So so SO fed up and bored by home schooling and domesticity!!!

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I feel terrible saying this....obviously big love for my two DC, BUT...I'm sooooo sick of having them at home 24/7. Anyone else feeling completely over it?? I quite liked the break from the school run and the general rat race in the beginning, but now I feel utterly trapped by it - and ill at the thought the kids may not even go back in September!!! Pleaes tell me I'm not alone.

I try to count my blessings...(I actually have started saying them out loud in the morning like a mantra!! I have two healthy, happy children, I am grateful we have plentiful food, a nice house, we're not sick, we're okay for money etc etc etc. And I know there are so many people out there in an awful and scary situation...so I feel spoilt and selfish. BUTTTT.

I despise the home schooling thing - I find it a horrible mixture of tedious and stressful), I hate having zero time to myself EVER and the constant noise of my two DC (9 and 6) and the endless making of and cleaning up after food, and the always clean dishwasher.

I'm a freelance writer and am so lucky I've been able to not HAVE to work during this period - but I miss doing something with my brain so much. But if I try to take something on I then get super snappy with the children and feel guilty and stressed. So although I'm bored of the drudgery - I find the WFH thing impossible too!!! And I'm also in the middle of trying to write a book - but my creativity has gone awol and I have NO TIME. As my bottom heads for the chair it's like a homing signal for the children - MUM can we have a snack! Mum how do I do this sum, MUM MUM MUM MUM. ARRGHHHHHHH.

Please please someone moan with me!!!

I have found my people! Sorry to hear you are all having a crappy time. This week has been a real low for me as weather has been rubbish so havent been outside at all. Single parent working from home 4 days a week. One 11 year old DS. The guilt of pretty much leaving him on his own for 8 hours a day is getting to me. He is spending far too much time in his room. I am all out of fun things to do. Peaked early in lockdown with all the activities. He wants to have a pillow/sword/water fight every day which I hate doing but try as the guilt of working is getting to me! I'm also over family zoom quizzes also. Meh.

It'll be tough to deal with this for another year or two. Going be a long 6 months till Christmas.

Yes yes yes to all this...

I was one of the annoying ‘really enjoying lockdown actually’ people until about a week ago... I’m an introvert and enjoy being at home etc etc.

Not any more! Kids are sick of homeschool, I’m sick of WFH, keep dreaming of going to Paris or just town on my own, browsing in a bookshop, meeting a friend for lunch...

Oh thank goodness. I was beginning to think it was just me - my facebook feed is full of friends loving this extra family time.

DD is 12. She is not motivated to home school, so my day is spent juggling my work (busier than ever), with nagging/helping her. Making lunch, making dinner, washing and ironing clothes, cleaning the house (this has slipped - I'm desperate for my cleaner back!), meal planning, food shopping ... in fact, any kind of household need shopping.

We have not done any family activity in the whole of lockdown, it just isn't us. But the lack of support from 'D'H is really grating and I miss my normal life.

Does anyone else feel they could cheerfully punch their other half too?! It's the never being apart. And he is so annoying!!

I am so happy to have this thread. I am totally spent. Wfh with 12 and 6 year old who only work under constant supervision and cornered like rats in traps.
Next week I am actually really excited that I am booked in to give blood. 20 minutes drive either way in the car, waiting by myself quietly. 5 mins lying still donating blood then cuppa and biscuit before 20 min drive home. Literally cannot wait. I am even hoping their is a longer than normal wait

The grump that made me smile. It sounds like a great day!

I love this thread. Definitely helping me tonight

Oh God me too, juggling 3 lots of school work plus a teething baby. I'm not cut out for this. I've decided to ignore school,.focus on one or two things I think I can really help the kids with (shit handwriting, blind panic at hard maths questions, zero mental arithmetic etc) and work on those so they actually benefit from their time at home. Apart from that we're doing bare min maths so school knows we're trying, and kid led learning. So far planets (Cambridge Uni youtube) art tutorials (YouTube again), quiet reading and music practice, which is my thing so I can actually try to enjoy that. Mornings only, then we go free range in the afternoon. I suspect I'm failing them massively but my mental health is important if we're going to get through this at all... Having said that they watched SO much Netflix today it's embarrassing, but I got a nice quiet cup of tea while the baby napped!

I’m very reassured tonight to have found this thread.

I am also so sick of all this it’s unreal. I had a row with DD tonight, burst into tears and have been hiding in the bedroom ever since. DH is scared to death of me.

What started as a bit of a joke about how it would be nice for someone else to cook dinner, ended up with DD telling me to shut up, it’s my job. I said fine, I was going on strike at which time DH said it didn’t matter, there was always pizza. I have never felt so taken for granted.

I’m the one working 12 hour days still, doing all the meal prep, all the food planning, making sure the kids are up and doing schoolwork, one of them anyway. The other should be doing GCSEs right now and is as pissed off at the world as I am.

I usually work away a couple of days a week and I miss it so badly. They are the days I feel valuable when I am doing what I love. I’m trying to count my blessings but right now I really don’t like any of them.

Poor you @MeganChips - I would lose my shit at that and your DH should have stuck up for you. How old is your DD? Luckily mine cook for themselves or certainly help me but they are 13 and 15 so quite able to.

It is unutterably depressing. My DH is working from home and is always cross about noise levels. I have a 10 yr old that moans and groans and is totally melodramatic about every tiny thing he is asked to do, but God forbid anyone else cause a pencil to squeak. My 13 yr old has been good about schoolwork but I'm worried is actually becoming a recluse, so I'm insisting he go out and ride his bike, trying to get him to meet a friend now that is allowed. 6 yr old DD does ok with schoolwork if I sit with her but is badly missing her friends. They don't get on well at the best of times so it is constant bickering. It is so fucking relentless - I am so sick of cooking and clearing up and thinking what is for lunch. I am furloughed and can't see any way I can actually get back to work with no prospect of full time school on the horizon, and the breakfast and afterschool clubs we rely on have been closed down. I feel sorry for everyone in the family as I know it is crap for all of them but I am so done with it and with never getting a break. I have also more or less stopped contacting people as I have nothing to say, I haven't done anything, I have nothing to look forward to. I have seriously considered just walking out but where would I go? I am really angry at how badly this has been mismanaged and now we seem to be stuck with Covid and will just have to live with it. We were supposed to go to Canada this summer 😭 and if I lose my job we will not even be able to go next year. The summer holidays loom with no sports clubs or trips away to break them up. The idea that they are not even going back in September has broken me.

I have had enough of taking on the emotional load for the rest of the family (or so it feels) DH cross about the lockdown (aren't we all) DC upset also...feels like always trying to be calming and kind but inside as cross as the rest of them.

It's like fucking groundhog day isn't it. I wake up each weekday with dread in my stomach.

10 weeks the schools have been closed, but every bloody day my 8 year old has a meltdown about doing schoolwork.

My youngest is back at nursery next week so at least she wont be glued to the tv whilst I try to homeschool the others.

I'm sick of thinking about what's for breakfast, what's for lunch, what's for dinner. Sick of trying to motivate the kids to go out for a walk, they hate it because its "boring". We're all just bored out of our brains and need to do SOMETHING that isn't confined to these four walls.

It is like a long long groundhog day, feeling a little bit of a lift today as it is the weekend therefor no home schooling arriving over the screens, however it will be catch up emails for me from google classroom I guess about things not completed instead.

We just eat things like tinned tomato soup and bread for lunch now and often ready meals for dinner.

*passing all a stiff drink of your choosing

I don't know how I'd have coped in the UK. You are superwomen.

It was hard in Aus for me and we had nowhere near your level of lockdown.
We did 1 week of homeschooling and threw in the towel. Would have done nothing if it had to continue.

You are all amazingly strong.

Yes. My situation is different to a lot of you. I'm a sahm and my dh runs his own business. We have toddler twins and I miss going to toddler groups.

I want to work but childcare is expensive and I'm currently looking at retraining in the tiny slither of spare time I have. I just want to feel a part of something. It's so lonely being a sahm. I have a sahm friend I message everyday nearly but she's quite happy to stay at home.

Many of my friends and family are going back to work soon and I just feel left behind. My best friend has recently moved away so she can't pop over either.

I just feel so alone. I constantly work but can't afford nice things. It just feels like give, give, give at the moment. Dt's were due to start preschool in September but I don't have a clue what will happen there.

sprinklestone Toddler twins during this must be very hard.

It was the same here too. So much effort to get DS to write one sentence without whinging. We implemented a rule where he would only get a turn on the switch if he had done all his work without whining which worked for a bit. School and preschool were back this week and the change in both my children is incredible. There were a few more tantrums because they were both shattered but they're both so much happier and DS has happily joined in all the dance /physical exercise /craft bits of the school work that he would point blank refuse to do at home. We had the added joy of DH working nights for a week or so which was hideous when we weren't allowed out.

Monday to Friday i'm generally okay as only real difference is wfh rather than the office which i'd prefer, although not in these circumstances in terms of how messed up things are. I really feel for those struggling with kids all day, especially when trying to wfh.

The weekends have been a struggle for me since this started because all I do is go out for a walk in the local area and then sit at home for the other 23 hours. It's a relentless groundhog day with nothing to look forward to. I appreciate again though there are a lot of Mums struggling with kids and husbands who'd love the peace and quiet all weekend.

Morning everyone, I think that whatever home situation you are in this situation is now dragging. Today is currently not a good day, barely slept (redundancy looming) and now trying to separate the dds who are arguing .

Thinking this week was not the best week to start a diet, need some joy in my life and at the moment a pack of Jaffa cakes is the nearest to it.

Any advice gratefully received as the wall has been well and truly hit today!

It's relentless.

My job is busier than ever, as is husband's. We are so stressed. Both WFH and the bulk of housework, meals, shopping, kids, falls to me.

My teens are at a key point in their education. Getting heaps of work, just continuous homework style for hours, no interaction.
Then more hours on games.
They were quite active at school and fitness has reduced, although we do go out each day to exercise.

They spend 10 hours a day on screens and this is how I screwed my own eyesight up with work.

Thank you all, lovely people! I too have found my tribe. DD only does home school tasks if I'm physically glued to side. Said tasks are often ambiguous and/or terminally dull. I feel her pain, but JUST DO THE SODDING WORKSHEET ALREADY!!! And relax...

I am so sick of myself. I've become shrill, repetitive and humourless at times. Even the dogs are totally sick of us now. They've taken to kicking us out of the lounge by hogging the sofa at 10.00pm on the dot, in order to get some well-earned rest. Poor sods.

Advice: we've actually timetabled mini 'self-pity parties' into our week. DH gets one on Sunday evening, DD on Sunday afternoon, and my good self on Sunday morning. We bash pillows on the bed and wail (tongue in cheek) and it kinda helps. 15 minutes each. We do our best toddler tantrum impressions. Quite fun. Certainly helps DD and DH.