Sick of DH working from home. . .

[CornflakeMum]

DH is self--employed. Was working from a shared office, but gave it up when lockdown started.
We have a 'posh shed' at the end of the garden (previously TV/sofa/ gym equipment - mine and teen sons' hangout, basically). DH announced he would make that his office and gym equipment was moved to tiny boxroom upstairs where there is hardly any light and not enough room for me to do stuff on a mat .
Basically teens no longer able to use it for friends/ gaming etc during day (and it's lost some of its evening appeal, as now has an 'officey feel').

DH positioned his desk in the shed looking back up the garden towards the house. I now feel constantly watched during the day, and I feel uncomfortable sitting out on the terrace or having friends over with DH staring up the garden. He's made the occasional comment about 'how nice to have the time to read during the day etc' .

Anyway, for the last couple of days he's started setting up his laptop in the KITCHEN - spreading himself and his paperwork over the breakfast bar (which is also the main prep surface for any meal), taking and making phone calls and commenting on everything and anything - what time the teens are getting up/ what people are eating/ suggesting tasks he thinks people should be doing.

Honestly, it's doing my head in! Surely he's being unreasonable -he can't take over the whole house?
WIBU to tell him to p*ss off back to the shed, or give us our gym/TV room back?

[P.S. I appreciate this is a first-world problem, and we're lucky not to be in a one-bed flat etc]

I've got one of these. This week he's set up camp in the family room (where he should be, and where I worked at home during term time), the living room (where the TV is) and OUR BED. He ate stew at lunchtime IN OUR BED.

There were words. He's now going to buy one of your 'sheds' for the garden. I've had lots of shed pictures emailed to me today. I don't care, so long as he stops shedding notes everyfuckingwhere.

Tobee I've never been married and have brought my two daughters up alone (one is now an adult). As a result most of my traditionally married friends have fallen by the wayside because I've always been too busy and our lives have diverged.
I guess I just don't understand marriage. Compared to my life, where I have two jobs etc, the op does sound spoiled. However, I don't need to live with a man and my (very small) home is my own so perhaps it's me who's spoiled!
I probably shouldn't have commented or at least should have been kinder. Good luck op, I hope you can sort it out harmoniously 😊

I don't think it's unreasonable for OP to sit and read on her day off from work.

This notion that women cannot possibly sit and enjoy leisure time just because someone with a penis is working, is so fucking sexist. Especially as the penis owners typically don't have any issue at all enjoying their own downtime whilst their partners and wives are working.

'as the penis owners typically don't have any issue at all enjoyingtheirown downtime whilst their partners and wives are working.'

😂 exactly, my dh will happily chill while I lift his feet up and Hoover around him! Yet when he is working I always feel guilty for sitting down which is so silly but that is more me then him!

So what are you going to do OP?

Have you actually said he needs to move all his shit back to the garden office or another room so you can reclaim both the kitchen and the garden room?

I hear you. But I have a different problem.

I’m the one working at home while DH gets to go to work which is a 10 minute cycle away. He keeps popping back in the middle of the day, for lunch, or because he’s forgotten something, or because he’s been for a run. And I find it testing.

If the kids are at home it’s hard because they get thrown by it and our day gets out of whack. On the days they are in childcare it’s infuriating because the house is my workplace. We are having big renovation done so I’m mostly working in the kitchen and I find it so disruptive.

This whole thing is tough on us all!

Hating every minute of it here.DH working from home in living room as the computer is in there. Rang SKY to get it shifted and no engineer visits at the moment, so cannot move him to the spare room upstairs. He's been at home since March and ds too. I hardly want to make any conversation because it's all about his work/meetings/technical problems. He's also bringing stuff from his mum's house to sell also the kitchen is a mess

@Feellikedancingyeah

Hating every minute of it here.DH working from home in living room as the computer is in there. Rang SKY to get it shifted and no engineer visits at the moment, so cannot move him to the spare room upstairs. He's been at home since March and ds too. I hardly want to make any conversation because it's all about his work/meetings/technical problems. He's also bringing stuff from his mum's house to sell also the kitchen is a mess

I assume you want to shift it for the broadband connection because wifi not good enough? In which case, there are doodads (yes, that's the official term ) that you can buy where you plug them into the wall in the room you want to use and the room with the broadband and then use cables - one from the plug to the computer and the other from the second plug to the router.

We did this to get rid of DS' playstation in the lounge. Works a treat. They aren't expensive either. I think vary in price but start at around £20.

I just have a veeeeeery long Ethernet cable running from the internet box to my laptop rather than use Wi-Fi

He should be in the box room. Get your shed back!