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I’ve ruined Christmas for my daughter

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Ronamoaner2021 · 21/12/2020 15:40

So my daughter travelled to London to see her dad prior to this tier 4, mutant strain etc. She usually goes down after Christmas. I drove her to her dads. Tier 4 was then announced, and I’ve just got a positive Covid test. Her dad doesn’t want to a) leave to travel to my tier 3 area b) bring her to potentially catch I from me.

I understand this but I am so upset, she’s never spent Christmas away from me, she really wants to come home. I’ve been in tears thinking ive ruined her Christmas. I know bigger things are going on. But I’m going to be all alone without my baby for the first time

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bananaskinsnomnom · 21/12/2020 18:32

I’m sorry OP.

As others have said, I think the best solution here is to do second Christmas once she’s home. If you can’t get an online order, can a friend but for you?
Get the Christmas food and treats again, get some games / films etc sorted. Maybe a few extra pressies, a few extra things to unwrap and repeat the day. I’m sure she won’t say no to an extra Christmas!

Butterfly3105 · 21/12/2020 18:42

@Ronamoaner2021 I know it's hard but you need to stop worrying and stop being so hard on yourself, your daughter is happy and safe and that's what's most important also you've ordered everything she needs and have facetime to stay involved so utilise that!

mooncakes · 21/12/2020 18:43

@Chocolate1992

I’d still go and get her. Fully expect to be told I’m a murderer by the MN sheep

Don’t believe you. No one would purposely infect their kid with covid just before Christmas

ConfusedcomMum · 21/12/2020 18:52

OP believe me it's much easier recovering from Covid when you don't have kids to deal with. Even if you don't feel ill, It can really exhaust you as the days wear on and very hard to nurse/ monitor others at the same time. She's in the best place right now and you can have some much needed rest. Some of the Long Covid sufferers had only a mild reaction to the virus initially and they will tell you how important it is to rest the first time to allow yourself to recover properly. Yes it will be a different Christmas for your DD but maybe it'll be a really memorable for her.

KarmaNoMore · 21/12/2020 18:58

Honestly OP, it’s horrible, sad and unfortunate that you can’t do much about it but it is the right decision if you have Covid.

The way not to ruin Christmas for her is to be cheerful and pretend you are ok (you know you won’t but focus on DD). If she is convinced you are fine she will not suffer your absence that badly.

Delatron · 21/12/2020 19:07

Are we not missing the obvious here? That the child may be asymptomatic. Where do you think you picked it up OP? Why don’t we think the daughter is a close contact and therefore doesn’t have it?

Dad is only recently in her life... not sure this is as straight forward as everyone in making out...

KarmaNoMore · 21/12/2020 19:21

DD may be asymptomatic or perfectly healthy. Mum is not and, if she is unwell, she would be much better of fending the illness while someone else ensures DD is fed and well cared for.

FairyontopofthetreeBatman · 21/12/2020 19:23

It’s funny how things work out sometimes. She is with her Dad at the exact time that you may get ill and need support with looking after her.

So long as you are sure she will be looked after then you can put on a cheerful face and be pleased that she won’t catch it from you.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I get how shitty it is that it’s fallen over Christmas, but if you were going to get Covid maybe it’s good that it’s worked out this way.

Marleymoo42 · 21/12/2020 19:23

If you come out of isolation 31st could you do a special new years eve ? Draw a line under 2020 and start some new traditions. 10 is a good age to get input from her about how to celebrate. I feel for you though. No one could have predicted this. It is not your fault.

Nameandgamechange123 · 21/12/2020 19:44

I think this is a blessing. She will get a reduced chance of catching it from you, you can rest and recover, you can celebrate when she gets back. Like you said, she's 10 and understands it. Just try to relax and get well!

Delatron · 21/12/2020 19:56

The OP has said the father is only just recently in her life?

Jenasaurus · 21/12/2020 20:09

Is there a chance your DD could be asymptomatic, just wondering if she is staying with your Ex's DM whether her nan could be at risk too. Depends where you picked it up.

GabsAlot · 21/12/2020 20:25

you cant travel to get her and you shouldnt you dont want her to get covid do you

LimitIsUp · 21/12/2020 22:02

Not allowed out of isolation until the 31st - are you sure, it's 10 days from the onset of symptoms not from the positive test
My dd tested positive on Saturday 19 Dec but symptoms started last Thursday (17 Dec). NHS told her that her last day of isolation is Saturday 26 Dec

NeverForgetYourDreams · 21/12/2020 22:17

I once spent the whole of Christmas in bed with awful flu when DS was 6. I missed the lot. She will get over it

middleager · 21/12/2020 22:22

OP, you will have been told by test and trace/NHS what date both you and your daughter need to isolate until.

When we had Covid in the house, I received a letter, texts and daily calls for both me (the contact) and my son (the positive case) it is very clear and often repetitive in terms of reminding you about dates.

LimitIsUp · 21/12/2020 22:43

Exactly
It's

lemonsquashie · 22/12/2020 16:17

So sorry, this is crap

Postpone your Xmas until next week . It's going
To be a loooooong January

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