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I'm fucking done

681 replies

Twizbe · 19/12/2020 16:20

I'm done. We've been isolating ready to see my parents and now we can't.

This is the third time now we've had to cancel plans last min and I'm sick of it! Totally sick of it!

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RealityNotEssentialism · 19/12/2020 16:58

@TunMahla

Let's be logical here. The rules are for the sake of stopping Covid not for their own sake. If you have isolated for 10-14 days to see your family for Christmas, do this, you don't pose any risk in terms of passing the thing on. That is what I plan to do.
Yes, this is very true. If you know you don’t have it due to having isolated then you will not be risking anyone’s health by meeting family who have also been isolating
VulvaPerson · 19/12/2020 16:58

@lockeddownandcrazy

Being 'OK on Christmas day' isnt much consolation to those who are Care/Emergency Workers and are working on Christmas day so have to have their Christmas celebration on another date. this is now penalising them even further for keeping going over Christmas.
That was my first thought too.

Have already seen many on my friends list saying they are not changing the plans they made under previous assurances that we could mix as long as isolating beforehand. Not many seem to have been meeting parents on xmas day, but boxing day, which is what we usually do also.

TheKeatingFive · 19/12/2020 16:59

We’ll remember this as the point where public goodwill was pissed away completely. Compliance is a scare resource and it’s pretty well depleted now.

renallychallenged · 19/12/2020 16:59

@lockeddownandcrazy

Being 'OK on Christmas day' isnt much consolation to those who are Care/Emergency Workers and are working on Christmas day so have to have their Christmas celebration on another date. this is now penalising them even further for keeping going over Christmas.
I would question the wisdom of those in such high risks jobs mixing at all really.
tappitytaptap · 19/12/2020 16:59

Will be continuing with plans. I’m done. Covid is not the be all and end all of life.

chocaholic73 · 19/12/2020 17:00

So ...let's get this right - it's more important to have a nice Christmas with your extended families than keep everyone safe - even if it means there is a serious risk that someone could become very ill or worse. I really don't understand the logic. It is a date on the calendar - the virus isn't going on holiday. I really dislike Boris and the government but when he announced the measures, I felt so relieved. It is the only sensible option given the statistics.

Username198 · 19/12/2020 17:00

I’m done too. If this is what living is then I don’t want to be alive

PeppaPigMakesMeGrrrrr · 19/12/2020 17:01

Urgh. This is why this shit is going on so long. Too many people thinking 'fuck it, I'll do what I want'. Selfish gits.

midgebabe · 19/12/2020 17:02

@tappitytaptap

Will be continuing with plans. I’m done. Covid is not the be all and end all of life.
Hope you Don't also winge when things get worse

When services are disrupted, when you detect a lump and can't get it investigated, when you lose your Job as more things are forced to shut for much longer and the economy gets hit even worse, when someone you love dies or gets long covid,

Backwardsuptheescalator · 19/12/2020 17:02

I’m done with so many people saying just fuck it and go ahead. It’s disappointing but it needs to be done. It’s just a shame we weren’t told all this earlier in the week. I live alone. My family are abroad or in tier 4 area and I’m fucked off and miserable. But I still think we need to do as we are asked,

RealityNotEssentialism · 19/12/2020 17:02

@chocaholic73

So ...let's get this right - it's more important to have a nice Christmas with your extended families than keep everyone safe - even if it means there is a serious risk that someone could become very ill or worse. I really don't understand the logic. It is a date on the calendar - the virus isn't going on holiday. I really dislike Boris and the government but when he announced the measures, I felt so relieved. It is the only sensible option given the statistics.
Lockdowns don’t keep everyone safe. We’ve had a lockdown for a month recently and it’s done nothing to stop the spread. The fact that you can still go to church with a load of strangers or travel for business shows that it’s not even necessary anyway.
perditaplum · 19/12/2020 17:03

Great thread, now we'll know who to blame when it's even worse after xmas.

Heyahun · 19/12/2020 17:03

Boo fucking hoo 🙄

TheGremlinsAreComing · 19/12/2020 17:04

@myneighboursarerude

Selfish and irresponsible. The rules are clear.

That’s three households though. That’s within the rules.

What difference does the extra few days make? Is her daughter less contagious on Christmas Day? It’s a fucking farce.

Thank you. I'm a single adult household, DD1 and I are a bubble. DC of separated parents are still allowed to see the absent parent and have been throughout the whole pandemic. Nothing about our arrangement goes against anything.
Teddybear27 · 19/12/2020 17:04

I understand that people are devastated not to be spending it with family, I think people who are saying stuff it are being incredibly selfish and this is why we have this problem.
The PM said there is a new strain of the virus which is more prevalent. I haven’t really seen anyone for a while now. I live with my husband and we have just cancelled everything. A pain but just NOT worth it but if people want to be extremely selfish that is up to them of course.

HedgieHog · 19/12/2020 17:04

This is terrible news for everyone but if people don’t follow the rules it’s not going away and now it’s mutating
It was fun and games 2 weeks ago when Oxford street was packed, videos of people singing and dancing in the street with arms round each other. Now look what’s happened.
The north’s been locked down for months yet precious London got tier 2 with similar rates and fucked it for everyone.
Other countries have had full lockdowns where people can’t even leave their home, imagine the comments if they tried that here?

RealityNotEssentialism · 19/12/2020 17:04

@perditaplum

Great thread, now we'll know who to blame when it's even worse after xmas.
The Tory government that underfunded the NHS for years?
percheron67 · 19/12/2020 17:05

I imagine everyone is sick of it. However, what else can Boris do? He didn't cause Covid but has to try and control the spread for the good of ALL. We all knew this was on the cards in order to try and gain some control over the virus.

BigGreen · 19/12/2020 17:05

@chocaholic73

So ...let's get this right - it's more important to have a nice Christmas with your extended families than keep everyone safe - even if it means there is a serious risk that someone could become very ill or worse. I really don't understand the logic. It is a date on the calendar - the virus isn't going on holiday. I really dislike Boris and the government but when he announced the measures, I felt so relieved. It is the only sensible option given the statistics.
No, we already avoided travel to high risk relatives. We were just hoping to be 6 in the park with the kids' friends from school and their parents (the kids are already in a school support bubble). Utterly amazed that this is no longer allowed.
Thewinterofdiscontent · 19/12/2020 17:06

We aren’t a police state.

They’ve told you what you need to do. You won’t be shot or exiled if you break the rules. You are allowed Christmas Day to mix or if you really need to ( isolated).

Slightly worried that some people need to be shot or exiled before the general population think the government is being “ tough” but there you go.

Winter2020 · 19/12/2020 17:06

Ted27
“Christmas day only isnt much help if your family live 150 miles away and you don’t have transport

Apart from a few days in the summer, I’ve been on my own with a 16 year old autistic teenager since March

Exactly one year today since we have seen most of our family.”

I’d like people to follow the rules as far as possible to keep people safe but you have always been allowed a support bubble if you are living alone with an under 18 - you should go and see your family for as long as you need.

SantaClausComingToTown · 19/12/2020 17:06

@chocaholic73

So ...let's get this right - it's more important to have a nice Christmas with your extended families than keep everyone safe - even if it means there is a serious risk that someone could become very ill or worse. I really don't understand the logic. It is a date on the calendar - the virus isn't going on holiday. I really dislike Boris and the government but when he announced the measures, I felt so relieved. It is the only sensible option given the statistics.

If there is a high risk of your family member becoming ill they you wouldn't see them. There are a lot of family's who have no health issues and have been planning to see them over Christmas since Boris made the announcement. Do you know the survival rate? Myself and my family are prepared to take the risk...

yawnsvillex · 19/12/2020 17:06

Just go! I'm not changing my plans

3littlewords · 19/12/2020 17:07

@OohImBlindedByTheLights

To quote the title of this thread, I'm fucking done with folk not following the restrictions in place. Yes it's shit, yes it's bad timing, but how would you feel if someone in your family died because you passed on covid over Christmas dinner? What's more important, Christmas dinner or your families health?
To be honest I think people are "fucking done " with it because they HAVE been following the restrictions that are in place and seeing other people at Christmas was a kind of incentive to keep going with the restrictions knowing that there would be a temporary respite from it all. The people who aren't following guidelines won't be phased by this announcement at all and will continue to do what they please as they have been doing all along
TheKeatingFive · 19/12/2020 17:07

This is terrible news for everyone but if people don’t follow the rules it’s not going away and now it’s mutating

It’s not going away regardless of what people do. Keeping them away from their close family for months on end is no kind of answer.

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