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Another “angry with the neighbours for flouting the rules” thread

131 replies

MrsExpo · 21/12/2020 18:25

My neighbours are both police officers - the husband is quite senior in rank. We are in Tier 3. This afternoon, their DD has arrived for christmas, clearly intending to stay for a while. She lives and works in central London, where she lives with a long term partner (he hasn’t come, as far as I know)...... What the hell is the point of having rules? Speechless really ..... Angry

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Jrobhatch29 · 21/12/2020 18:44

Oh please stop. Things are shit enough without people whinging about their neighbours when you have no idea of their circumstances.

Watermelon888 · 21/12/2020 18:45

@MrsExpo I know of a few as well who have travelled home in similar circumstances. I wonder if the people who they’re staying with fully understand the possible repercussions?

On the local news it is advising those who have travelled from a tier 4 area to isolate for 10 days. I just hope they at least do this....

IcedPurple · 21/12/2020 18:45

@OverTheRainbow88

Or maybe they are just ignoring the rules (that they are handing out fines for themselves) and being selfish with no mitigating good reasons, as are most the people I know
Maybe they are.

But since there's precisely nothing the (disappeared) OP can do about it, perhaps she should back slowly away from the net curtains and focus on her own affairs.

LadyLazaruss · 21/12/2020 18:46

Get back from behind your curtain.

BethlehemIsInTier1 · 21/12/2020 18:46

And? Mind your own business ffs Hmm

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 21/12/2020 18:47

I wish people would mind their own business. All this snooping, curtain twitching, snitching is just awful. People are trying to do their best in difficult circumstances. Give it a rest OP.

Raiseny · 21/12/2020 18:50

OP you have no idea what’s going on in someone’s life. Give yourself a shake. You sound cruel, cold and self obsessed. Maybe you find it easier to stay ‘within the rules’ - what if one of them is seriously ill? What if their daughter has just broken up with her partner or has depression?

People like you honestly make me despair. I bet you are all for the ‘be kind’ bollocks too, without practising it. Sorry to sound harsh but really, if you’re so worried then don’t go anywhere near them. It’s quite simple for you. In the meantime, please try and open your mind.

Whatwouldscullydo · 21/12/2020 18:51

You have no idea what's happened to either then or their dd. I know things are shit right now but it's not gonna get any better stood by thr bloody window nosing

You do what you are need to do and let them do what they need to do.

Heatherjayne1972 · 21/12/2020 18:51

How do people know or care what the neighbours are up to ?- or not
I couldn’t care less

Let them be

Goawayquickly · 21/12/2020 18:52

If the daughter has come without her ling term partner that suggests there may be a relationship issue and she needed to come home.

Chloemol · 21/12/2020 18:55

Don’t worry op, all these people saying mind your own business will be changing their minds when we go into full on lockdown pm schools closed etc

MynephewR · 21/12/2020 18:57

Get a hobby and MYOB

Orangeblossom77777 · 21/12/2020 18:59

This is so horrible for people's mental health

I have a relative who is terminally ill and has chosen to spend Christmas with us. Would you judge that as well?

Others have made different decisions and that is up to them. I won't judge them not seeing their relatives in the same position.

TheOtherMaryBerry · 21/12/2020 19:00

Moral? It's none of your business why they are breaking the rules, as you don't know their situation, nor are you entitled to know. We all need to step back, look at what this pandemic has turned us into, and stop being curtain twitching, judgemental, angry people, and give people some leeway in this really hard time. We dont know what people are going through.

👏👏👏
Absolutely this.

starfish4 · 21/12/2020 19:00

I know it's so hard at the moment, I'm struggling myself but people twisting the the restrictions really isn't helping with case numbers. We're not exempt from numbers going back up here, but people in my borough seem to be very careful, live well within and I really don't know anyone breaking the rules and I know a fair few.

INeedNewShoes · 21/12/2020 19:06

People may well be thinking the same about DD and I. We turned up at a relative’s house early hours of Sunday morning.

The neighbours may well be feeling indignant.

What you can’t tell when you peer out of the window is that we isolated for 10 days ahead of travelling and there are also rules around caring and respite which means that what we are doing is allowed.

I won’t be surprised if someone reports us though as MN shows just how short-sighted many people are.

Desperado40 · 21/12/2020 19:08

Is the fact that they are police officers has nothing to do with OP’s post? I don’t think it would be as hurtful/annoying if they were not? I thought they were supposed to be leading by example, they are bloody police officers ffs?! One rule for them, one rule for us.

Or maybe we should just interpret the rules as we see fit.

Sunshinelove8 · 21/12/2020 19:12

This sounds like the book 1984 ! Mind your own business op . The rules have been insane for months - I can go to an indoor concert with 1000 strangers but can’t see a couple of friends or family. Telling us to go and eat out and go back to work and a month later we go back into lockdown . Who makes these rules - do you feel confident in their judgement so far?
I’m sure all of us are being as sensible as possible , wearing masks , sanitising hands , limiting contact as much as possible. It’s extremely stressful. We certainly don’t need neighbours spying on us on top! It’s creepy and unnecessary.

Jrobhatch29 · 21/12/2020 19:13

@Desperado40

Is the fact that they are police officers has nothing to do with OP’s post? I don’t think it would be as hurtful/annoying if they were not? I thought they were supposed to be leading by example, they are bloody police officers ffs?! One rule for them, one rule for us.

Or maybe we should just interpret the rules as we see fit.

Like others have said, you have no idea of their circumstances. My friends parents lives opposite me. Her and her kids have been staying there for last few nights. To other neighbours it probably looks like they are breaking rules, but as she's my friend I know her that DH has had a breakdown and left her! You have no idea what's going on in people's lives
Desperado40 · 21/12/2020 19:22

@OverTheRainbow88 This 👏👏

Desperado40 · 21/12/2020 19:24

@OverTheRainbow88

Or maybe they are just ignoring the rules (that they are handing out fines for themselves) and being selfish with no mitigating good reasons, as are most the people I know
I could not agree more.
MessAllOver · 21/12/2020 19:24

Why do people start these threads? Do they enjoy frothing at the mouth in righteous indignation?

OP, are you looking for validation or condemnation?

LadyLazaruss · 21/12/2020 19:27

@Chloemol

Don’t worry op, all these people saying mind your own business will be changing their minds when we go into full on lockdown pm schools closed etc
Nope
Wherediditgo · 21/12/2020 19:29

@MummaBear4321

My elderly next door neighbours have had people over nearly every day for the whole of the year, though every lockdown. To anyone who doesnt know them well, you would be furious. We are all sitting in, not seeing anyone, so save elderly, vulnerable people just like them, and here they are having family in every day.

But then you get to know them, and you realise she has dementia, and screams for him every 15 minutes, even at 2am, and he struggles to climb the stairs, let alone look after them both.

Moral? It's none of your business why they are breaking the rules, as you don't know their situation, nor are you entitled to know. We all need to step back, look at what this pandemic has turned us into, and stop being curtain twitching, judgemental, angry people, and give people some leeway in this really hard time. We dont know what people are going through.

100% this
ZaZathecat · 21/12/2020 19:29

For all you know she may have been self isolating for 2 weeks before coming home to parents for Xmas.
Save your anger for people who actually deserve it.