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Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

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novaparty12 · 14/12/2020 18:43

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

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PerveenMistry · 15/12/2020 08:22

@Saltn

Both of my teens are self isolating following 'close contact'. They are certainly not self isolating from us. They are not Ill.

Have they been tested? If not, how do you know?

Bollss · 15/12/2020 08:34

So potentially spreading the disease and thus endangering health care providers and fellow citizens, to pacify a needy teen, isn't cold and uncaring?

Potentially spreading a disease it's very likely she doesn't have to healthy adults? No. It's not. Plus you don't have to live with the rest of society. But then if you only value your own child as much as you do strangers then I suppose it's fine.

Remember, kids can and do spread Covid when they themselves display no symptoms

This isn't about not leaving the house, which is fine, this is about being completely isolated alone for 10 days. Not the same.

Explain the concept of "the greater good" and "societal responsibility " to these self-centered youth.

Explain having parents who don't give a shit about your mental health because they're more concerned about the welfare of 86 year old Bob down the road and see what kind of relationship you have in 10 years time.

PerveenMistry · 15/12/2020 08:41

Even if they don't leave the house they can spread to parents and strain the health care system. And parents can spread to others.

If mental health is so feeble it can be devastated by two weeks of boredom, that's another problem.

PerveenMistry · 15/12/2020 08:43

"Explain having parents who don't give a shit about your mental health because they're more concerned about the welfare of 86 year old Bob down the road and see what kind of relationship you have in 10 years time."

Wow, this is appalling. So old Bob can just die so one's spoiled kiddie need not be bored or lonely? Talk about selfish, entitled and sick.

Helmetbymidnight · 15/12/2020 08:45

Brainwashed by the MSM as opposed to someone who gets all their information from Youtube.
Grin

My local website is full of these under-educated posters with very few cognitive skills, who don't understand basic science who think sticking up a FB post from Barry in Blackpool is providing evidence. As far as they're concerned covid is no worse than flu and the only reason cases are rising is testing.

They love blaming the MSM for covid and call everyone sheeple or bedwetters.

frasersmummy · 15/12/2020 08:52

86 year old Bob is not going to be affected if teenager is allowed to sit with family in the living room

So long as they don't leave the house Bob will be just fine

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 08:54

@ssd

Unfortunately it's what she has to do but it feels cruel to do that to a 13 year old Mental health is just as important
No it isn’t. Not where she’s not got the illness and is just isolating as a contact
formerbabe · 15/12/2020 08:54

They need to scare us to get us to comply...it's in their interests to build a narrative that we're all at risk.

Quite honestly, I don't care about random elderly people enough to abuse my DC by placing them into solitary confinement.

Bollss · 15/12/2020 08:54

@PerveenMistry

Even if they don't leave the house they can spread to parents and strain the health care system. And parents can spread to others.

If mental health is so feeble it can be devastated by two weeks of boredom, that's another problem.

But thems the rules so take it up with the government.

It's not two weeks of boredom,, it's total isolation. You know they use it as punishment for criminals right?

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 08:58

@Bluegreen70

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.

At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

Where do people get off making up such rubbish?

What right do you have to “expect” other people to do anything with their children? And who enforcers all this toilet use and cleaning? The toilet police?

Bollss · 15/12/2020 08:58

@Helmetbymidnight

Brainwashed by the MSM as opposed to someone who gets all their information from Youtube. Grin

My local website is full of these under-educated posters with very few cognitive skills, who don't understand basic science who think sticking up a FB post from Barry in Blackpool is providing evidence. As far as they're concerned covid is no worse than flu and the only reason cases are rising is testing.

They love blaming the MSM for covid and call everyone sheeple or bedwetters.

You know all that about a poster by one sentence? That's quite a skill. Again says much more about you.
PerveenMistry · 15/12/2020 08:59

Oh ffs. It's not total isolation if family can stand outside the door or window and chat. Plus phone, FaceTime, internet, gaming, etc.

Bollss · 15/12/2020 09:00

@PerveenMistry

Oh ffs. It's not total isolation if family can stand outside the door or window and chat. Plus phone, FaceTime, internet, gaming, etc.
It is physical isolation. Don't pretend that facetime is the same. It isn't. I think we all know that by now. It's cruel.
IamHyouweegobshite · 15/12/2020 09:04

@PerveenMistry. I work in a primary school, I caught covid, probably from am asymptomatic child. Fortunately none of my children or dh caught it off me. However, I would not isolate children in their rooms. My youngest has asd, my middle has anxiety and my eldest probably wouldn't mind. I tried to isolate myself and all of my family kept popping in to see me.

KenDodd · 15/12/2020 09:04

If only the whole world had taken covid this seriously. We would never of had more than a few hundred cases. But, we are were we are and it almost seems pointless isolating her.
For what it's world, my 13yo would LOVE a week in his bedroom on his tech. A friend of mine's 14yo had covid, they managed to stop the spread to the rest of the family like this.

Helmetbymidnight · 15/12/2020 09:06

You know all that about a poster by one sentence? That's quite a skill. Again says much more about you.

no i said thats what the people i know who use those phrases are like.

tell me, what does it say about me?

Iwonder08 · 15/12/2020 09:07

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SpnBaby1967 · 15/12/2020 09:09

Why do so many posters think kids are chilling in comfy bedrooms armed with heating, televisions, internet and devices?

My son has a box room, just fits a bed in it and his drawers. No tv, he doesnt have a device, we share a laptop and I have my phone (which I use for work). And we are lucky, there are hundreds of families that barely have food on their tables!

Yes, I suppose if your kid is happy chilling in their room there is no harm but dont banish them to their rooms for gods sake.

My kids had noro, I looked after them, I washed them, I hugged them, I cleaned up their vomit, I cuddled them, I kissed them. Dammit, I PARENTED! Still amazed I didnt get poorly too but if I had, so what?

My kids are the most important thing in my life, more important that any other human being I know, and more important than strangers. I will ALWAYS put them, their wellbeing and their mental health above anyone else.

My son has done 2 SI , mid November to early december and now this week. No way in hell I'm banishing him to his box room for a month alone!!

Such cruelty on here. I work as part of my job in child safeguarding. I had a case last year where a child with down syndrome was being shut in her room, we had Social Services sent in and eventually that child was put into Foster care because imprisoning children within their own home is child abuse.

Fuck me! Every time I think this site has shown me the height of cruelty someone comes along and raises the bar.

formerbabe · 15/12/2020 09:09

@KenDodd

If only the whole world had taken covid this seriously. We would never of had more than a few hundred cases. But, we are were we are and it almost seems pointless isolating her. For what it's world, my 13yo would LOVE a week in his bedroom on his tech. A friend of mine's 14yo had covid, they managed to stop the spread to the rest of the family like this.
I don't think it's because the world didn't take it seriously necessarily. The problem with covid is you can have it and be asymptomatic. Ebola never became a global pandemic and I've read that its because if you have it, you become so ill so quickly, you know about it. However, you can have covid and have no idea and be spreading it all over the place.
GabriellaMontez · 15/12/2020 09:12

Isolating healthy children for 2 weeks at a time?

What are these parents going to do if their children actually get ill? Bolt the door and throw some calpol through the window?

KenDodd · 15/12/2020 09:12

Which is exactly why you isolated all contacts, symptoms or no symptoms.

KenDodd · 15/12/2020 09:13

Sorry, that was in response to this -
However, you can have covid and have no idea and be spreading it all over the place.

DecemberStar · 15/12/2020 09:13

@Iwonder08 you don't know the woman, you shouldn't be calling her such horrible names (or anyone that name in fact)

Bollss · 15/12/2020 09:24

@Helmetbymidnight

You know all that about a poster by one sentence? That's quite a skill. Again says much more about you.

no i said thats what the people i know who use those phrases are like.

tell me, what does it say about me?

That you're patronising and judgemental. You obviously look down on people based on pretty much nothing. Horrible.
Autumnismyseason · 15/12/2020 09:28

Intervene, that’s awful! There have been 5 cases in my DDs class so they have all been sent home. My DD is interacting with us as normal in all rooms of the house and garden. Same for all her friends.