Anyone not actually miss seeing their parents ?!

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Pre lockdown my parents visited once a week, they have done since I had my oldest DC who's coming up 4. I'm a SAHM and I've recently had a new baby. I just don't miss them visiting. It's actually so nice not to have the pressure of them coming around ! They just moan about everything from my basic biscuits to the layout of my house ( we bought what we could afford.) They are very critical and whilst I certainly appreciate parenting is damn hard they weren't good parents. I feel quite free because of not seeing them.

I send them a few snapshots pics of our day now. Although I'm finding I don't even want to ask about theirs. If I venture into "the how are you" territory it's all doom and gloom. They are fine, no at risk
medical issues and not actually even 70. My mum has always had a bit of a depressive air to her. She was always I have it worse if you ever mentioned a worry or concern to her when I was growing up.

I have occasionally video called my mum since lockdown ( which is painful because she can't seem to follow anything or answer when I call her. She's always making the lunch/ having/ lunch/ thinking about making dinner/ making dinner/ eating dinner / tidying up from Dinner ) So maybe she feels the same huh?! We live quite far away so maybe this will be the end of weekly visits ?

Anyone else not miss their wider families ?

We normally see my dad three time son a year (Christmas, Easter, and a week in July-August) and we phone every two to three weeks although that's a bit more frequent now. We missed going up at Easter, and I'm not sure about the summer yet we'll have to wait and see.

I'm non contact with my mum. As lockdown started I did have a wobble and think I should contact her but I think it would give her the green light to carry on with her behaviour - she's controlling, manipulative and very demanding and enjoys spoiling things for us. The DC and I have gotten into a good daily routine - housework and schoolwork in the mornings, baking, arts and crafts etc early afternoon, then out for a walk mid - late afternoon. This would piss my mum right off and my phone would not stop ringing, if I didn't answer it she'd be "worried" so I'd be guilted into answering it and if I told her I was in the middle of something she would twist it that I didn't want to speak to her - I'm happy to speak to her in the evening when it's calmer and DC are in bed but she doesn't want that. (She's said she doesn't want to call of an evening🤷‍♀️)
Im also happy that I'm not having to put up with her interfering, I believe she would be discouraging me from doing the schoolwork with the DC and trying to get us to do other random stuff that we have no interest in. She is very negative about a lot of people and I'm glad receiving earfuls about that.

Meant to also say that my mum would expect the phone calls to last at least half an hour and for the DC not to interrupt. She wouldn't want to speak to the DC either so the phone call wouldn't even be for grandmother grandchild relationship. It's so sad but it's her own doing.

We're all missing our PILs, phone/FaceTime very regularly and really looking forward to seeing them.

Suits me fine. I am phoning slightly more frequently now, out of duty, but since nobody can do anything there is not much to say and the conversations are mercifully short unless my mother is on a rant about something.

What I am shitting myself about is this notion of contact clusters. My mother would expect to be in mine.

I hope my children aren't on this thread.

Fucking delighted not to see my Inlaws....the lockdown happened as tensions were rising and honestly I couldn’t help smile at the timing.

And they live an hour away sooooo...... we can’t even nip around to wave at them through the window.

I’m pleased.

(I’m not a psycho but they’re really bitchy and toxic and when the started to criticise me to my husband I decided I was finally done.)

I dont miss mine. My sister created a family what's app group for my parents and siblings so I'm hearing from them more now then I did before. Constant messages ALL day which I then see all in 1 go after work. I've realised how annoying my sister is (love her really but wish she would shut up for a day).

I probably see my mum less than once a month but speak to her countless times a day so not missing her at all. She would poke me for saying that

Not my parents but I don't miss the in laws. It's been nice having an excuse to stay away. Literally only ring if they want something doing for them. Never make an effort to see DD yet lie to their friends and act like they see her multiple times a week. Always a sob story. Want favours doing only when it doesn't suit us and we've explained why (working, etc). It's been bliss.