Lockdown goals?

[Temporary1234]

Hi all,

I know everyone is feeling a bit down. I have plenty of reasons to spiral down negativity and my mental health is rather fragile, so I decided to give myself few goals for this lockdown to keep me in focus through this chaos. I thought some of you might like to share yours too ?

1- potty train my toddler!
2- wean my toddler
3- renovate the bedrooms
4- start writing a book
5- cycle 10 hours combined.
6- Renew wardrobe

[tootyfruitypickle]

Don't feel guilty OP, it's completely fine to set goals like this and a very sensible way of getting through. MN has gone a bit insane the past two days.

[MarshaBradyo]

Keep on with the running
Keep in with lower alcohol
Back to reading - back with Nevil Shute oh my word so good
Keep wfh when I can

[Temporary1234]

your plans all sound good- though you’ve only four weeks so maybe weaning AND toilet training are a bit ambitious to do at once. That’s a lot of change for a wee one. Which one do you think they are most ready for? Or which one are you most ready for? Be aware that weaning from breastfeeding can cause a bit of a hormone drop and can be like a depression or low mood/ volatile feeling so that may not be the best option to do cold turkey and while you could struggle. Perhaps cutting down or dropping to a night feed or a bedtime plus morning one only could work?

Thanks for the advice! I’m known to overwhelm myself with unrealistic goals and then getting depleted so will work on being more realistic

[Flaxmeadow]

To clear out the cupboard in my hallway of worn out shoes, coats I dont wear, boxes of old toys, dried up felt tip pens, colouring books I'd like to save or not save. Used up air freshener reed thingys, probably a used up damp trap that I missed, throw away Xmas decorations I dont use...

I made a commitment that I DEFINATELY MUST DO this around March 23rd

[tootyfruitypickle]

Read more
Work better and try and get less distracted by what's going on
Walk daily - I used to run but had an injury and can't cope with aggravating it at the moment! Walking is amazing, it's lovely having people say hello to me, which doesn't happen when I run!
Think of ways to get dd off her phone at weekends without constantly nagging

[Temporary1234]

TammyTwoSawnson your strength is inspiring. Thanks for sharing your story of coping through cancer! I too need to take more photos ! My daughter was a newborn during first lockdown and so I stayed home and hardly dressed in anything but PJs and even kept her in PJs and so hardly have much nice photos of me and her which is not something I shall repeat !

[bibliomania]

Oh Flax, my hallway cupboard terrifies me. Even if narnia was back there, you'd never be able to fight your way through.

[semideponent]

My goal is to get the dumping ground (aka the garage) sorted. I'm just hoping the tip stays open.

[feelingverylazytoday]

Lose half a stone.
Do some different exercise. I'm already walking a lot but need to get back to weights etc
No alcohol for a month.
Best of luck in your goals, OP.
Thanks and to all the key workers who have posted. Hope you all make it through safely.

[CoffeeChouxBun]

Great thread. It's really good to have a few manageable goals, something to focus on to help distract you and get through lockdown.
Mine will involve staying fit and not piling on the lard like last lockdown. And maybe getting my Christmas shopping finished by the time lockdown ends. Just been to my local high street and bought wrapping paper and a couple of small presents from the independent shops before they are closed down for 4 weeks.

[willowywillow]

Enjoy myself!

[randomsabreuse]

Having achievable goals to work for is the only way I made it through the last lockdown. I'm a SAHP, DH is a vet plus has a tonne of training to do in the evenings so my aims for November (Scotland in level 3 so no idea how locked down we will be or for how long) are:

1. Everybody fed.

1. Prevent DC from damaging each other (2 and 5, tonnes of jealousy both ways as 2 year old is less containable and much more opinionated than in March so he wrecks her toys and she grabs anything he's playing with unless I intervene constantly which isn't amazing for cooking dinner purposes.

1. Build back up to 10k running

1. Daily yoga

1. Get back to pre appendicitis speed running, try to get the elusive sub 30 5k I was aiming for last lockdown before appendix intervened.

1. See if I can work out something useful to study so I can look for a job in the spring because I will not survive another lockdown winter as a SAHP!

1. Find some kind of purpose in life because at the moment there is fuck all!

[Crazyone84]

Thank you for this inspiration OP

There are 2 types of people in the world, half full and half empty. I like to think of myself as a half full type pf person. No matter how hard or draining life is and wherever it comes from there is always a positive (for free too, that doesn't take up your time) for those half empty guys on this thread please try and find your positive today? Is the sun shining? it's not pouring with rain like yesterday? you can breath deeply 10 times and feel the benefits from it? you can hug someone you love?

And trust me I have had and am still having tough times!

My goals for the next few weeks:
Pack the garden up for winter, last grass cutting, clear leaves, cut back dead things!
Paint the tiny lip near my mantle place as it's just concrete colour, I've looked at it every evening for the past 2 yrs!
Get in 20 mins walk a day (fresh air is good for the soul)
Read my book more, time away from screens and TV
Try new toppings on my porridge (suggestions welcome)

[Temporary1234]

• Goals for the next month:
  

1. Trying to keep my asthmatic self and diabetic husband safe whilst teaching in a room of 30 people all day and having two dc who are also at school every day.
   
2. Trying to care for my elderly Mum without passing anything nasty onto her.
   
3. Trying to keep warm in a freezing cold classroom because the only protection we have is open windows (even in the middle of winter).
   
4. Trying to help all the little people I teach to ‘catch up’ when we are short staffed and haven’t got enough support to help them do this.
   
5. Trying to help parents who are struggling to feed their hungry kids.
   
6. Trying to keep up with marking, assessments, planning, report writing, safeguarding reports & home learning for isolating kids when my head is spinning.
   
7. Trying to stay calm when stressed out kids, parents or colleagues decide to take things out on me.
   
8. Trying not to work on my days off.
   
9. Trying to keep smiling for the kids.
   
10. Trying to do my best and whatever it takes to get through. Whether you’re staying at home or working - I think this is relevant to everyone x*
    
    You are amazing Ginger.
    Perhaps try to include something in there for you. What do you plan to do on your days off so that you don’t end up working?
    
    You know they say tell a child what to do, not what not to do because it keeeps them focused on it. So I like to tell my inner child what they’re allowed to do so they don’t end up doing exactly what I don’t want them to! Does that make sense.
    
    So instead of “don’t work ok weekends”, I would tell myself “watch a movie with family on the weekend”. Etc..

[Temporary1234]

I’m a bit over the moon, our neighbours just gave away a chest of drawers which means I can already start setting up a bedroom for the kids with zero spendings!

Also I decided that even if I don’t manage to cycle 20 mins a day, I will do something physically demanding with the kids and count that towards my exercise. Either running after my child in a scooter in the mornings or doing some reverse press ups while carrying one of them lol.

I can see it happening!

[oreosoreosoreos]

Do The yoga with Adrienne November calendar every day
Walk to school in the morning (unless horrendously wet!)
Write in my gratitude journal everyday (this really helps me to stay positive, even if I’m only listing very small things!)
Pick up my knitting in an evening rather than sitting on my phone.
List a pile of random clothes/things I’ve gathered on eBay.

[blue25]

Love this thread. I’m going to:

-Continue with gradual weight loss
-Get outside every day for a walk. Going to try night hiking for a change
-Read a bit of my book every day
-Plan & online shop for a cosy Christmas for 2
-Listen to Calm App every day-I find the meditations really helpful

[peasoup8]

That’s the point of the thread. Surviving.

@WitchFindersAreEverywhere you seriously have no idea do you? Surviving is trying to keep a roof over your head and feed your kids after losing your job. When that’s the situation you’re faced with, learning a new language, redecorating the house or doing a Pilates class isn’t high on the priority list.

[NerrSnerr]

@peasoup8 the poster you replied to is trying to keep her daughter alive. Do you really begrudge her getting some light relief from a thread while she supports her severely depressed daughter?

[Catlover10]

Loving this thread giving me some great ideas for the lockdown as I was feeling worried about what I could do each day. Being with a 5 month old and trying to entertain him will be very hard but I’m hoping to get 10,000 steps in a day with him and do more cooking. Maybe do some painting and baking with him.

[randomsabreuse]

Plenty of people who "should" be happy with their lives are struggling at the moment - do you think that saying stuff like "what's the point of Pilates/Yoga and learning a language" is going to help.

I've got a roof over my head, kids, supportive husband and I'm really struggling to see any kind of light ahead with little prospect of "fun" and feeling worthless. Having little "meaningless" targets like yoga (good for my back), running (make me less fat so better position to deal with Covid/exercise endorphins), something using my brain (language or whatever) should keep me out of the dark pit of despair that keeps on trying to suck me in...

Being told other people are worse off when you know full well you're really lucky/privileged, just adds to the guilt/inadequacy side of things.

I'm trying to drag myself through this pandemic baby step at a time, I suspect many other women are too...

[whattodo2019]

i work in a school so I count myself
lucky to be still going to work and my kids are also going to school and m DH is going to work:. so apart from not going out or seeing people (which i don't do much of in the term time) not much will change. i do the marketing for a school so with covid I am constantly having to think about new ways to promote the school, It's keeping me on my toes.
I am about to start some outdoor training sessions though as i desperately need to loose weight!
I hope you achieve your goals!!! Good luck and keep us posted xx

[WitchFindersAreEverywhere]

[quote NerrSnerr]@peasoup8 the poster you replied to is trying to keep her daughter alive. Do you really begrudge her getting some light relief from a thread while she supports her severely depressed daughter?

[/quote]
Yes. Yes she does.

But that’s people. I’m finding it hard not to get annoyed by all the posts squeaking about holidays and gel nails. But for some, that’s a big deal.
I refuse to bother about those that begrudge us our strategies for coping, not worth the headspace.

[jelly79]

Great thread

1/ to play and read lots with my DS3
2/ to train 4 times a week
3/ to run 50k
4/ to lose 5lb
5/ to cook new recipes

[Temporary1234]

Time to start then!! Tick Tock!!

This weekend I will focus on tidying up kids bedroom and decluttering and rearranging the furniture before I start with stickers around their bedroom.

I’m feeling pretty aweful this week so I’m pretty nervous about having aweful people rip into me but I’m determined to use this thread to make me positive.

Soooooo tomorrow I will take a photo of myself (not posting at all) with all the fabulous flab and use it as my before photo for comparison when I hopefully tone up by the end of the month (as if)!

Whose with me ?

I started weaning my toddler yesterday but I got really really overly tearful today and not sure if it’s a combination of circumstances and weaning so will continue with the gradual approach tomorrow.

I’m going to note down the starting point and compare my progress on all those goals next Thursday and congratulate myself for every small progress I make..

See ya!