Is anyone else keeping Covid a secret??

[Sadhoot]

I had a very bizarre conversation with my mother this evening. She has Covid, as does the entire household.

She was talking about it in hushed tones, like it's something to be ashamed of, like it's a scandal. She said that "some people" will want nothing to do with you if they find out you have it, so I should keep the fact that I have Covid to myself as well. She's literally not telling anyone except her work, as she has to self-isolate.

People do hide it for numerous reasons. I’m a line manager for a supermarket home delivery and lots of people who have it don’t say or give any pre warning to my team when delivering. It’s not like we would refuse, we could just take more precautions. Some just don’t think of a bigger picture

nannawend

When I was young people used to speak in whispers about cancer. As if it was distressing and shameful to say the word out loud. Is you mother elderly Sadhoot? I always thought it was a generation thing to whisper certain words, like cancer, TB, adultery and divorce etc.

She's only in her fifties!

You might be on to something though, she's funny about other stuff as well.

@Frazzled2207
Would a school bubble burst if a parent tested positive but the children negative at time of test? And if parent is positive, the children would be kept home anyway wouldn’t they? It’s late & im
Probably being thick but just your comment of keeping it to yourself as a parent not wanting to burst school bubble worried me. As a clinically vulnerable parent, I would much rather know so can choose to keep my child home if I felt it was necessary. I wouldn’t need to broadcast it, just want to be able to make informed decision.

Totally understandable. You can’t cough in public nowadays without people staring like you’ve got the plague. As long as the household affected is self isolating, deliveries notified no problem

Yes as I have posted previously, my husband was admitted to a hospital ward for another health check-up and was tested not positive for 3 tests
but after a week in the ward, we received a phone call from the hospital ward stating that the ward was closed down because two patients had COV 19 and all ward visits were not possible. Then we were told my husband had a positive test. He has transferred to
Acute Medical Ward where he received special treatment

but transferred to another ward and then back to where he started
but has 15 litres of oxygen treatment that is sustaining him but
he is very weak and ill.
I am not afraid to talk of this as if it is something to be ashamed of
and those that feel another way, it is their way of coping and should just be accepted and respected but also comforted and not made to feel ashamed.
I feel this to be very helpful and thank them for providing this advice/help.
Everyone takes care and be kind to each other.

www.mentalhealth.org.uk/coronavirus/facing-winter-during-coronavirus-pandemic

Interesting question. Had a message from my boss earlier telling me that one of the team has tested positive - but not to tell anyone! The person has been off work for a couple of weeks anyway, so people know she is ill with something. Far better that than something truly awful like cancer or a miscarriage would be a relief to know it is only CV.

I was in a queue in the supermarket and overheard a customer tell a cashier she had had Covid19 a month ago, had been quite sick but now recovered blah blah. When the customer left the store, another customer who had also overheard the conversation complained to the store manager that the customer who had had Covid19 should not be allowed shop there as they might infect someone else. A month after having it.

So I can understand why some people just say nothing!

To be honest I can't help feeling the main reason to keep it quiet is so the covid sufferer, and the people they live with, can act freely and go about their business without the inconvenience caused by having to self isolate. Without being judged.

When my dc had it one after the other, we told people who needed to know and a couple upon whom we relied for support. But it resulted in a burst bubble for ds's entire year and parents were crawling over social media and community pages demanding that the person "own up", questioning the governors for a name. My ds was really unwell and instead of sympathy or an enquiry as to how he was, they were baying for our blood. The people in question then had their dc tested, received negative tests and used the 2 weeks off school to piss off on holiday or visit family.

95% of people were utterly lovely and kind and left unsolicited gifts, activities and flowers on the doorstep. But the twits who can't see further than the ends of their own noses were appalling over the whole thing.

We were told to keep it secret at school. No social media etc.

@ShowOfHands

When my dc had it one after the other, we told people who needed to know and a couple upon whom we relied for support. But it resulted in a burst bubble for ds's entire year and parents were crawling over social media and community pages demanding that the person "own up", questioning the governors for a name. My ds was really unwell and instead of sympathy or an enquiry as to how he was, they were baying for our blood. The people in question then had their dc tested, received negative tests and used the 2 weeks off school to piss off on holiday or visit family.

95% of people were utterly lovely and kind and left unsolicited gifts, activities and flowers on the doorstep. But the twits who can't see further than the ends of their own noses were appalling over the whole thing.

That is appalling, and is what I fear if my children test positive (despite the fact that we do nothing and see no one out of school so they will in all likelihood have caught it from there).

@ShowOfHands

That's really appalling. I work in a school and DH is a teacher. It really is a minority of parents that behave badly (sending their children to school with symptoms while waiting for a test result, at one extreme, then others - as you say - demanding to know who has tested positive /contact case / insisting that the school close etc) at the other extreme.

To be honest I can't help feeling the main reason to keep it quiet is so the covid sufferer, and the people they live with, can act freely and go about their business without the inconvenience caused by having to self isolate. Without being judged.

As per PPs, though (including the one directly above yours), people are being judged as if it's a moral failure and/or considered 'unclean' long after they have self-isolated and recovered.

Also, I'm not saying they are right to do so, but a lot of people have fallen through the financial cracks and are on their knees - I can see how a lot would make the decision to cautiously go out (wearing a mask whenever required) and continue earning to keep the roof over their heads rather than lose their house for the sake of a virus that is harmless to well over 99% of the people who get it (with many of the vulnerable 0.5% already shielding anyway).

That is awful "demanding. names,wtf is wrong with people I hope your children are better showoffhands

To be honest I can't help feeling the main reason to keep it quiet is so the covid sufferer, and the people they live with, can act freely and go about their business without the inconvenience caused by having to self isolate. Without being judged

Or, you know, it could just be the reason given my multiple people on this thread. That they feel judged for having caught it as people assume that to have done so you must have been ‘breaking the rules’.

I feel guilty for being the reason my child's class bubble burst. I'm sure there will be some talk amongst parents that we were somehow irresponsible. Going to try and tough it out though and have messaged to let them know it's us. Would find the speculation too stressful otherwise.

I’m back at work after having Covid, everyone is keeping their distance. One woman looks scared if I’m within 10m of her.
I’m doing a few fake coughs to amuse myself.

Or, you know, it could just be the reason given my multiple people on this thread. That they feel judged for having caught it as people assume that to have done so you must have been ‘breaking the rules’.
Possibly, but I don't happen to agree. I've never been a sheep when it comes to forming my own opinions

@TimeForDinnerDinnerDinner

Or, you know, it could just be the reason given my multiple people on this thread. That they feel judged for having caught it as people assume that to have done so you must have been ‘breaking the rules’. Possibly, but I don't happen to agree. I've never been a sheep when it comes to forming my own opinions

You don’t agree with the people on this thread saying that the reason they personally haven’t told people is because they feel judged? So they’re lying?