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It feels enjoyment of life has become socially unacceptable

192 replies

inuet · 05/11/2020 16:25

Firstly I am.not against the current nor previous restrictions. I am aware of the sacrifices and difficulties faced by frontline NHS workers. I am also aware of the sacrifices made by those who were killed in the 2 world wars. But it is beginning to feel as if there is a nationwide perhaps even worldwide competition to see who can out misery the other. The utter utter drivel posted here during the Spring restrictions about how everyone's neighbours were having parties and how someone buying a chocolate bar would lead to bodies bursting out of hospitals, the sick sick air of Hyacinth Bucket meets Margaret Thatcher sanctimoniousness that seems to be everywhere, the compulsory addition of "the fuck" to the imperative "stay at home", the way young and poorer people have been thrown under a bus socially and economically, the "close pubs open schools" mantra. I'm just sick to death of it, & genuinely cannot ever see how a quality of life, friends, bars, concerts, trips away will ever return. It feels like everyone has turned into a curtain twitching moralist, it is illegal not to have a frontline NHS NHS worker in your family and we should never ever ever utter any words of sadness for the old life because people died in the Second World War. I hate what life has become.

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frozendaisy · 05/11/2020 17:00

It's not this bad IRL.

Everyone I bump into seem to be just resigned to things at the moment. No judgement, misery disguised, trying to lend an ear or help each other out.

Message boards and media give a skewed vision of general life.

RaininSummer · 05/11/2020 17:01

All this will pass eventually. I too am fed up with the moaners. We are all having to get through this in our own way and it has still only been going on for around 8 months.

Duckwit · 05/11/2020 17:02

And I'm not anti-lockdown or anything, we will do what we have to do. But there is just an air in certain circles in society now that you somehow get a medal for being the most 'restrained' from doing anything pleasurable or something. And then at the other end of the scale with some of the dickheads I know who genuinely seem to feel that not being able to go to the pub for a month is some kind of breach of human rights!

friedshrimp · 05/11/2020 17:03

@Pollynextdoor But this is how people are feeling. Minimising it doesn't help the fact that some of us really do miss regular life. It's been months since normality.

For some reason on MN it's not acceptable to miss meals out, after work drinks, simply spending the day with family, watching your DC play in a football match, compete in a dance competition or whatever else. It's an absolute race to the bottom to see who can be the most sanctimonious and be seen to be doing it better than everyone else.

You simply cannot expect people to be happy with this rolling situation month on month!!!!!!

hamstersarse · 05/11/2020 17:03

Some people love being miserable

Like really actually like it

2020 is their year. They want company.

NickVanDyke · 05/11/2020 17:03

@Pollynextdoor

If someone is saying they have no quality of life we should believe them.

It’s not about going to the pub for four weeks, it’s about the never ending nature of this.

Once you adopt the fuck it mentality, you become liberated. I’m only going along with the rules that I believe are sensible and I’m certainly not going along with not seeing friends or family.

chunkyrun · 05/11/2020 17:04

Really brought out the worst in some
People

NickVanDyke · 05/11/2020 17:05

Also forgot to mention someone in my health is very unlikely to be hospitalised or die.

I have a right to decide my own level of risk in relation to this virus.

frozendaisy · 05/11/2020 17:07

@Duckwit

I totally get what you mean. It does feel like having any fun has become frowned upon.
We are trying this evening with a small box of fireworks, a firepit fire, jacket potatoes and cinder toffee.

It's not a professional display with candy floss and fairground rides and other people........but it will be next year *(fingers crossed).

Are the neighbours judging? Some might but we will never know.

Just have to try and have a little fun, if you can, when you can.

And can only hope neighbours stupid cat that makes you emergency stop when you drive up road jumps out if it's skin! (Joking .........before the pile on..........well mostly joking stupid animal)

Thewiseoneincognito · 05/11/2020 17:11

It’s feels bleak, very bleak. It’s going to be a long hard winter. Christmas will feel hollow and empty too. Our lives have changed so much, but we must find joy in what we have now because this is our new normal. We’re not going back to the old world, not for an extremely long time, if at all ever. If people follow the rules and see the bigger picture we have a better chance of being able to live alongside COVID19.

There is no light at the end of the tunnel that’s for sure. If restrictions are lifted for Christmas you can guarantee we will spike again and end up in a spring lockdown like we did this year. Hopefully we can stay locked down until Jan/ Feb.

picklemewalnuts · 05/11/2020 17:13

Enjoy life as much as you like. Just don't do it in groups.

We need to get better at finding joy in things that don't involve masses of other people or stuff in shops and cinemas. People used to enjoy life, with simpler pleasures.

Bollss · 05/11/2020 17:14

@picklemewalnuts

Enjoy life as much as you like. Just don't do it in groups.

We need to get better at finding joy in things that don't involve masses of other people or stuff in shops and cinemas. People used to enjoy life, with simpler pleasures.

People were allowed to see their own families and friends. It was not illegal to have someone in your house. I'd quite enjoy that too... But it's not allowed.
Thewiseoneincognito · 05/11/2020 17:14

@NickVanDyke you certainly do have the right to decide YOUR risk to the virus. But you don’t have the right to decide your risk to others if you were to carry the virus without knowing. You catch my drift? This is where your argument becomes mute because I couldn’t care any less if you caught it, but I care if you pass it on to others because of your piss poor attitude.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 05/11/2020 17:17

I too hope the lockdown down stays for the Christmas break. Otherwise January will be awful for the NHS and people needing treatment of any kind. Not to mention all the ones following the rules will be back in workplaces, schools etc with those that didn’t and put at risk for decisions made by others.

Petitmum · 05/11/2020 17:23

@NickVanDyke

Also forgot to mention someone in my health is very unlikely to be hospitalised or die.

I have a right to decide my own level of risk in relation to this virus.

Of course, you have a right to decide your own level of risk - but not at the expense of those around you. This is the problem!!!

No one wants lockdown, death and misery but do you have a solution?

Makegoodchoices · 05/11/2020 17:25

I don’t really get all the doom and gloom - unless you’ve got money problems or health problems as a result of covid - in which case it makes sense.

Given that most of us cannot influence the production of a vaccine or improvement of track and trace, we just have to wait for the people who can, to sort it all.

In the meantime we’re just making the best of it by keeping busy, getting out in the fresh air when we can and making the most of films and cosy dinners in. I can’t see all my friends at once but I can go for a walk and chat with one at a time, so I will make the best of that.

And the Christmas lights are going up outside this weekend.

SnackRussell · 05/11/2020 17:25

Everyone is just accepting it though! There are millions of people suffering from extreme mental health issues now, there are people with dementia who are being shut away, there are old people who have had the choice of living their last years to the full taken from them, people are dying alone in hospitals (not of Covid) and our kids are at school no matter what because the powers that be KNOW it’s the only hope for society and the economy to have a better future.

Yet here we all are...simply doing as we are told and being controlled by people who lie to us!

Pollynextdoor · 05/11/2020 17:26

@NickVanDyke and of course if you should be badly affected by Covid which strikes quite randomly at times, you will not bother the NHS but look after yourself at home come what may.

IrmaFayLear · 05/11/2020 17:28

The miseries are out in force on this thread !

We should all enjoy life sitting in our homes by ourselves for ever . I bet this view is held by those who are married with young dcs, a nice house and garden and a secure job wfh.

RainbowParadise · 05/11/2020 17:31

@Thewiseoneincognito

It’s feels bleak, very bleak. It’s going to be a long hard winter. Christmas will feel hollow and empty too. Our lives have changed so much, but we must find joy in what we have now because this is our new normal. We’re not going back to the old world, not for an extremely long time, if at all ever. If people follow the rules and see the bigger picture we have a better chance of being able to live alongside COVID19.

There is no light at the end of the tunnel that’s for sure. If restrictions are lifted for Christmas you can guarantee we will spike again and end up in a spring lockdown like we did this year. Hopefully we can stay locked down until Jan/ Feb.

This is our new normal? Aren't you a ray of sunshine.

I think you are massively overestimating people's willingness to comply with further lockdowns on a long term basis. And if this is the 'new normal' where on earth do you think money will come from for schools, the NHS etc.

PickleWithEverything · 05/11/2020 17:35

Maybe we could go back go having cities with walls round them, like medieval fortifications, and then no one can go in or out, without spending 2 weeks in quarantine in a waiting area outside the city walls. Life could go on inside pretty much like normal.

inuet · 05/11/2020 17:44

@Pollynextdoor

Define no quality of life.

Personally I am sick to death of the moaning. I am not referring to those have a real reason to moan. Those who have lost their jobs or suffer from ill health.
It’s rubbish for all of us but sick of people throwing “no freedom” and “no quality of life” around because they can’t go to the pub or see their mum for a month. Get a grip on yourself.

This is absolutely TYPICAL of what I am talking about. So firstly, define moaning. It seems to me that there are people around who try to shut down any negative opinions by throwing the judgment-laden words "moaning" and "whining" around. Oh, and you say that some people "have a real reason to moan". Have you been appointed as a government czar to take any negative comment and run a slide rule over it, then pronounce and give it an official stamp as to whether it passes your genuine reason test? You then yourself said that it was "rubbish"- does this not constitute moaning or are you immune to any accusations. Then you tell me to "get a grip on myself". What exactly do you actually mean by this? You have never and will never meet me, so I can only conclude that what you mean is not posting anything you disagree with. Or perhaps you enjoy having an opportunity to judge and to patronise?
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Picktionary · 05/11/2020 17:46

Yanbu OP!

Burpeesshmurpees · 05/11/2020 17:47

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Thewiseoneincognito · 05/11/2020 17:47

@RainbowParadise 🤭😊😇🌈☀️

I think you are massively underestimating the number of people who are complying and getting on with things as best they can out of respect of the the NHS and those vulnerable ones who live in fear that some defiant maskless prick might sneeze and hand them a death sentence.

After today’s furlough announcement it would appear the money is there. It will have to be there, just as it will have to be for every other nation on the planet grappling with this pandemic. Do you want to live in a country with a collapsed health system?

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