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Making isolating 13 yr old not leave her room for 10 days!!

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novaparty12 · 14/12/2020 18:43

My niece is 13 and on Friday she was told to isolate by her school as the girl she sits next to tested positive. She lives in London where transmission is really high. I spoke to MIL today who said that my SIL has told her she is not allowed out of her room apart from going to the toilet or having a shower. All meals are left outside her door for her to collect and my SIL went shopping and spend £50 on snacks and drinks so she doesn't have to leave her room. MIL is really worried about her she keeps phoning her in tears. My SIL is autistic and takes everything very very seriously but surely confining a 13 yr old to her room for 10 days is going a bit far isn't it??

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mamaoffourdc · 14/12/2020 18:44

Yep - awful!!

ssd · 14/12/2020 18:45

Unfortunately it's what she has to do but it feels cruel to do that to a 13 year old
Mental health is just as important

addictedtotheflats · 14/12/2020 18:45

Sounds awful. Surely the virus can be transmitted via the bathroom. I wouldnt dream of making a child a prisoner in their own home

sunlight81 · 14/12/2020 18:45

Very far!! Perhaps an intervention is in order ... I don't blame the poor girl calling her DGM in tears!!

SpnBaby1967 · 14/12/2020 18:46

Good god, that is awful !

Pre-covid we would call that child abuse. Now people are too scared to admit that this is it.

ssd · 14/12/2020 18:46

When dh had covid we all sat in the garden, just to see each other. At a distance of course.

Mousehole10 · 14/12/2020 18:47

No that’s not what she has to do, she’s a close contact, she doesn’t have symptoms. Really cruel and unfair, can you speak to her about it?

ssd · 14/12/2020 18:48

If the girl sat in the living room with them but 2 meters away and with the window open a bit that would be ok, just so she isn't alone.

canigooutyet · 14/12/2020 18:48

Isn't that what you are told to do though? Isolate yourself from others within your own home?

ssd · 14/12/2020 18:49

Sorry didn't read properly, I thought the girl had a positive test.

As a close contact she shouldn't need to be so isolated, just aware of any symptoms.

Bollss · 14/12/2020 18:50

@ssd

Unfortunately it's what she has to do but it feels cruel to do that to a 13 year old Mental health is just as important
It's really not what she has to do.
Diverseduvet · 14/12/2020 18:51

This is unacceptable, please intervene.

formerbabe · 14/12/2020 18:52

That's awful Sad

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 18:52

@ssd

Unfortunately it's what she has to do but it feels cruel to do that to a 13 year old Mental health is just as important
No it bloody isn't!!
SavageBeauty73 · 14/12/2020 18:52

That's insane and cruel. My twins are self isolating and they are just living normally in the house 🤷‍♀️

canigooutyet · 14/12/2020 18:52

And by the time you have symptoms haven't you already entered the contagious bit, hence stay at home and isolate from other members in the house?

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 18:52

@canigooutyet

Isn't that what you are told to do though? Isolate yourself from others within your own home?
No!!
whatsleep · 14/12/2020 18:53

My dd is 16 and would be over the moon with that arrangement! How does your niece feel about it (unsure if it’s the niece or MIL who has been in tears, sorry)

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 18:53

@canigooutyet

And by the time you have symptoms haven't you already entered the contagious bit, hence stay at home and isolate from other members in the house?
She doesn't have symptoms
Jrobhatch29 · 14/12/2020 18:53

It really upsets me when I read stories like this. I cant imagine being alone in a room for 2 weeks as an adult nevermind as a child.

Hayeahnobut · 14/12/2020 18:53

Has anyone spoken to SIL? I'm autistic but wouldn't dream of doing that, nor would anyone else on the spectrum I know. Do they have support from social services?

Smartiepants79 · 14/12/2020 18:54

A family member of ours did the same to their teenage child. We didn’t know until it was over and we aren’t close enough for me to have felt comfortable saying anything but I thought it was unkind and unnecessary.

cuppateabiscuits · 14/12/2020 18:54

@canigooutyet

Isn't that what you are told to do though? Isolate yourself from others within your own home?
No because that is impossible

If would become that household isolating together not only the 13 yr old.

Bluegreen70 · 14/12/2020 18:54

This is completely normal. Children all over the UK are in this situation. Any child sent home to self isolate who has siblings, or vulnerable family members. We expect any children we send home to be confined to their rooms. Toilet use excepted, but the toilet will need to be cleaned very thoroughly after they have used it. If there are two toilets in the house, then one for the isolator, and one for everyone else in the family.

At 13, she just has to suck it up.Primary school children are coping

Northernsoulgirl45 · 14/12/2020 18:55

Yrp dh is ECV and our kids have had periods of self isolation but not banished to room although dd2 barely leaves her room anyway.