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To be in tears over this?

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HumanFemale1 · 17/11/2020 18:39

This is so inhumane. What has been done to elderly during this time will stay with me forever.

To be in tears over this?
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Kjc39 · 19/11/2020 23:23

I work in a school and I see lots of grandparents collecting there grandchildren , even now during lockdown. I guess it’s a way of getting to see their grandchildren. I bet a lot of elderly people would make the same choice. See their families rather than not.

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ancientgran · 19/11/2020 23:28

Who wants to end their days in isolation, separated from their family? This is not life. Who wants to end their life struggling to breathe and choking and terrified? DIL works on a covid ward and is traumatised by what she has seen.

To be fair I'm probably not a good judge, I have no intention of my death being a spectator event, I've told my kids that when the time comes they can come and say goodbye and then bugger off and leave me to get on with it.

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knittingaddict · 19/11/2020 23:30

@Kjc39

I work in a school and I see lots of grandparents collecting there grandchildren , even now during lockdown. I guess it’s a way of getting to see their grandchildren. I bet a lot of elderly people would make the same choice. See their families rather than not.

Why would you assume that. I'm a grandparent who sees other grandparents at the school gate. We are doing childcare because we have to, not because we are willing to risk our lives to have a cuddle. my daughter is a single parent who can't work if we don't step up. Honestly, that's not hard to work out is it?
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IntoP20 · 19/11/2020 23:31

It’s sad but we’re amidst a global pandemic

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Shodan · 20/11/2020 01:44

People saying death is better than not seeing family members for 9 months are literally pathetic. A lot of these people lived through a war, FFS. They know actual hardship

This is literally the most pathetic thing I've ever read.

My mother lived through the war. She was 5 when it started, 11 when it ended. She spent her childhood away from her parents and that, in her own words, is what harmed her most. The isolation, the disconnect from the two people closest to her in the world.

She's now in a care home. She was admitted to hospital in August and suffered a massive stroke while she was in there. When she went in she was fully compos mentis, albeit with early Parkinson's.

Now- she's paralysed on one side. She has no cognitive ability. She cannot feed herself, toilet herself, do anything for herself. We don't know if she understands what's going on- whether she understands why only 2 of her 6 children can see her, for half an hour, once a week.

She doesn't appear to recognise us with masks on. Last visit, she had tears falling down her face- and we aren't allowed to even give her a hug, or wipe her tears away. She can speak- her words make no sense, and don't pertain to anything we've said, but she can speak. But she's stopped doing that now. She looks away from us. She stays silent. She is becoming more disconnected from us by the day.

She will likely end her life separated from the people she loves. Bewildered, unable to move or communicate, without even a choice in it.

THAT is actual hardship, to my mother. And the gut-wrenching, agonising pain we suffer, watching her go through it- that's our actual hardship.

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HumanFemale1 · 20/11/2020 02:23

@IntoP20

It’s sad but we’re amidst a global pandemic

Pandemic already means global
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Temporarything · 20/11/2020 06:53

Yes it’s sad. What do you suggest?

My Dad is 81 and has incurable cancer. I have barely seen him. However, he wants to keep going and he doesn’t want Covid. So we’re all sticking to the rules. Not every old or sick person Would find death preferable - as a pp suggested.

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IntoP20 · 20/11/2020 12:39

@HumanFemale1 no, pandemic can be contained to one country or cluster of countries. The word doesn’t necessarily equate to worldwide spread

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MarshaBradyo · 20/11/2020 12:42

It’s so sad. I cried on hearing a husband talking about his wife with dementia stuck in a care home room in isolation for weeks. So awful.

But the care home situation was terrible with virus spreading too. The vaccine and better testing can’t come soon enough.

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