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Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

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novaparty12 · 14/12/2020 18:43

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

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cctvrec · 15/12/2020 10:37

My 10 (well, now 11) year old is doing it for the same reason and is just fine. She even had her birthday in there. It's either that or she infects the family. Not do it would mean a 14 day quarantine (now reduced to 10 days) could potentially go on for well over a month with each family member getting infected one by one and continually restarting the isolation clock. It's shit but we all should be doing it.

Two or three times a day her bedroom window is opened wide along with the bathroom window and the 2 doors left open to create a wind tunnel to clear the room and we can have a quick chat in person with masks on (from another room though). It may be extreme but we all got tested yesterday and in all that time in our tiny flat she has been able to not infect any other member of the house.

Needs must. She gets that. She has an iPad, kindle, a game console, her mobile, snacks and anything else she needs and she simply stays in what was her brother's bedroom.

Bollss · 15/12/2020 10:38

You isolated your daughter on her birthday? Does she actually have it or is her class isolating?

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 10:40

@OliveTree75

There's some utter bullshit on this thread. If this is how people are reacting to their child being a close contact I would hate to see how they would respond if they actually tested positive!!! Children of any age should not be confined to their rooms alone, and before covid we would have all said this is cruel!
Exactly.

People are off their heads.

cctvrec · 15/12/2020 10:40

Just to add, DD isolated like this from the day she was sent home from school after her classmates was found to be infected. DD wasn't tested positive until 5 days later even though she had no symptoms. Just goes to show how easily we could have taken this lightly and ended up infected without any warning.

Helmetbymidnight · 15/12/2020 10:40

That you're patronising and judgemental. You obviously look down on people based on pretty much nothing. Horrible.

I don't think I'm patronising. Judgemental? - yeah, i do look down on people who use phrases like 'brainwashed by the MSM' or who call people 'bed-wetters' or 'sheeple', its true.

Bollss · 15/12/2020 10:41

@Helmetbymidnight

That you're patronising and judgemental. You obviously look down on people based on pretty much nothing. Horrible.

I don't think I'm patronising. Judgemental? - yeah, i do look down on people who use phrases like 'brainwashed by the MSM' or who call people 'bed-wetters' or 'sheeple', its true.

You are boring patronising. I judge people who unnecessarily lock their children up, and I judge those who defend it.
Ladyellow · 15/12/2020 10:42

@SpnBaby1967 you make a good point, there are some massive assumptions here on this thread. 1000’s of children don’t have their own devices/ access to internet in their rooms/ more than 1 TV in the house, or even space to play in their Ron. Lots of families would struggle with heating more than one room in the house!

DreadingSeason2020sFinale · 15/12/2020 10:43

@TrustTheGeneGenie

You isolated your daughter on her birthday? Does she actually have it or is her class isolating?
Yes initially. But then she tested positive when we got her an asymptomatic test (scheme running in our area) to reassure her she was fine and we could relax a bit. The test did not reassure her I'm afraid but it probably did save her dad and grandma who both wouldn't fare well with Covid. I lost my dad last month and losing my mum or husband too?
TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 10:44

People are off their heads.

We’re going to look back on this kind of hysteria with such shame. The sacrifices adults are asking of little children so that they can maintain this illusion of keeping ‘safe’ from a virus are verging on sickening.

DreadingSeason2020sFinale · 15/12/2020 10:45

Oops, forgot I just quickly name changed for another thread. But yes, we isolated our daughter on her birthday. We all stood away from her bedroom door and watched her open her gifts.

Bollss · 15/12/2020 10:46

@DreadingSeason2020sFinale

Oops, forgot I just quickly name changed for another thread. But yes, we isolated our daughter on her birthday. We all stood away from her bedroom door and watched her open her gifts.
That's so sad. I think I would ask the vulnerable adult to isolate over a young child on their birthday.
TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 10:46

But yes, we isolated our daughter on her birthday. We all stood away from her bedroom door and watched her open her gifts.

Fucking hell, I’ve heard it all now. 🤦‍♀️

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 10:46

@TheKeatingFive

People are off their heads.

We’re going to look back on this kind of hysteria with such shame. The sacrifices adults are asking of little children so that they can maintain this illusion of keeping ‘safe’ from a virus are verging on sickening.

I totally agree

People who think it’s OK to potentially repeatedly lock away healthy people for weeks to avoid them spreading a virus they probably don’t even have and even if they did probably won’t cause anywhere near the problems people fear should be ashamed of themselves. People’s attitude to risk has totally gone out the window.

MessAllOver · 15/12/2020 10:46

@DreadingSeason2020sFinale. And after watching her open her gifts, you closed the door on her?

DameFanny · 15/12/2020 10:47

Not naive, possibly more pragmatic than you. And how many people have rooms big enough for 2m distance?

TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 10:47

People who think it’s OK to potentially repeatedly lock away healthy people for weeks to avoid them spreading a virus they probably don’t even have and even if they did probably won’t cause anywhere near the problems people fear should be ashamed of themselves. People’s attitude to risk has totally gone out the window.

It’s actually frightening.

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 10:47

@DreadingSeason2020sFinale

Oops, forgot I just quickly name changed for another thread. But yes, we isolated our daughter on her birthday. We all stood away from her bedroom door and watched her open her gifts.
Jesus

What have we done to people that we think this is an OK way to treat a child?

Bollss · 15/12/2020 10:48

@DameFanny

Not naive, possibly more pragmatic than you. And how many people have rooms big enough for 2m distance?
I don't think pragmatic. Maybe paranoid.

I live in a small 3 bed semi and in the kitchen and living room you could do 2m which are the only places you'd really need to do it.

But tbh I wouldn't distance from my own child because I think it is damaging.

Holyrivolli · 15/12/2020 10:49

@TheKeatingFive

People are off their heads.

We’re going to look back on this kind of hysteria with such shame. The sacrifices adults are asking of little children so that they can maintain this illusion of keeping ‘safe’ from a virus are verging on sickening.

It’s really quite scary how much some adults are embracing this and are revelling in making others lives miserable. It’s making me actually less keen to stick to the rules and I’m certainly not going to expect my children to suffer unduly hardship like being isolated in their birthday or locked in their room for 2 weeks to keep these adults “safe”.
MistletoeandGin · 15/12/2020 10:49

@cctvrec

My 10 (well, now 11) year old is doing it for the same reason and is just fine. She even had her birthday in there. It's either that or she infects the family. Not do it would mean a 14 day quarantine (now reduced to 10 days) could potentially go on for well over a month with each family member getting infected one by one and continually restarting the isolation clock. It's shit but we all should be doing it.

Two or three times a day her bedroom window is opened wide along with the bathroom window and the 2 doors left open to create a wind tunnel to clear the room and we can have a quick chat in person with masks on (from another room though). It may be extreme but we all got tested yesterday and in all that time in our tiny flat she has been able to not infect any other member of the house.

Needs must. She gets that. She has an iPad, kindle, a game console, her mobile, snacks and anything else she needs and she simply stays in what was her brother's bedroom.

I have no words.
DameFanny · 15/12/2020 10:53

If I were paranoid I wouldn't be sitting in the garage (masked by an open window) waiting for my MOT - but I'm not a doctor, not an epidemiologist, so I'm quite happy to follow the guidance set by those trained, educated people.

And now I'm going to get some knitting done for Christmas.

SleepyGirly · 15/12/2020 10:54

@DreadingSeason2020sFinale

Oops, forgot I just quickly name changed for another thread. But yes, we isolated our daughter on her birthday. We all stood away from her bedroom door and watched her open her gifts.
That’s horrific. The poor child treated as though she is a leper. She will remember this. Is anyone in your household extremely vulnerable? Do any of you leave for work or school? If you leave the house and have a serious condition like cancer then you could catch the virus in a supermarket. Your child wasn’t coughing all over you. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
Bollss · 15/12/2020 10:54

@DameFanny

If I were paranoid I wouldn't be sitting in the garage (masked by an open window) waiting for my MOT - but I'm not a doctor, not an epidemiologist, so I'm quite happy to follow the guidance set by those trained, educated people.

And now I'm going to get some knitting done for Christmas.

But you're ignoring the advice and implementing stricter measures!
TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2020 10:56

*That’s horrific. The poor child treated as though she is a leper.

The mental health professionals will have their work cut out for them for a looooong time after all this. Sad

bookworm14 · 15/12/2020 10:57

‘Creating a wind tunnel’ to have a masked chat twice a day with your (presumably asymptomatic) 10 year old child.

I feel this should be preserved as some kind of monument to how insane the world has become.

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