Crying at a funeral with a mask on..

[MrsBonnie]

My mum died in a tragic accident last week, aged 49.

Me and my 3 siblings are now trying to plan the funeral amongst all the other things. Whenever I cry I’m an absolute mess, and I imagine the funeral will be even worse. How can I logistically keep the mask on whilst nose running constantly and presumably crying constantly. Won’t it just get soaked? I will need to blow my nose etc.

Sorry if this is a silly question. But has anyone been through it and found the mask not to be too inhibiting? I’m worried I get angry with the whole situation, rip it off and then get told off. Thanks.

Anyone who would tell a grieving daughter, mourning the loss of her mum at such a young age, to put her mask back on is an absolute cunt.

And I never use that word.

Sorry for your loss OP. Hope the funeral goes as well as it can do, and if you need to take your mask off or hug someone just do it. There are some things more important than Covid.

At my DM funeral my mask just got soaked, I didn't think to take any spares. So sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for you loss
I was at a funeral this year and went through four masks between the funeral mass and the burial.
Just had to keep changing them when they got sodden with tears/snot.
So I'd just bring a pack of ten disposable in your coat pocket.
You will be too upset to deal with anyone challenging you if you go without.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I wore a fabric mask to my Nan's funeral and I actually liked wearing it - I felt it gave me more privacy to cry and soaked up my tears. I had a spare one to put on afterwards.

We took our masks off when we were outside in the crematorium.

Do what you need to do...

Very sorry for your loss OP. When we had dad's funeral 3 weeks ago we were told that masks could be removed during the service. It maybe different rules for different places though. Maybe ask the funeral director what the rules are in your area.

@JaneJeffer

Sorry for your loss.

When I was a child women wore mantillas at funerals. It could be classed as a face covering.

Isn't a mantilla made of lace? i.e. it's got holes in it I can't see that counting as a face covering....

OP I'm very sorry you've lost your mum - it's not an easy time at the best of times, and at the moment it feels like the worst of times.

I'd suggest what others have already said - take lots of spare masks, loads of tissues (I had a little pack of tissues in every pocket and several in my bag for my mum's funeral a couple of years ago) and hopefully you'll get through it ok

Thank you for all of your advice and condolences. I love the idea of a large scarf, especially as it's Winter. I'm hoping that whoever is running the funeral will have an element of compassion for how hard it is anyway. Dreading it... (not til January 5th). Thanks again everyone.

I was at my Grandfathers funeral a few weeks ago and wore a large blanket type scarf all around me and just sort of muffled myself in that and was able to use my hankie on and off .

So sorry for your loss, take spare ones and lots of tissues xx

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum @MrsBonnie

She was no age at all.

We lost my mum suddenly in September and had her funeral a month later (post mortem took longer due to Covid). We had a very small cremation and we got dad and my brother an exemption card as they were so stressed about wearing a mask.

None of us actually wore our masks on the day. We had them out / with us but the celebrant was fine (big crematorium, very few of us there)