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Not seeing family until vaccine

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Covidarsehole · 09/12/2020 10:56

Hello as a family we have decided not to see our respective families until we are vaccinated.
We live in a tier one area separate to family they are tier two they wont adhere to sd and will expect kisses and hugs etc my family have kindly accepted this but my partners parents have really hit the roof.
They are blaming me and calling my partner names. We have three small children and are miles from family and if we were to fall ill we basically have each other so we've made the hard decisions not to see them as we are so close now to this all being over.

Is anyone else choosing to be separate from family this Christmas due to risks?

OP posts:
Funkypolar · 09/12/2020 10:57

It’s not something I would choose to do but we are all free to make our own choices for our families.

LemonBreeland · 09/12/2020 10:58

You know it could be months before you get the vaccine? I think you are being a bit ott, unless you are vulnerable and haven't mentioned it.

Are your DC going to school? They have just as much chance of catching it there.

OpheliasCrayon · 09/12/2020 10:59

We are not seeing anyone. Both sets of parents are vulnerable and I work in a school where covid is rife

Maryfloppins · 09/12/2020 11:00

If you are not in an ‘ at risk group’ then you may never be offered the vaccine.
If you are in an at risk group then it could still be some considerable time.
However, you should only do what you feel comfortable with.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 09/12/2020 11:02

...we have decided not to see our respective families until we are vaccinated.

You do realise that it's going to be a looong time 'til low risk groups are vaccinated, don't you?

PurpleDaisies · 09/12/2020 11:03

I can understand why they’re upset to be honest. It’s going to be a long, long time until everyone is vaccinated.

It’s your decision but I’d be adhering to the rules as they are rather than making them extra strict (presuming nobody is particularly vulnerable).

Presumably you’re still going to work and your children are going to school?

SendHelp30 · 09/12/2020 11:03

Are your children home schooled then? Neither you or DH going to work? Shopping delivered and left on the doorstep?

Thatwentbadly · 09/12/2020 11:04

Yes as my DH is EVC, as is my mother and my MIL as she has just started chemo. As soon as my parents have had their vaccine, both doses plus 2 weeks for the to develop the antibodies then the kids and I will be round.

I very much doubt that children will be vaccinated at all within the next two years.

Jobsharenightmare · 09/12/2020 11:05

Yes. I work in a hospital and lots of people are doing the same as you to protect their relatives from them.

titchy · 09/12/2020 11:07

None of the vaccines will be licenced for under 16s. It's likely adults under 50 with no health conditions will have to wait up to a year to be vaccinated.

If you're comfortable with that OP that's up to you. Personally I think you're being pretty mean and have no concept of risk. But your choice.

daisypond · 09/12/2020 11:11

I’m not being with family this Christmas. Most people I know are not, despite the Christmas window. But you are likely to have to wait a very, very long time for the vaccine. If your relatives would adhere to social distancing, that would be lots better. But if they won’t, I agree with you.

PurpleDaisies · 09/12/2020 11:13

Not seeing family for Christmas is a different proposition entirely from not seeing family until everyone is vaccinated.

AnnnaBananna · 09/12/2020 11:14

I’m choosing to be separate from family. I’m not going to risk my health (and possibly my life) because they want to have a stupid unnecessary get-together. In the grand scheme of things another six months makes no difference.

boon · 09/12/2020 11:16

We are having Christmas just the 4 of us this year. My mum and dad will also be just the two of them. We've all agreed its not worth the risk for one day. We'll celebrate when we're all vaccinated. So you're not the only ones.

Hardbackwriter · 09/12/2020 11:17

@AnnnaBananna

I’m choosing to be separate from family. I’m not going to risk my health (and possibly my life) because they want to have a stupid unnecessary get-together. In the grand scheme of things another six months makes no difference.
But where have you got the figure of six months from?

And if you think seeing your family is stupid, unnecessary and makes no difference then obviously that's how you feel, but it's unusual and a bit sad from most people's perspectives.

SendHelp30 · 09/12/2020 11:18

Hope you’re all willing to wait possibly years before seeing your families then.
I assume you will all be keeping your children off school and not going to work until you’re vaccinated too?!

I honestly don’t know how some people leave their houses and heaven forbid drive a car or cross a road. Think of the risk!

boon · 09/12/2020 11:18

Sorry that should read, we'll celebrate when mum and dad are vaccinated.

PurpleDaisies · 09/12/2020 11:19

Are you not going to see them at all until you’re all vaccinated @boon?

OpheliasCrayon · 09/12/2020 11:30

@SendHelp30

Hope you’re all willing to wait possibly years before seeing your families then. I assume you will all be keeping your children off school and not going to work until you’re vaccinated too?!

I honestly don’t know how some people leave their houses and heaven forbid drive a car or cross a road. Think of the risk!

Well I'm ECV, on 3 immunosuppressants and have been working throughout teaching in SEN where social distancing is absolutely impossible. My children go to school.

So it's not about what risks I will take.

But I didn't think I should see my mom or my in laws as they're ECV and so, will I assume be offered the vaccine at some point. They then said it to us (without knowing what I thought), that because kts absolutely rife where I work it's safer not to.

So don't go telling me I don't take risks!

gillianan · 09/12/2020 11:36

we are doing the same, although seeing then outside for walks but no plans to go inside houses.

its not actually going to be that long for not at risk groups to be vaccinated now that Oxford is about to get the go ahead too. certainly not years like PP are saying (i work in vaccine delivery and medical advice before anyone starts)

Lostinacloud · 09/12/2020 11:38

Well after you all get your vaccine in goodness knows how long and protect yourselves from the deadly 99% survival rate of covid 19, be sure to rethink how you travel from a tier one location to a tier two location to finally visit your previous family because surely you won’t then risk getting in a car with a 1 in 20,000 chance of having a fatal road accident! Hmm

titchy · 09/12/2020 11:38

I think sendhelp's comment was to the OP not you @OpheliasCrayon Confused

Lostinacloud · 09/12/2020 11:39

Should say precious not previous!

OpheliasCrayon · 09/12/2020 11:40

@titchy

I think sendhelp's comment was to the OP not you *@OpheliasCrayon* Confused
Who knows but I wasn't replying to OP I was replying to the person I'd quoted in the second msg I sent which seemed to be aimed at anyone not seeing families
Firenight · 09/12/2020 11:40

We are not seeing family over Christmas. My mum is vulnerable and we are both in tier 2 at the moment. My kids are at school. The risk is too much for us. But hopefully she and my dad and my grandparents will be vaccinated by spring.