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I just broke the rules

143 replies

OntheWaves40 · 24/05/2020 19:53

I doubt I’m alone. There is definitely a feeling of Do as I say and not as I do defiance going on.
I hadn’t seen my boyfriend in ages, we went for a walk in the park, it’s just not enough. So I went to his house and spent a few hours with him.
The risks are relatively low, as in he works from home etc but after being so diligent with the rules for so long I’m now totally disheartened by people just doing what the hell they like and now I’ve become one of them.

OP posts:
milkysmum · 24/05/2020 20:39

I don't think I know a single person in real life who is still sticking to the rules completely if truth be told. I'm trying my best but the whole thing is a complete shit show and non of the advice makes any logical sense so I can see why people have given up. For what it's worth I'm a nurse, I'm working full time and have been throughout, I'm a single parent to two primary school aged children, if I don't break lock down and have my sister helping me with childcare I'm completely fucked, that's the reality.

LoisMME · 24/05/2020 20:41

It's very soon to be announced that small gatherings can take place.
I don't see much problem to you meeting your boyfriend if I'm honest, it's no different to coming into contact with a delivery person or the post man in my eyes.
But you will get people calling you names under the sun unfortunately. You won't be alone in breaking the rules at least you held your hand up

Nixen · 24/05/2020 20:42

@LoisMME do you have sex with your delivery man or post man? Not the same then is it

dementedma · 24/05/2020 20:45

I've stuck to the rules as best I can. In a small flat with an adult dd with mental health problems, a bored and scared teenager and a husband who I dont wish to spend time with. I am also WfH, looking after my elderly mother and cant visit my father in his care home. Today, I went to the beach. In my own car, saw no-one, spoke to no-one, touched no-one. Less risk than in the local shop. So shoot me.

TotorosFurryBehind · 24/05/2020 20:46

OP, I don't think you did anything wrong.

TotorosFurryBehind · 24/05/2020 20:48

And I'm really sorry for the people on here who should be getting more/ better medical treatment, that sucks ☹️ But that's a separate issue to OP seeing her partner.

Lepetitpiggy · 24/05/2020 20:55

We are also 'breaking the rules' tomorrow. My daughter and her dc are coming over to sit and play in our garden while we watch them from the house.

She went to the nearest park on the day after lockdown was eased and phoned me in tears as there were so many people there, she felt unsafe. We have a large kid friendly garden and so they are coming to spend time in it, wave at, and talk to, us and be a hell of a lot safer.

Apart from work and shopping, none of us have been anywhere, so I made this choice after weighing everything up. It will hurt that we can't hug but that's how it is.

LEELULUMPKIN · 24/05/2020 20:57

As I understood it the "rules" were put in place to prevent the NHS becoming overwhelmed and to flatten the curve.

Not only has that succeeded but cases are declining.

We cannot stay locked down forever and that was never the intention was it?

At some point we have to try and regain some type of normal or else the fallout will be far worse than the tragic deaths so far.

We cannot all sit at home waiting for a vaccine that may well never come.

toolatetooearly · 24/05/2020 20:57

I got on a train today to got meet up with a friend in the park. To be honest, I wasn't even sure if I'm really allowed to travel to do that by public transport or not - I've lost track. We semi-socially distanced there and had a drink (maybe a metre apart rather than two).

Cornana · 24/05/2020 20:57

I am at risk due to illnesses and don’t go out or break the rules for my own safety. If other people break the rules, I don’t blame them at this point.

It’s my own job to look my health, and yeah it sucks, but it was no different pre-corona virus. Being ill or vulnerable sucks, but again, no different for me than pre-corona. Basically, I don’t resent healthy people going out and living their lives when the risk is minimal to them. The risk is higher to me and I simply have to deal with that and manage my health as I have always done.

Catastrophik · 24/05/2020 20:57

You did the right thing, OP.
My mental health is in tatters and I think the worst every day, I’d see my boyfriend if he didn’t live 400 miles away

TheSheepofWallSt · 24/05/2020 20:59

I think the issue is that the “rules” don’t make sense now- not that Cummings broke them.

I moved my mother in 2 days ago- because I had 2 choices:

  1. Send DS back to nursery on the 1st when it reopens or soon after, because I felt work would expect me to, where he would mix with children an adults
  2. Move my mother who like us has observed social distancing v strictly (she’s in her 50s) in to help with childcare

(DS and I had covid 1 month ago. Mother hasn’t and has no symptoms. We aren’t going out- none of us have been further than our garden since mum moved in).

The first is actively encouraged, the second against the rules- but I know which makes more sense from a contagion perspective. So I did the second.

And then tonight when I was railing at the PM on TV, my mum turned to me and said “but WEVE broken them too haven’t we?!” and I honestly could have wept for the amazing fucking job govt have done of gaslighting millions of people.

AnyFucker · 24/05/2020 21:00

Please don't turn on each other, everyone

Cornana · 24/05/2020 21:01

Essentially what I mean is my poor health is not relevant to anyone else’s struggles, nor does it need to be measured. If I’m indoors and not going out, someone meeting their friend is nothing to do with me. It’s always been the case of I’m disabled and can do less because of this. I’d never have a go at a healthy person for doing things I can’t do. I could rage that my neighbour has her family over for a BBQ every Sunday and I can’t, but in reality this is no different to me than when I get upset my neighbour can get a full time job and I cannot. My disability and health always limits me in some way, but I don’t judge other people for not being limited in the same manner. I just make the most of what I have. Feel free to disagree though.

Notmyrealname855 · 24/05/2020 21:03

The problem we have is that any actions like this mean the Gov can turn round and blame us for the second wave.

We also have a lot of cases here (Cumbria) and so many with it are taking 5+ weeks to recover...if a second wave comes we’re scared they’ll be wiped out :(

81Byerley · 24/05/2020 21:06

I can't believe those of you who are reacting like children and are going to go your own sweet (stupid) way. I reminds me of when I had children who complained "It's not fair, everybody else is allowed to do it".
For me, I haven't stayed in for all these weeks, relying on my neighbour to collect prescriptions, and on supermarkets to deliver my food, because some dim-witted politician told me to, I've done it because there's a virus out there that could kill me in a very nasty way. And I'm intelligent enough to know that by staying indoors, I'm one less person potentially passing the virus on to someone who is even more vulnerable than I am. Grow up!

tartanbow · 24/05/2020 21:10

lol realistically none of us know fuck all, we know what the government wants us to know, that's the scientist who proposed social distancing and DC not following their own guideline but some think its selfish if others now think it's a load of bullshit.

I think its foolish to blindly accept everything we've been told by these people

LoisMME · 24/05/2020 21:12

@Nixen
Who's to say your delivery person or post man hasn't sneezed on your letters,food etc postal orders then contaminated that for you to then pick up and touch your mouth/eyes.

Not as intense but germs can be passed that way also. Hence why everyone from Royal Mail went on strike

Marble2302 · 24/05/2020 21:12

I would never put my Mother at risk by moving in with her for free childcare. Coming too and from work putting her health at risk. It is beyond selfish.

I have observed the rules because I value the health of my family. I also know 2 people who have died of the virus. One colleague was unable to say goodbye to her husband. But you have your kids to visit because they call you crying in the park because there are too many people out (hypocritical as they are the twats in the park).

Anyway in summary rule breakers are cunts and should not be allowed medical treatment if they catch covoid.

Nixen · 24/05/2020 21:13

@dementedma driving to the beach isn’t breaking lockdown. You’re allowed to do that

MadameMarie · 24/05/2020 21:15

Very very foolish and reckless

I hope your conscience can deal with it if anything happens.

Coronabored · 24/05/2020 21:15

I don't give a fuck apart from me and my own. No one gave a shit before all this started, so let's not act holier than thou.

MadameMarie · 24/05/2020 21:16

I just broke the rules

So wrong

CompassNorth · 24/05/2020 21:16

@SqidgeBum

The government arent idiots. They know we are going to break under these circumstances, some faster than others. If they didnt want us to break, they would have had different policies, especially as all other countries in Europe have taken way more precautions. We are now each others enemies. We are now blaming each other. Please try not to forget that many people are reacting to the government's policy of 'go back to work, but dont see your mother'.

Excellently said, thank you.

ToffeeYoghurt · 24/05/2020 21:17

Just because you don't care about others doesn't mean everybody doesn't.
Some people genuinely do.