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I'm losing friends because I have coronavirus

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 11:10

I'm not sure what I want from this thread, a hand hold I guess.

This morning I received my test results and I'm positive. I put a post on Facebook set to just family and friends, warning people who've had contact with me to get tested and highlighting the need to watch out for symptoms other than the textbook ones.

I'm worried about my elderly mum who has hypertension who I've had direct contact with so my anxiety is through the roof and I'm scared.

Somebody I've known for thirteen years jumped on the post taking the mick saying if I get run over by a lorry in the next few weeks they'll put me down as a covid death as it's not a real virus but a government ploy. I told him now wasn't the time for conspiracy theories and to leave me be, he said he was removing me because I "believe the government" and he blocked me.

Somebody else I've known for a long time came on saying how the virus isn't real and "they" have given me a positive result to keep the numbers up.

Both people I've been friendly with for a long time and had no idea they held these types of views. The last thing I needed today was to deal with this. I thought I was doing the right thing by warning people to look out for symptoms other than the textbook ones (because I had none of them) Sad

AIBU to think these people were never friends in the first place.

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Frazzled2207 · 22/07/2020 12:57

If I had covid I wouldn’t be announcing it to anyone other than those who needed to know.
However both those people sound horrible and I wouldn’t want to be friends with either

netflixismysidehustle · 22/07/2020 12:57

Good grief, how many people has OP been in contact with (and potentially infected) that she needed to broadcast it on Facebook rather than contacting them directly?

She said 16. Not outrageous if you think that it could be 8 couples or colleagues...

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 12:58

I have asked MN to move the thread to the coronavirus topic but haven't received a response yet.

Those of you who are personally angered by the post needn't worry it'll be out of your way soon enough.

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netflixismysidehustle · 22/07/2020 13:00

This is a strange place where you'd get more sympathy if you'd posted that you saw a giant spider in the kitchen.

Ignore the horrible responses and read the rest Thanks

corythatwas · 22/07/2020 13:01

As much as I agree FB can be a ridiculous place, I’d be grateful if someone I’d spent time with let me know they had it.

THIS.

Devlesko · 22/07/2020 13:02

You've been blocked by conspiracy theorists, be glad. Grin
Why tell the world and his dog, you only need to tell those you came in contact with.
It could be your anxiety though, that makes it more dramatic, perhaps ask the gp to look at your meds.
I'm sure most people know that some positive results don't follow the usual form of symptoms. I do and I've not been following this circus since about April.

ineedaholidaynow · 22/07/2020 13:02

@Frazzled2207 the OP did notify only the people that needed to know, she selected who the post would be seen by, not everyone on her FB

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 13:04

Thanks again to those of you being kind.

Despite the not so nice replies, it's helping me feel less anxious being able to chat on MN.

When the pandemic hit I spent some time on the coronavirus board trying to reassure other people who were worried. I made a thread (under another name change) sharing only positive news as I knew people were struggling. I should probably go and read it again Blush

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SengaStrawberry · 22/07/2020 13:05

YANBU and I don’t know why you’re getting a hard time.

I hope you have a mild case and that you’ve not passed it on to anyone x

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 13:06

I do struggle with anxiety yes, I take Propanolol on an as and when needed basis and have done today.

I'm not an irrational person, just very nervous when there is a reason to be.

I don't think being panicking about having covid is necessarily due to my being an anxious person though, I think most people would be if they were diagnosed surely?

I wasn't worried beforehand.

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MargotB7 · 22/07/2020 13:06

Ignore the horrible replies, there are some people who just cant wait to have a go at other posters.

The people who blocked you sound bonkers.

alreadytaken · 22/07/2020 13:07

It's a bit more than a cold for rather more than 1% of the population - some people confuse not dying with not being ill.

How old are you? If under 40, a white female and not diabetic you should feel better soon, I hope so.

Shieldingending · 22/07/2020 13:07

Wow OP you've had some nasty responses on here! I hope you feel better soon Thanks

rookiemere · 22/07/2020 13:07

Some really weird responses on this thread. I think - provided you posted in a factual way about it - it would be helpful for people to know that you have coronavirus, particularly if they have seen you recently or been to any places that you have been.

Plus it's likely if you have it then other people in the area may have it, so it's a good notification for people to take social distancing and hygiene measures seriously.

Joebloggsss · 22/07/2020 13:10

What made you do a test in the first place OP?

Mischance · 22/07/2020 13:12

I wouldn't be sorry to lose such batshit nutty friends!

Mischance · 22/07/2020 13:12

Hope you feel well very soon.

Gwenhwyfar · 22/07/2020 13:13

@Nicknacky

Why didn’t you just message the people you have had contact with rather than telling the world and his wife in Facebook?
Because if you don't put this kind of thing on FB, the 'it's all a hoax lot' will carry on thinking it's made up. They need to know there are real people that they know who have it.
Wecandothis99 · 22/07/2020 13:13

Wow some people on here being unnecessarily cruel but hey it's fine coz it's AIBU!! You're allowed to be worried and in that sense people react to things differently, if you want to tell FB then that's your shout. Your friends sound like morons but at least they're in good company with these lot!

corythatwas · 22/07/2020 13:14

What I don't get is the overlap between people who want end of lockdown/no return to lockdown and who resent testing/tracing/taking precautions not to infect others. Surely if we want the economy to return to normal the best way to ensure that is by not getting more people infected?

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 13:14

I'm a 26yo white female, no underlying health conditions that I'm aware of but I do have a weakened immune system from having sepsis last year.

Not diabetic.

I also smoke (well I did until this morning, I won't be picking up another cigarette now)

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Badbadbunny · 22/07/2020 13:16

Do you know where/how you caught it?

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 13:16

@Joebloggsss

What made you do a test in the first place OP?
On my other thread, posters suggested I got a test just to be on the safe side. I said it wouldn't be coronavirus but agreed it was a sensible thing to do.

It's thanks to them that I isolated, now know about and have been able to inform my mum etc.

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Gwenhwyfar · 22/07/2020 13:17

Totally normal to put personal news on Facebook - that's what it's for!

The test and trace system doesn't mean you're not allowed to contact people yourself.

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Yellowc · 22/07/2020 13:18

@Badbadbunny

Do you know where/how you caught it?
No idea unfortunately. I was at the zoo last Monday but it's unlikely to be from there as the symptoms began Wednesday evening.

My DH works in a busy shop so I suspect perhaps there.

Alternatively I've been going food shopping and have used busses a few times.

Visited my osteopath.

My DS was also in nursery two days a week before they broke up last Tuesday so I've told them too.

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