I can't take this anymore

[anonymous229]

I just don't have the energy for anything. Today has been cold, grey and miserable and there's nowhere to fucking go because everywhere is closed. Yes there's the local park but I've been there about 500 times since March and I'm bored sick of it.

How much longer can they keep us in this fucking awful state? I've had enough, I'm drained, I'm depressed as hell.

We've sacrificed so damn much for a virus that kills about 1% of people who catch it. I know that sounds callous but I'm facing the loss of my job (I'm self employed in events - ha!) and potentially my home because of this. The toll it's taken on my mental health is disastrous, but I feel like me and my family (and other families like us) are just collateral in all of this.

I know people will probably say things like we're lucky to be alive, but I don't feel lucky.

I can't live like this any longer.

[BlueBlancmange]

@inuet

The continuing restrictions are ruining lives and will continue to do so beyond the end. I am close to the end of my rope. I feel like I hate everything and everyone; even this site has become utterly toxic and full of self-righteous coronoqueens patronising the shit out of everyone. I honestly wish I could slip into a coma and awake when it ends and not awake if it doesn't

The vaccine news is looking very promising. It's likely things will start to look up very soon.

[Cantata]

Inuet,

I can't think of anything to say that isn't a cliché, because this is a truly awful situation. I have had similar thoughts to yours, and I know I'm not the only one on here.

@anonymous229 How are you today? I gave my life spurious meaning by collecting a prescription.

[Gwlondon]

anonymous229 I am sorry so many people posted who have completely forgotten the baby stage. Pre 2020 having a newborn baby was one of the most lonely miserable time I have ever had. I used to go to the train station to wait for my husband to come home because I was so lonely. It was easier second time because at least I had school mums as acquaintances and knew more people.

A big hug my lovely. There are other people that feel like you walking the same parks trying their best to keep going. I used to go to baby groups and while they didn’t actually help with the relentlessness of it at least now I know random people from those groups.

This lockdown they have given permission for support groups for new mums to keep going. Please find them. Local Facebook? There are other people who feel the same and it will pass. They will be free ones because some second timers will know how important it is to support new mums. Search within a local group to see if anyone has posted.

A big hug in solidarity. This has been an awful year and you are right to reach out.

Ps I only got to page 8 so maybe people were nicer later on. FGS! This is mumsnet, new mums are the bread and butter of mumsnet.

[Inkpaperstars]

All the things people find difficult and restrictive about the current situation are very similar to the experience of those struck by certain chronic illnesses. I became ill virtually overnight in my mid twenties and the consequences are immense.....lack of mobility and ability to do any activities you used to do, loss of job and capacity to earn, loss of home, loss of friendships and social contact, becoming housebound, poor mental health. The difference for many experiencing these issues in lockdown is that they may not in physical pain, have more hope of an end point at which they can start to recover, they have often already had children or married or gained significant work experiexce and those things will still be there for them going forward, and they don't have the isolation of being the one person around them going through this while everyone else carries on.

Prior to covid, what did you do to try and help those who, equally through no fault of their own, were in these circumstances? Realistically there is probably little you could do, but for many it wasn't even on their radar.

Some of you who are struggling now will make better recoveries from all this because you have been lucky enough up till now to have the health and opportunity to have children, to build friendships, to have a job or buy a home. Some will bear the impact of multiple pre existing issues too.

I do think everyone has the right to complain and vent to their heart's content, go for it. Just bear in mind that what you are experiencing is not new, the fact that it isn't your fault is not new...these things have been happening to people for all time and mostly no one cared.

[MercyBooth]

Prior to covid, what did you do to try and help those who, equally through no fault of their own, were in these circumstances

@Inkpaperstars This bothered me for months and it took me a while to articulate it. Finally it dawned.............Some only care about vulnerable /disabled/elderly etc when they can use them as a tool to emotionally blackmail others.

[WouldBeGood]

@MercyBooth well said.

I had a nasty feeling too

[GetOffYourHighHorse]

'Some only care about vulnerable /disabled/elderly etc when they can use them as a tool to emotionally blackmail others.'

What a bizarre thing to say. Have you any examples to back up this announcement?

[monkeytennis97]

@GetOffYourHighHorse education staff.

[Gwlondon]

Wow. What has happened to mumsnet.

[Arosadra]

You were going to be on maternity leave for some of this time anyway, which isn't a great time to get out and do things.

I don’t get this at all. I was never home when I was on maternity leave and getting out and seeing people was essential to my sanity.

I’m not finding covid restrictions difficult. But ten years ago with a small baby and a toddler I struggled to stay in for a single day. I think I would have lost my mind if I had to do it for months on end.

That isn’t especially helpful OP, I know, but I’m trying to say that anyone would feel like this in your position and it’s absolutely understandable

[WouldBeGood]

When I had my baby I was out every day to save my sanity. I really feel for you people with little ones and no outings

[Ridcully82]

@Inkpaperstars

All the things people find difficult and restrictive about the current situation are very similar to the experience of those struck by certain chronic illnesses. I became ill virtually overnight in my mid twenties and the consequences are immense.....lack of mobility and ability to do any activities you used to do, loss of job and capacity to earn, loss of home, loss of friendships and social contact, becoming housebound, poor mental health. The difference for many experiencing these issues in lockdown is that they may not in physical pain, have more hope of an end point at which they can start to recover, they have often already had children or married or gained significant work experiexce and those things will still be there for them going forward, and they don't have the isolation of being the one person around them going through this while everyone else carries on.

Prior to covid, what did you do to try and help those who, equally through no fault of their own, were in these circumstances? Realistically there is probably little you could do, but for many it wasn't even on their radar.

Some of you who are struggling now will make better recoveries from all this because you have been lucky enough up till now to have the health and opportunity to have children, to build friendships, to have a job or buy a home. Some will bear the impact of multiple pre existing issues too.

I do think everyone has the right to complain and vent to their heart's content, go for it. Just bear in mind that what you are experiencing is not new, the fact that it isn't your fault is not new...these things have been happening to people for all time and mostly no one cared.

Agree with this

[WouldBeGood]

I think that post is very unkind.

[Porcupineinwaiting]

@Inkpaperstars spot on.