So so SO fed up and bored by home schooling and domesticity!!!

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I feel terrible saying this....obviously big love for my two DC, BUT...I'm sooooo sick of having them at home 24/7. Anyone else feeling completely over it?? I quite liked the break from the school run and the general rat race in the beginning, but now I feel utterly trapped by it - and ill at the thought the kids may not even go back in September!!! Pleaes tell me I'm not alone.

I try to count my blessings...(I actually have started saying them out loud in the morning like a mantra!! I have two healthy, happy children, I am grateful we have plentiful food, a nice house, we're not sick, we're okay for money etc etc etc. And I know there are so many people out there in an awful and scary situation...so I feel spoilt and selfish. BUTTTT.

I despise the home schooling thing - I find it a horrible mixture of tedious and stressful), I hate having zero time to myself EVER and the constant noise of my two DC (9 and 6) and the endless making of and cleaning up after food, and the always clean dishwasher.

I'm a freelance writer and am so lucky I've been able to not HAVE to work during this period - but I miss doing something with my brain so much. But if I try to take something on I then get super snappy with the children and feel guilty and stressed. So although I'm bored of the drudgery - I find the WFH thing impossible too!!! And I'm also in the middle of trying to write a book - but my creativity has gone awol and I have NO TIME. As my bottom heads for the chair it's like a homing signal for the children - MUM can we have a snack! Mum how do I do this sum, MUM MUM MUM MUM. ARRGHHHHHHH.

Please please someone moan with me!!!

I could have written this post. I’m stuck in a house with a STBXH who is dragging his heels on our divorce and potentially jeopardising the house I’m buying. I’m working full time and trying to encourage my DD to sit and work alongside me. She just wants to watch crap ok YouTube. She’s usually really full of spark and ready to learn anything which comes across her path. She’s definitely picking up on my apathy and I feel like I’m bringing her down.

I need more variety though. I used to be able to encourage myself with ‘coffee time’, ‘snack time’, ‘lunch time’ but I don’t care about food anymore. I just want to get through each day and get to bed. I feel so guilty for being a crap mum.

Yes to all this. I’m currently a SAHM, meant to be retraining in September but fuck knows if the course will be going ahead and, if it does, how I fit it round whatever the school system is like. I ought to be finding this easy because I don’t have to juggle work round it. But I’m not. Two kids, both autistic so that adds fun. One needs complete handholding through any work, usually has a 1:1 and can’t write so this is full on help. The other is able to work much more independently but cannot cope with ambiguity in work and regularly falls to pieces because worksheets on a computer are no substitute for face to face teaching. Tried a bit of online tutoring and lessons but they were even worse so that’s a no go.

Both schools being very realistic about work set, thankfully. But there is just so much day to fill. And I am used to having loads of down time, now everyone is here ALL THE TIME. I was going to get fit and go for runs and shit but I can’t work up the enthusiasm. Getting out every day doesn’t happen because we are bored of the local area and the kids get freaked out by others not social distancing.

Youngest is going back to school part time, which may help. But I don’t know if socially distanced school will work so he may flunk out. Eldest is not in a priority year, doesn’t have an EHCP and school is pretty full so being strict on who is considered vulnerable. Meanwhile social skills get poorer and poorer.

@TheGrump your post made me laugh as it reminded me of when I would get really stressed at work and start wishing I could have an accident on the way to work. Nothing super serious, but just enough that I’d be forced to take some time off.

The lockdown day of chilling at A&E made me laugh! It’s like the new equivalent of a spa day.

@TheGrump

Actually laughing aloud at your 'me time' trip to A&E! Glad you are ok

I hit GroundHog today, too.

I am grateful that 12yo DS is self-motivated.
But 15yo DS is floundering today. He's hit bored bored bored doldrums. High School has washed hands of him & of course, without his actual grades, we don't even know what 6th form he will go to.
I can't imagine him physically attending the 6th form... even though one of his A-levels his biology. You know, that LAB subject that requires handling materials & using equipment to measure & test and see things and working with lab partners?

I have 2 more adult DC who want to do vocational courses starting in autumn. No idea what will really happen. One of them is basically on furlough with nothing to do.

To those who say that they don't want to interrupt their DH when he is wfh, don't worry about it. He would get interrupted in an office! Tough! We get interrupted too.

I was going to get fit and go for runs and shit but I can’t work up the enthusiasm

This was my New Year's resolution this year and I was actually doing really well, exercising for 20 mins or so every morning after dropping the DC at school/nursery. I lost 5kg. Now I could exercise after DH has finished work, I've cooked & cleaned up... but fuck that. I'd rather grab that tiny bit of time for working on my art stuff (which I also had a plan to take more seriously over this year, but of course I can't do that either). I do still go for a walk with the DC every day but have put back on all the weight I lost.

I have no time to think properly or enact anything but the tiniest of plans. And there's no end in sight, I'm trying to mentally gear up for no full time school til August 2021.

This is the thread for me! I am so sick of it all now, the constant noise and relentlessness of it all and wake up with a feeling of dread every morning at the thought of homeschooling my 6 year old. Today will involve, amongst other things, doing fractions again which we have been doing for 2 weeks now. I can guarantee when I ask her to quarter Farmer Jake's fields again she'll look at me blankly like it's the first time she's ever heard such a thing and I'm talking a foreign language. School set a daily lesson plan which is long and takes forever to print out (my Sunday night fun activity). She is bored and doesn't want to do it, I'm bored and don't want to do it and I have to sit with her 100% of the time or she can't do it. She moans and complains, I lose patience and shout. The work gets done and she is slowly learning but I wonder at what cost. I'd feel so guilty and regretful if she falls behind and I feel guilty it's a horrible experience and my other two children get pushed to the side. School is starting next week for 2 days which is better than nothing but it's a small school and I can't see they'll be able to go back full time for a long time which makes me despair.

My 3 year old gets ignored while I homeschool for hours, she watches too much tv or plays on her own and she's had so much less 1:1 time with me in her life which makes me feel sad. She's in full on tantrums about everything - every meal and bedtime is a long painful experience and she's now getting out of bed and staying up till 10.30 most nights. I've taken to sitting outside her room till then to stop her wandering around and then as a result I'm staying up ridiculously late to have some down time or I'll go completely mad.

The baby is lovely, I'm so sad I have so little time to spend with him other than to attend to his needs, he's growing up so fast and we're both missing out because the other two dominate. He's also taken to waking every 2-3 hours so along with kids for 14+ hours a day I'm up and down all night and utterly exhausted.

We're all sick of the park, the streets, trips further afield are limited because there's a ton of school work in the week and everywhere is rammed anyway. I'm sick of the outdoors with nothing to do but walk. Then there's my husband, who I'm also sick of the sight of. He hasn't been working much so is around to help but needs direction in doing anything. He has no ideas or input in how to keep the kids entertained, he does no cooking, meal planning or prep and moans about the drudgery of it all. He starts a new job this month - I'll be pleased to see less of him and have some money but I'm also dreading having no help with all the kids and trying to homeschool while keeping them quiet downstairs and away from the spare room. I can't have a coherent thought or a moment peace, there's constant shouting, crying, demands, even my 6 year old asked me why I get my words so muddled. I dream about going back to work but my industry is in absolute disarray and will be until the threat level is at least a 2, oh and I couldn't anyway because of the kids.

I know this will get better at some point but it certainly feels bleak today, yesterday and tomorrow.

I hit a wall about 3/4 weeks ago, got sad, paranoid and lacked motivation to even make toast for lunch. It couldn't go on. So I just take it a week at a time now, day at a time if need be.

Home schooling was a struggle so I taught ours 11&9 how to change a bed, dig the garden, hoover, etc. Some life skills instead whilst we all cleaned the house.

We are similar in no finance stresses, I am a SAHM but usually have plenty to occupy myself with. This week DH back in office and DS1 back in school but still have 9 yr old here, he is missing his football and friends.

On the bright side, because however hard it's good to have one, we have got some big DIY jobs done, having a full declutter, have enjoyed no alarms, trying not to sweat what we are missing but it does feel like society wants us to go work, go school, go shops and that's it. Like we are becoming drone ants. Nothing that makes life enjoyable to look forward to or plan. It's pants. We all hit the wall or many walls.

I should add, I have absolutely no idea how parents who are both working and have young kids cope - my hats off to you, that would break me on top of everything else!

Yanbu , but I really do want to believe that kids will be back at school in September! Atm they're having way too much screen time while I'm desperately trying to get some work done. Homeschooling is at a minimum, I don't have time to try to educate especially when the students are fighting every step...

I am definitely with you. The monotony is mind numbing. Also feel trapped in the house to be on call for helping with school work stuff. Everytime I try to start any jobs around the house I get yelled to help. DH is wfh to be fair but I’m sure he tucks himself away and makes himself unavailable so he can avoid getting involved in anything to do with helping out in anyway. Sick of constant mess, moaning and knowing I can’t escape. I’m furloughed too but actually the thought of going in to the office for some normality seems good. I’m worried about my job too so probably bit more snappy.

I agree with pp re trying to wfh and home school. You people deserve a medal and then some. I would be utterly broken if I had to do both

I’m with you. I find myself fantasising about a life on my own, travelling around Europe on a train, drinking Latte whilst reading a book on the streets of Lisbon, Madrid, Barcelona, Cannes, Paris and Prague whilst the kids have a few weeks with DH who had conveniently been “flat out” upstairs in the back room whilst I have all the teaching, entertaining, walking dog and cleaning to do.

I am sick of him, sick of the kids and sick of this situation.

Anyway I’m off to the cupboard for yet another chocolate biscuit!

@Scoobysnacker9 I'm with you on being sick of everyone, especially DH and my sugar consumption has gone through the roof, I need to cut back as am worried I could end up diabetic!

Yep sick of everyone too! Hate having no time in the house on my own! I’m surrounded. Muttered under my breath yesterday “ bugger off the lot of you”.

I can only agree with everyone; I’m finding it tough though circumstances are much better than many of yours. 2 DCs, one is 17 and out of the house at his part time supermarket job for 2 or 3 days a week, which is a huge relief to the rest of us as he is miserable and missing school so much, and worrying about the impact on his exams and uni career. He is missing out on the parties and fun that go with 6th form. My DD is 13 and while she is getting on with school work remotely I can tell it is getting harder and harder for her and she is really down. She just wants her friends. I have no idea how to help. I am wfh and a major issue is our rubbish WiFi which means I can’t contribute to my job properly, and it takes hours downloading and then submitting the DCs school work. DH is commuting to London 3-4 days a week so misses the general grind of daily life a lot. He’s in shipping, what he’s doing is important, and he’s up all hours trying to increase food imports but it’s no help to the household! Which I resent while knowing this is unreasonable.

I just can’t see an end to this in the medium term and am feeling hopeless and depressed. I want to move too. Anyway, enough ranting from me ,I’ll go back to trying to download an excel spreadsheet without crashing my laptop.....

I was getting like that before half term. Daily arguments required to get ds to do his work, which was set overnight by the school.

Thankfully now, they are doing 4 live lessons a day on teams now with some homework and time allocated for exercise in the afternoons. Things are much better.

I’m determined to make the best use of time furloughed but heartily sick of gardening, painting skirting boards and cleaning/ironing though. I want to go back to work.

SAHM here, my DS is due to start reception in September so he's missed months of nursery. Add to the fact that he's late summer born....

The struggle to motivate my DD5 is enormous, she wants a break every 5 mins and it's completely draining. She wants to do crafty stuff and then gets bored after 10 mins. I won't risk her health by sending her back earlier than I feel comfortable. But by god, I'm in the verge of rocking in a corner!

The constant bickering is driving me insane, along with the seemingly constant meal prep, cleaning and tidying around them, not being able to have a pee in peace, it's wearing me down

I hear you!!

We hit a brick wall about a week ago. School work has gone out of the window and I’m sick of cleaning/tidying the same spot over and and over again.

My carpet is totally trashed 😭😭

Also sleep patterns are wrecked. Mine wake up at 7am and are still fucking about at 10pm, it’s a long day!

Completely!

* Muttered under my breath yesterday “ bugger off the lot of you”*

Muttered? I roared it yesterday!

I'm with you.
It should be fine. Im an ex early years teacher, SAHM, supportive DH with a 4yo and 22 weeks pregnant.
Im struggling with anxiety, letting my 4yo down, absolutely worn out and in need of me time.
My DH is so good and says to have time to myself but its not the same as when you're just home alone is it? 😩