Lockdown goals?

[Temporary1234]

Hi all,

I know everyone is feeling a bit down. I have plenty of reasons to spiral down negativity and my mental health is rather fragile, so I decided to give myself few goals for this lockdown to keep me in focus through this chaos. I thought some of you might like to share yours too ?

1- potty train my toddler!
2- wean my toddler
3- renovate the bedrooms
4- start writing a book
5- cycle 10 hours combined.
6- Renew wardrobe

[TammyTwoSawnson]

Hey OP! Great thread idea

To those shitting all over this thread... I cope with tough situations by looking for silver linings and trying to make the best of things, no matter how I feel about them. What is wrong with that? It kept me sane(ish) through my cancer diagnosis and treatment, through bereavements, and through being clinically extremely vulnerable during covid lockdowns,with my kids in school and my business going to the wall. If it's not for you, scroll on by.

I plan to try some online workouts. I really want to get into yoga and I quite fancy trying barre workouts - they're meant to be very tough!

I'm also trying to adopt a danish/Scandinavian way of coping with this winter. I just read "the year of living danishly" because there they endure long, dark winters and they're the happiest nation on earth so I thought I could learn a thing or two from them.

Also:

Take more photos

Carry on with learning mandarin on Duolingo. Maybe learn some Danish too.

Learn how to play another song on the piano (with two hands!)

Go for walks in the woods more

Work on my side hustle and try and make it profitable, even just a bit would be nice! (See earlier about business going to the wall due to covid)

[peasoup8]

My goal is to keep a roof over my head, because thanks to this second lockdown, I’m now in real danger of losing my home and myself and my family being made homeless. For me, learning a new language, redecorating the house or baking yet another loaf of sodding banana bread are pretty far down the list of priorities right now.

[motherrunner]

I’m a teacher and this term is always the tiring one so my goals are:

1. Be thankful for each day I am well
   
2. Subscribe to Twinkl so I can download activities for periods of SI. Both DS and I are SI are isolating at moment due to our contact with a positive and it’s been hard going.
   
3. I have a tendency to sit and brood. For instance I haven’t seen my mum since before original lockdown as her care home ever reopened. I will stew on this and start to feel resentment to those who can see their families. I am going to practise CBT instead.

[notanotheronepleasee]

Great thread OP. I hope you accomplish your goals! I feel more positive this time than last time as at least my DD will be in school.

I'm going to try and loose a stone. And make a big reveal to my family at the end 🤣

[IggyAce]

It’s great to set goals to help you focus getting thru the next month or so.
My goals:
Decorate the bathroom.

Get DCs to make Christmas cards for family & send some to local nursing homes.

Achieve at least 10,000 steps per day.

Wrap the Christmas presents I’ve already brought.

[BunnyBoilerRhian]

We've all got issues and problems thanks to the way 2020 has turned out. I get feeling low makes you despondent, I'm really struggling but I clicked on this thread because thought "oh good some positivity amongst the shit we're all living through". There are a zillion other Covid threads to be negative on. By the very nature of thus crap virus, most Covid threads are negative.

[peasoup8]

If none of you are in danger of losing your job and home and can afford to do things like decorate, I’d say you’ve got it pretty good and should count your blessings.

[AbsolutWitch]

I think people are being a bit harsh on @OhMyDarling. There are plenty of us who's only goal is to survive, whether that's mentally or physically.

Personally my goal is to get through it one day at a time, eat less crap and get out in the fresh air as much as I can to try and help my mental health.

Woken up this morning feeling physically sick at the prospect of going to work tomorrow (NHS)

[banking]

DP and I will work throughout this lockdown so my day to day life won’t change much.

I am studying a masters qualification with my employer so will invest any free time into that.

Going to endeavour to close my Apple Watch rings daily - including exercising daily & achieving a 700cal move goal. Going to try and stick to a normal diet too. My stress levels are already through the roof so really important that I stick to a normal routine.

We usually volunteer at with Crisis at Christmas every year, will have to see if that’s still going ahead and if they need any assistance.

[peasoup8]

I think people are being a bit harsh on @OhMyDarling. There are plenty of us who's only goal is to survive, whether that's mentally or physically.

Agree.

[Eesha]

Mine is to lose weight, focus on myself more. I completely get that everyone is having tough times but this thread is lighthearted to get people refocusing on less stressful things.

[FrappuccinoFan]

@peasoup8

I think people are being a bit harsh on *@OhMyDarling*. There are plenty of us who's only goal is to survive, whether that's mentally or physically.

Agree.

So *@OhMyDarling* should have started their own thread instead of hijacking OP’s with their negativity and feigning offence. You have all clearly clicked on the wrong thread for you. There’s no need for your doom and gloom here.

[notanotheronepleasee]

@FrappuccinoFan completely agree

[wheresmymojo]

Well I'm also in the situation of maybe losing our home but I'm another one who likes to have a plan and look for silver linings...

So...

1. Speak to citizens advice and debt management charities and see what's possible

1. Advertise spare room to see if we can get a lodger

1. Finish painting kitchen and paint utility room

1. Finish setting up new business and focus on sales

1. Build in time to meditate and either do yoga or walk each day to keep stress down

1. Do another clear out to see what else I can find to sell on eBay / Facebook

[charlieclown]

I'm going to try to do 10 press ups every day.
I am not sure why as I am already dreading it.

Also try to walk some new places.

And given our nanny has just resigned with immediate effect, I guess we are also looking for childcare urgently.

[Jrobhatch29]

My goal is to not go insane.

Also got a lovely recipe book so going to make nice healthy meals. In the middle of weaning my daughter so going to use the blender to make us healthy smoothies everyday too. Me and my best friend share the same taste in books and she has been dropping books off for me but I haven't had the concentration to read a single book since march when I usually read all the time so I'm determined to get through some!

[JacobReesMogadishu]

If you don’t like this thread keep scrolling.

Believe me I’m devastated about lock down, scared about Covid, worried about loved ones and will have to keep working in a high risk environment.

I plan to try and cook more and read more.

[miimblemomble]

@TammyTwoSawnson
Have a read of The Almost Nearly Perfect People by Micheal Booth - a behind the scenes look at the Danes and all the other Scandis (I think he liked the Finns best, despite his wife and her family being Danish).

We don’t really have time for goals: two children in school, DH is a teacher and I work in school admin, so it’s business as usual round here.

I do want to put down my phone, read the books I’ve been piling up, and support my family - my mum is struggling with not seeing us for so long, and FIL has had to put MIL in a nursing home and just had a long awaited operation cancelled. The oldies are isolated and I need to find better ways to support them through it.

[Xiaoxiong]

1. close my Apple Watch rings every day!
   
   
2. at least 30 mins exercise daily (proper sweaty and breathless)
   
   
3. get outside for a walk daily
   
   
4. don't drink as much as the first lockdown!!
   
   
5. do lots of seasonal celebratory things at home - bonfire night, martinmas, thanksgiving, etc

[bibliomania]

It dawned on me in March that I need to learn to drive, as otherwise I might not be able to get to my parents in an emergency. I learned the theory and practiced the hazard perception bit and passed those in the summer, and in August I started lessons. Waiting to hear if they're going to be stopped again. If so, I'm going to watch lots of online videos to try to keep my head in that space, although it's not exactly the same (no access to a car outside lessons).

Oh, and C25K and Duolingo - they make me feel I have a toehold on a productive day.

[Crakeandoryx]

Love this! Making something positive out of our situation.

1. continue to lose weight from the first lockdown 🙈 and keep going.
   
2. get prepared for Christmas.
   
3. avoid news and social media (Mumsnet is only one I'm looking at but I think this will stop very soon as it's too depressing).
   
4. focus on speaking to friends and family more.
   
5. eat together (healthy) and go for a household walk twice a week
   
6. walk outside everyday.
   
7. sort garden out.
   
8. make a nice wreath for January when the decorations come down and do some sorting out and decorating to cheer up the inside.
   
9. make plans for spring time.

[TammyTwoSawnson]

@wheresmymojo What's your business? I set a new one up since lockdown and it's not easy when you can't really see people, but it's doable (to a degree anyway!)

@miimblemomble I'll look out for that book, thanks!

[Gah81]

Great idea, OP. So mine are:

1. practise piano twice a week
   
2. pilates once a week
   
3. write 2 letters/postcards to friends or family a week
   
4. continue my daily morning walk - no matter what the weather!
   
   I look forward to hearing about people's goals (and how they are doing).

[Softpebbles]

Great to set some goals, whether that be to get through it day by day or bigger ones.

I am going to try to;

Walk every day

Maybe a yoga challenge

Cut down on sugar

Finish painting the kitchen (wood work)

Start decorate the lounge

Although not helpful to some people, our lives will not be radically different due to not really going out and socialising for meals and drinks etc. I will miss my exercise classes though.

[Blerg]

Jeez so much negativity here. Everyone’s situation is different. The pandemic has vastly changed life for some people, less so others. Some people cope really well, others less so. Comparison to try to, what, shame other people? I don’t get it.

My life is fairly secure (well DH’s job is a bit wobbly, we rent, etc but it’s ok). But I feel absolutely gutted for people loosing jobs, homes, security and sense of safety. The idea of not being able to feed your kids is nightmarish. But that doesn’t mean my mental health is good - it’s shite. It was pre lockdown. In fact I just feel more ashamed for not coping because others have it worse.

Long winded way of saying if goal setting helps, good for you OP.

Mine:

1. Get dressed everyday - it helps when feeling low
   
2. Keep exercising
   
3. More reading, less internet (especially bloody MN)
   
4. If home schooling has to happen again, do a proper plan to share work / childcare time with DH.