....

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manicinsomniac · 21/12/2020 19:34

I totally understand all the bad feeling and moaning threads about people breaking the rules.

It's bitter disappointment, jealousy and a sense of righteous injustice. Millions have people have had long looked forward to plans snatched away from them and are desperately upset. No, it's not the end of the world, yes we can understand the reasoning behind the rules but it's still a big blow. And to see other people getting to enjoy themselves regardless by breaking the rules is extremely hard to stomach.

I wouldn't report anyone. But I can imagine having an anonymous rant on here to try and relieve my feelings.

MillieVanilla · 21/12/2020 19:37

Sorry but it's Christmas
Boris promised Christmas was safe.
Everyone has bought stuff, spent money they probably barely have, only for that twat to cancel it.

It's a guideline. Parliament is on Christmas recess. The Police have said they aren't knocking doors. Councils have refused to allow Marshall's to knock either.

Go bore off with your "I'm so perfect I've never broken a rule" crap.

hamstersarse · 21/12/2020 19:39

This type of local vigilante policing is so sad to me.

You are turning on your neighbours, your neighbours, the people who live in your space. The ones who’d you’d likely need were you actually in trouble in the moment

Just be careful who you turn on and why

MillieVanilla · 21/12/2020 19:41

@hamstersarse

This type of local vigilante policing is so sad to me.

You are turning on your neighbours, your neighbours, the people who live in your space. The ones who’d you’d likely need were you actually in trouble in the moment

Just be careful who you turn on and why

Yes Some of these do gooders need to remember that they will have to stay living in that street with those neighbors. People won't forget. Good luck being the neighbor known as a grass- especially OP suggesting grassing up a high ranking police officer. Be pretty easy for him to find out who it was.

TheGreatWave · 21/12/2020 20:07

@Desperado40

Is the fact that they are police officers has nothing to do with OP’s post? I don’t think it would be as hurtful/annoying if they were not? I thought they were supposed to be leading by example, they are bloody police officers ffs?! One rule for them, one rule for us.

Or maybe we should just interpret the rules as we see fit.

Ok, they are police officers, even before the weekend's bombshell her arriving today would have been against the rules. She appears to have enough stuff to be stopping a while.

Does that not make you think that there is perhaps a very valid (and within the guidelines) reason for her being there?

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MrsExpo · 21/12/2020 20:10

I know the family quite well. No issues in the relationship, no MH issues, partnership still intact, no safety issues.

She’s just come because she wants to be with her family at Christmas (don’t we all!!). But some of us are prepared to forego that for the greater good. Some are not. Over and out.

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KylieKoKo · 21/12/2020 20:12

But there's no of knowing if it's against the rules. Because there are circumstances when it's within the rules to stay with someone. The fact that her partner isn't with her suggests that they are no longer together, in which case the daughter may well live alone and be entitled to a support bubble.

DurhamDurham · 21/12/2020 20:17

How did get to the point where people are posting about their neighbours having their own daughter home for Christmas like it's the worst thing?
Let them get on with it, it doesn't affect you and in a year or so you will hopefully look back at this and realise hope petty you sound.

suitsnot · 21/12/2020 20:26

@MrsExpo

I know the family quite well. No issues in the relationship, no MH issues, partnership still intact, no safety issues.

She’s just come because she wants to be with her family at Christmas (don’t we all!!). But some of us are prepared to forego that for the greater good. Some are not. Over and out.

I’m not surprised you’re ‘over and out.’ It’s not nice to be told the things you’ve been told on this thread.

You have no idea what goes on in someone’s life. How ridiculous that you would state she has no mental health issues. Whatever perch you’re currently on, OP, be careful, these things have a habit of crashing down and it’s much harder to judge people when you’re in that place. Start being a little kinder and a little less nosey. Good luck.

Pinotwoman82 · 21/12/2020 20:27

How do you know there are no mental health issues?? They are hardly going to tell you now are they!

Lorius · 21/12/2020 20:30

Frankly I think we need a proper lockdown. Too many people are not following the rules and are putting others at risk.

The rule should be- unless you are a key worker, stay the fuck at home at all times.

None of this outdoor 'exercise', meeting other households for a 'walk' (which is even allowed in tier 4 for some reason ), or trips to the Range.

Each household should be allocated one supermarket trip per week to be used for buying essentials only- not gin and chocolate

I'd also like to see something similar to the French system where people have to carry a form every time they leave home.

I would support a financial reward system for good Samaritans who report neighbours who do not stay at home.

There should be £1000 fines for rule breakers.

We would soon be able to eradicate the virus if people followed the rules and stayed the fuck at home.

Pinotwoman82 · 21/12/2020 20:31

I know my neighbours very well but I don’t tell them the in’s and out’s of my life and my children’s. Grow the hell up!

Boxesandbiros · 21/12/2020 20:32

That really wouldn’t eradicate it. Too many people have to leave the house to do vital work - it is not possible to eradicate now.
It will however lead to loads of people killing themselves. Or each other.

LJC1234 · 21/12/2020 20:34

@Lorius

Frankly I think we need a proper lockdown. Too many people are not following the rules and are putting others at risk.

The rule should be- unless you are a key worker, stay the fuck at home at all times.

None of this outdoor 'exercise', meeting other households for a 'walk' (which is even allowed in tier 4 for some reason ), or trips to the Range.

Each household should be allocated one supermarket trip per week to be used for buying essentials only- not gin and chocolate

I'd also like to see something similar to the French system where people have to carry a form every time they leave home.

I would support a financial reward system for good Samaritans who report neighbours who do not stay at home.

There should be £1000 fines for rule breakers.

We would soon be able to eradicate the virus if people followed the rules and stayed the fuck at home.

You have posted this on so many threads and every tome it terrifies me that people like you exist .

StillCounting123 · 21/12/2020 20:34

All of you on this thread complaining about neighbours, friends etc who flout rules.... How many of these people have ever had Covid?

OP, keep your beak out and find something to occupy yourself within your own home.

Fbtw · 21/12/2020 20:36

my neighbours think they know me well.

They don’t. And nor should they.

Boxesandbiros · 21/12/2020 20:36

Me too.
Honestly if the above happens I’m topping myself. And ok - I’m only person, so what. But I think lots of people would feel similarly.

Lorius · 21/12/2020 20:38

Do those of you who are endorsing breaking rules and doing as we please think it is worth killing people or making them permanently disabled through long COVID?

Frankly life has changed permanently. There will be no more concerts or large family gatherings.

Zoom will replace birthday parties and weddings.

We all need to make sacrifices to keep people safe.

Boxesandbiros · 21/12/2020 20:47

At what cost?
What sort of life is this?!
I am ECV - I don’t want this life. Some weird half life where everything normal is restricted and I can’t see people I love. Where is the joy in that life?

Boxesandbiros · 21/12/2020 20:48

I’m going to have to stop reading because your posts are making feel like there is no point and I feel pretty awful for my children to be honest.

AdoretheBeach · 21/12/2020 20:52

I get you op. It’s these selfish people who continue to not take things seriously, flout the rules, bend them “just this once”, and in goes the pandemic. I wonder how many who have caught the virus and died thought it was ok to ignore the rules as they felt they don’t apply to them. Of course, with no one calling them out on it either, because her, it’s not your business . Then passing in to others too who were trying to be careful

Yes, it’s all our business because people keep spreading the virus!!

Thelikelylass · 21/12/2020 20:53

I can't get worked up about this but I did tell a friend she is an idiot earlier - she and her husband are having his parents over to stay from tomorrow until after Christmas (they have kids.) It's not so much that but the lengths they are going to so that no one sees in their road sees them. The PIL are driving from tier 3 to Tier 4 and this is what they are doing:
parking their car in another street - all gifts and presents to be picked up by Son so no one sees them going in
the MIL is going to walk up the road and run into the house wearing a hat and dark clothes
the FIL is going to dress like he is a delivery man and knock on the door and run in

and..they cannot leave the house during their time there

my friend think it is the funniest thing ever but her husband is stressing and making it like it is a major hush-hush military campaign. The effort isn't worth it.

Sunshinelove8 · 21/12/2020 20:56

@LJC1234 France aren’t exactly doing great either - 40 plus deaths per 100k compared to 60 odd deaths per 100k for U.K. and macron had it too - mingling at Brussels .
We should have done all of this you listed out immediately when the first cases occurred. It was the inaction and then extremely slow action by the U.K. when other countries were examples of what to do / not do that’s caused this issue.
Now it’s the sticky plaster and the Hokey Cokey of what’s actively encouraged and allowed and then suddenly not allowed - it’s becoming farcical.
May be the plan is to push us all to the brink - where neighbours turn on neighbours and we turn to the lovely barely tested vaccines

Pinotwoman82 · 21/12/2020 20:58

What the hell is wrong with you people? You have no fucking idea. They probably have her so she doesn’t kill herself, would that be ok? Do you really want that ! Get a grip you are not children apply some sense

Camphillgirl · 21/12/2020 21:04

Cummings gave us the green light months ago to behave how we wished and everybody else could F.Off. If the government doesn’t set a good example what do we expect.

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