Page 8 | Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

DonnaScozzese · 14/12/2020 20:34

@Bluegreen70

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.

At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

I have a DD13. She has isolated as have many of her friends. So has her big brother. No-one I know has done this to their child, including my friend who is a consultant doctor working with COVID patients. No-one has gone on to get COVID either. You're wrong.

DonnaScozzese · 14/12/2020 20:37

@Bluegreen70

Lol if you actually think many parents are doing that to their primary school aged kids

I KNOW it is happening to many primary school kids. If it is necessary, then it is necessary. It depends on the medical staus of the rest of the household.

This thread is the only place I have seen any pearl clutching or winging about this.

Not one single child I know has complained. They understand, and parents make it as good an experience as possible.

Children can and are coping by the thousand.

Isolating a child to their room with no human contact for 2 weeks will never, ever be a good experience. It is obscene.

Vargas · 14/12/2020 20:37

I thought the name looked familiar. I reported bluegreen70 today for a vicious post about someone on another thread, I can't remember the exact words (MN removed the post) but bluegreen70 was basically questioning whether someone who was struggling with mental health during Covid was 'really a human being' when they admitted to not completely following all the rules. If he/she is really a teacher I hope they never go near any of my kids. FFS

Theotherrudolph · 14/12/2020 20:38

Almost literally over my dead body would my primary aged children be isolated in their rooms, positive, symptomatic or just a contact. They’d be absolutely hysterical within the hour and my child with ASD very probably traumatised for life. If it’s possible for an older teen then great, but I’m still helping hair wash and having them crawl into my bed here. It’s absolutely abusive and if I knew someone doing it I’d phone social services. Guidance says to isolate within the household where possible- it is just not possible with primary age children. “It’s a pandemic” is not an excuse for abandoning basic standards of parenting.

Fudgefeet · 14/12/2020 20:41

Wow! Some people are really losing the plot!
We are going to be dealing with some serious mental health issues over the next few years when this passes.

madmarchmare · 14/12/2020 20:42

This is fucking horrific. We do not treat prisoners like this. There are going to be some seriously fucked up kids when this is over.

WillSantaBeComingToTown · 14/12/2020 20:42

@Bluegreen70

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.

At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

Who is the we?

That is not the guidance.

If they have symptoms or test positive then yes but not if just sent home as been in close contact.

saraclara · 14/12/2020 20:43

@Bluegreen70 you are entirely wrong. If someone actually tests positive or has distinct Covid symptoms, they should avoid other family members where possible. But those self-isolating because they've been in contact with someone who has it DO NOT need to do this. They need to remain at home, but they do not need to avoid the rest of the family unless they themselves develop symptoms.

I'm horrified that you have been giving parents the entirely wrong (and very cruel) advice.

NotAKaren · 14/12/2020 20:43

Really unnecessarily and over the top. My DD has had two periods of isolating due to close contacts. I admit that I was more rigorous with cleaning and being more careful with contacts as a family just in case but my no way would I force her to spend 14 days (the requirement at the time) in her bedroom. Far more likely that she would be impacted mentally than actually develop Covid, which she didn't on either occasion.

saraclara · 14/12/2020 20:44

“It’s a pandemic” is not an excuse for abandoning basic standards of parenting.

Absolutely that.

WillSantaBeComingToTown · 14/12/2020 20:44

@MacDuffsMuff

I teach in London, and it certainly is the norm.

@Bluegreen70 Where on earth do you teach in London? I also teach in London, as does DH and many of our friends and it is absolutely NOT the norm. Why are you passing on such misinformation?

In a made up school that doesn't have any real children

sadly some people have mental health issues and CV19 has brought out the worst of the covid pretenders.

Vintagevixen · 14/12/2020 20:46

God I would never do this.

My 12 year old DD is in year 8 and they have all been sent home to self isolate because of one positive test. She is just living normally in the house. It's her home, her lovely , safe home not a prison.

Couldn't give a stuff if she gives it to me, she is a child.

World really is going crazy isolating children in their room for ten days over a virus with an IFR of 0.3 - 0.6%.

Heartlantern2 · 14/12/2020 20:47

She doesn’t need to isolate from her family- just can’t go outside, however everyone else in the house can, as she hasn’t tested positive.

Fudgefeet · 14/12/2020 20:48

I honestly can’t believe what I’m reading here, it’s inhumane!

Willow2017 · 14/12/2020 20:48

Bluegreen70

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.
At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

Wow what utter tosh. Basically locking a child in thier room for nearly 2 weeks without human contact is completely unnecessary and in any other context would be regarded as abusive. WTAF has happened to society where this is seen as ok?

With an attitude like that no way on earth should you be in a job anywhere near kids.

caringcarer · 14/12/2020 20:48

I felt awful but had to do the same to 14 year old ds as dh is CEV and shielding. If he got Covid 19 he has a high chance of dying. Ds was ok with it as knows his Dad could die if he catches it. Son had online learning in mornings so was ok to do that in his room then he had lunch and after lunch each day I did a Teams chat with him from downstairs. Luckily he has his own bathroom so could shower and use loo when he wished. He has a TV in his room with Netflix and he could Teams chat with his friends. He also has lots of books. Another of his friends was having to do the same. I felt really bad leaving his meals outside his room and disinfecting his dishes in bleach before dishwashing them. I did let him go into garden for an hour each day by wearing a mask and plastic gloves to walk through lounge. I can't wait for dh to have vaccine. Sometimes you do what you have to do. Not a good situation

Notthe9oclocknewsathon · 14/12/2020 20:48

Madness! Even for a positive test unless someone in my household was vulnerable I wouldn’t isolate one person from the rest since you’re most contagious before you realise, so very likely to have passed it on already. If you’re all isolating together it makes it better for their wellbeing and no more risk to anyone else outside the household.

Teddybelle · 14/12/2020 20:49

My daughter was told to isolate after the girl next to her at school tested positive. We certainly didn’t shut her up in her room, would have been a nightmare for a day let alone 14 days! We were all fine in the end...

PurplePanda7 · 14/12/2020 20:49

@novaparty12

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

A child is being kept as a prisoner because her mum is paranoid. That’s horrific. I would go insane if I couldn’t leave my room. Could someone temporarily look after this child? She hasn’t got the bubonic plague or TB :(

Notthe9oclocknewsathon · 14/12/2020 20:49

@caringcarer

I felt awful but had to do the same to 14 year old ds as dh is CEV and shielding. If he got Covid 19 he has a high chance of dying. Ds was ok with it as knows his Dad could die if he catches it. Son had online learning in mornings so was ok to do that in his room then he had lunch and after lunch each day I did a Teams chat with him from downstairs. Luckily he has his own bathroom so could shower and use loo when he wished. He has a TV in his room with Netflix and he could Teams chat with his friends. He also has lots of books. Another of his friends was having to do the same. I felt really bad leaving his meals outside his room and disinfecting his dishes in bleach before dishwashing them. I did let him go into garden for an hour each day by wearing a mask and plastic gloves to walk through lounge. I can't wait for dh to have vaccine. Sometimes you do what you have to do. Not a good situation

Totally understand in your circumstances.

yahyahs22 · 14/12/2020 20:49

Can't she take a test?? If its negative this is so unnecessary

1990shopefulftm · 14/12/2020 20:50

I didn't leave my room except for quick trip to the toilet for 6 days at that age when I got swine flu. My sister was a few weeks old so my mum was terrified of her getting it and just left food outside my door for that time but I was fine so some children that age would be doing it and I wouldn't see it as abusive just that the family could be scared of what effects it could have if other people in the house got it.

However I m not autistic, although my sister is so given that perhaps depending on their child's need it isn't the best thing to have done.

Notthe9oclocknewsathon · 14/12/2020 20:51

@Bluegreen70 I would imagine primary aged children are coping because their parents are rightly paying absolutely no heed to this totally bananas advice.

SueEllenMishke · 14/12/2020 20:52

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.

At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

It really isn't normal. I don't know a single family that have done this. If someone ( particularly a child) has been told to isolate they have lived normally within the house.

Locking a child in their room is child abuse. COVID or no COVID.

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 20:52

@yahyahs22

Can't she take a test?? If its negative this is so unnecessary

No, because a) she doesn't have symptoms and b) she's been exposed and can test positive at any point in the ten days after being exposed