Why are there families in the supermarket queue?

[enoughofthebullshit]

I'm currently queuing around the carpark to get into the supermarket. All fine, everyone socially distancing. There are several families in the queue... mum dad 2 or 3 kids. WHY?!!! There are clearly enough adults in the house not to have to bring the kids! Single parents.. absolutely need to bring the kids... but not when there are 2 parents. They could at least wait in the car surly?! Once inside the shop groups of 5 wandering round will be difficult to distance from in isles. Idiots.

@Kcnana yes I did come on here to wings because I was bored while standing in the queue. I can't think of a reason that would require the whole family to have to go in. As others have said.. why not leave a parent and kids in the car? Even if shopping for other people (I do my grandparents shopping) , when I'm doing a big shop I do mine, load it in the car, I then go round again and so grandparents.. it's not that difficult to work out a way where only one person needs to go.

There will no doubt be lots of men who can't possibly be left with the children (or the sky will fall or something).

@enoughofthebullshit Just because you can't think of a reason, doesn't mean they they didn't have one. Even if they didn't, what is mentioning it on here going to achieve? It's inflammatory and reflects badly on you for judging people you don't know.

I've been infuriated for other reasons. I watched a grown man touch several crisp packets because he couldn't decide which one to have. I was about to go up to him myself and ask him not to touch the crisp packets until he decides.

The week before a mum picked up doritos and her kid complained he wanted a different flavour. Instead of her putting it back she passed it to her kid who put it back and grabbed another bag.

I watched an old woman have nothing but flowers in her basket. I know that people's mental health takes a toll and they need something to do.... But going to the supermarket JUST for flowers. At least wait till you need some milk, bread, eggs etc.

Lastly.. A guy was in front of me and he was buying 20 bottles of beer and that's it.

I'm not OCD and I can be unclean with my hands at times but I make sure I'm sensible at supermarkets. Some of these adults should know better.

We are shopping for 3 families at the moment due to vulnerable family members shielding.
We are both keyworkers with a family car that we share so when we have time to go shopping we do go together.

We don’t take the children, eldest is late teens so watches the littler ones whilst we shop.

We each have a list and, although we queue together, we take a trolley each as we enter the store (we do not stand in the massive queue with our trolley, bumping up and down kerbs etc and can’t understand why people do that. There are plenty at the entrance to the store) and just separate and get on with our own lists and then meet up at the car once we’re done.

You should see and hear the nasty and judgemental comments and sneers we have to put up with from people who don’t know us or our reasons for shopping this way.

‘Can’t shop on his own, needs the missus to help. She should come on her own. Probably can’t drive though but he could wait in the car’

‘Look at them pair with a trolley full of shopping each! There’s no need to panic buy!’

My DP had a man make a comment in the store about him not being 2 meters away even though he was.
This man kept stopping abruptly and telling people off ‘2 meters ffs’ etc.
My DP saw him confront a lady in a similar manner and the lady got quite upset and apologised and the man continued so my DP called over to him ‘hey, if you’re so hot on social distancing then perhaps try observing the arrows on the floor’ the guy hadn’t realised he was facing the woman in a one way system and he was in fact in her way.

It’s awful out there and I often feel like crying when we’ve been shopping.

In some cases they will be a family without a car, who need two adults to carry the shopping home and therefore have to bring the kids. Although really in that case one adult should go on ahead and do the actual shopping, and then other adult and kids set out a while later to arrive as adult 1 comes out.

The only couples I've seen let into our supermarket..

1. Person with guide dog and another adult... Taken out to queue and sent straight in
2. Person in wheelchair being pushed- again let straight in
3. Older couple, when the queue was only about 10 people.

Other times, one person has been asked to wait outside. A single adult with children is let in.

Need some stuff from B&Q when DH next gets a day off- but can send him alone to look at wood.

I watched an old woman have nothing but flowers in her basket

That sounds like my MIL when she's buying flowers to put on FIL's grave. I don't think it's something that should be judged.

When you tell me to fuck off that's where my politeness ends. I'm not exactly going to say thankyou when you say that to me am i

When you tell me to fuck off that's where my politeness ends.

No, it ended with your small-minded holier-than-thou judgement of an elderly person in the supermarket about whose circumstances you know NOTHING. That person bought flowers. You sneered and JUDGED to make yourself feel superior.

Perhaps though you don't actually know what polite means?

It, you could just mind your own business. As should the OP.

They’re only letting one adult per trolley here, unless an adult needs help such as wheelchair users etc.

My boyfriend is doing our shopping as I’m in two fairly vulnerable groups, he’s also doing shopping for his housemate who is shielding. Boyfriend can fit everything into a big trolley and it all fits in my car. His housemate eats lots as well (CF so high calorie need) and his shopping is often more than ours. So I really don’t get why people can’t shop for themselves and someone else without help.

I agree. My local supermarket is letting family groups in. I would much rather they enforced the "one adult" rule (and the one way aisles, as it's a free for all inside anyway).

00Sassy Did the tosser horrible man apoligise for going the wrong way, after being so horrible to that lady?

So... some people offer to shops for other to avoid spreading it, but then to save time they take the kids with them to be exposed and to expose other people to them.

Nope, still wankers I'm afraid.

I noticed a couple of couples and 1 family (2 parents and 2 small children) when queuing for tesco the other day.
I know some families take more than 1 member as they are buying for vulnerable relatives or multiple households, but most didnt even have a basket between them so clearly not going to buy v much.

I watched an old woman have nothing but flowers in her basket

I went today and bought 3 mulitipacks of crisps

I have just been into town for a couple of bits of shopping and have seen a family of 6 sitting on benches taking selfies and eating. They then tried to go into Wilkos and kicked off as they weren’t all allowed in! Selfish twats!

I agree with you OP, it's thoughtless and selfish to wander around a supermarket as a family group, as it makes social distancing much harder and is generally more awkward for everyone. There are some good reasons why people might do this, but on the whole they're doing it just because they want to, and some large families seem to treat it as a family trip out, rather than just shopping for essentials.

The lockdown must be very hard for large families living in cramped conditions, but even so it isn't fair on other people to do this.

And that is my last post to this person. I don't want to waste my time with someone who's first post is to tell someone to eff off. You may be a snowflake that can't take different opinions but your first response shouldn't be "f**k off"

If you want to go against the governments advice to only go out for exercise and essiantial items.... Then I genuinely feel sorry for your family.

I saw a friend in the supermarket on Wednesday with her DH.

Friend has MS so I was surprised to see her out.

She told me that she’s had a shielding letter but as she always does their shopping she’s carrying on and that her DH fancied getting out of the house for a bit. I was a bit . She pushed the trolley and did all of the packing, he wandered around getting in other people’s way and just popping the odd thing in the trolley.

To be fair their 14 year old ds had stayed at home.