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My teens are saying they will ignore any new restrictions

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WearyandBleary · 21/09/2020 21:19

Big argument this evening. My teens are saying they will ignore any new restrictions because they are mixing at school/college anyway, so what’s the point of not mixing outside of school?

They are really furious. I am quite shocked at how angry they are.

Are they being really selfish? I’m so cross with them. How are other people’s teens taking the possibility of more restrictions?

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Remmy123 · 21/09/2020 21:21

They are not being selfish they have simply had enough of these restrictions! I would be more understanding.

EveryPlanetHasAYorkshire · 21/09/2020 21:22

I think they may have a point.

Bonkersblond · 21/09/2020 21:24

Mines coming back with the same argument.

kitnkaboodle · 21/09/2020 21:26

They are being selfish. They mix at school AND outside of school, they're together for twice as long (and in a more unregulated way) than if they were just at school.

It's immature to not understand this - so if they are 12/13 I might have some compassion with their point of view. If they are 15/17 they should be ashamed of themselves.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 21/09/2020 21:26

I can’t say I blame them. Our kids are being experimented on. In their position I would be furious.

Remmy123 · 21/09/2020 21:29

@kitnkaboodle really??? No - feeel very sorry for kids especially teenagers

cheninblanc · 21/09/2020 21:30

I see their point, its awful they are just back mixing and now its been taken away again

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WearyandBleary · 21/09/2020 21:31

I am really cross with them. I’ve almost come close to saying they should move in with their dad!!!

What a mess.

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kitnkaboodle · 21/09/2020 21:31

@Remmy123 Yes. I think that older teenagers ought to be mature enough to see that it's a balancing act between schools/businesses and socialising, and they don't have special dispensation to socialise as much as they like if the rest of us can't. It is tough on teenagers, but it's tough on everyone. Why should they think they're exempt?

Vallmo47 · 21/09/2020 21:31

I completely get where they are coming from - a place of despair and disappointment in how it’s all been handled. My 12 year old is mixing with a massive year group and yet he’s not allowed to go public swimming because our local leisure centre is closed. Riiiight.

AlexaShutUp · 21/09/2020 21:32

Sorry, I do completely understand their frustration, but they are being very selfish if they ignore the new restrictions. If they're just venting and letting off steam, though, then fair enough. Things are pretty shit for young people right now.

My teenage dd is desperately hoping that there won't be new restrictions imposed, as she has really enjoyed seeing her friends and getting back to her activities again. However, she accepts that new restrictions will probably be imposed, and it's just the way things are right now because we're in the middle of a pandemic - it hasn't exactly been a walk in the park for anyone. She will follow the rules, because she understands that a failure to do so will put others at risk. As an aspiring doctor, though, I'd be concerned if she didn't care about this.

ThreePipeProblems · 21/09/2020 21:32

I completely agree with them. They are spending all day with their classmates. I can’t see how much harm it will do seeing them out of school!

LetsPlayAGame20 · 21/09/2020 21:32

This would prob be my ds argument.. But he rarely goes out with his mates as we live so far from them all.
But he's been angry that his bubble is a whole Yr group and when they do an after school sport they play against other years so mixing bubbles..

HeyMacarona · 21/09/2020 21:32

OP I’ve had a similar argument with my adult DS this evening (21) he’s stayed home as he had been away from work/uni but now he’s back he wanted to go to the pub with friends (cases through the roof where we are). He gave in and hadn’t gone but he’s so angry, said he cannot love this way any longer.

Just like yours I totally get why they are upset, they have to mix for things that are not fun and stopped from mixing for things are.

Seriouslymole · 21/09/2020 21:32

I don't think you should be cross with them, I think you should be cross for them. Children of all ages, but particularly teens have been absolutely shafted in the handling of this.

I'm with your teens frankly.

HeyMacarona · 21/09/2020 21:33

Live not love

Spinakker · 21/09/2020 21:33

My mum is 73 and she's told me tonight she doesn't care about the new restrictions and she wants to keep seeing me and her grandkids and apparently my dad 68 feels the same. So I can't really blame your teens.

TempsPerdu · 21/09/2020 21:34

Good for them. Hopefully our young people are belatedly waking up to how much they’re being shafted by all this.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/09/2020 21:35

I don't blame them. They can be in a classroom with the same people for 6 hours a day, but can't with them outside of school.

annabel85 · 21/09/2020 21:35

They might not like it, but they need to follow the rules, it's that simple.

Ignore the laws of the land and its anarchy.

kitnkaboodle · 21/09/2020 21:36

@TempsPerdu how are they being shafted? I know it's unpleasant and frustrating for all of us, but you imply that teenagers are being deceived in some way?

Ginogineli · 21/09/2020 21:36

Yes i agree with them and I’m not alone

We are in northwest in a “lockdown” area

Dds are 15&14. They are out everyday with their school mates (also attend social clubs with them) and will continue to do so

They’re often in groups of 10- towns full of people. Almost everyone’s back at work, been on holiday, eaten out, been theme parks etc - all of which still open by the way

They go cinema and for meals etc in smaller groups of 3-4. They will continue as new rules affect homes and gardens only.

I will abide by homes and garden rule with exception of this week when it’s dds bday - I intend to have family round still

I don’t know anyone genuinely following new rules

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/09/2020 21:37

I felt really sorry for teens throughout this. At that age socialising was my whole life. Now I don't really care, but I'm so glad this wasn't happening when I was a teenager.

IHaveBrilloHair · 21/09/2020 21:37

I'm with them.
I don't necessarily agree, but I can see where they are coming from.

annabel85 · 21/09/2020 21:38

@WearyandBleary

I am really cross with them. I’ve almost come close to saying they should move in with their dad!!!

What a mess.

They've got a cheek when young people have caused this spike in the first place.