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To think baby boom jokes are insensitive?

34 replies

WeepCeyTear · 24/04/2020 16:04

Just seen a post on my facebook about how "after this pandemic, hospitals better prepare for the baby pandemic", but surely people shouldnt be trying for babies when so many treatments have been cancelled?
We dont know how long this virus will affect our lives for but i'd sure be annoyed if my hospital treatment was cancelled but the hospital was full of purposely pregnant women

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Redglitter · 24/04/2020 16:42

My eyes are rolling all the way down the street at the idea

😂😂😂

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roarfeckingroar · 24/04/2020 16:45

ODFOD

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justchecking1 · 24/04/2020 16:47

It would be fair to predict that anaesthetic services might be stretched thin if there is a backlog of elective surgery to catch up on at the same time as a higher than expected level of Caesarean sections to perform. But I don't think you can ask people not to conceive based on that, any more than you can ask people not to have their knee replaced 🤷🏻‍♀️

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crazychemist · 24/04/2020 17:01

Surely teenage pregnancy rates are going to be down through the floor? There won’t be any pregnancies from careless one night stands either. Plus people who know they will likely lose their jobs and therefore not get maternity leave might hold off? I wouldn’t be surprised if it went down.

From a personal perspective, I am pregnant. We’d been trying unsuccessfully for a couple of years, and had been told we were unlikely to conceive naturally. We did. I’m happy about it, and if that annoys you, then yes, I’m afraid I would think you were being a bit of a fun-sucker.

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mumofmany81 · 24/04/2020 17:19

@Frazzlerock

I'm really sorry that you've lost so many babies - I know that losing my baby girl was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through so I can only imagine having to go through that multiple times. I really hope that you don't lose this one as you think you will.

Despite feeling very sad for you that doesn't mean that what you're saying makes any sense. To say that more pregnancies = more dead babies, more heartbroken parents and more unwanted babies going into care. You then say you don't like people making jokes about having babies as it's not a joke but the hardest thing you can ever go through. Those things don't all tally - yes there is a risk with every pregnancy that you can lose the baby and there are some babies who are unwanted and go into care but from your post it makes it sound as though no pregnancy ever ends in a healthy baby or that if there is a baby boom that all of those babies will end up in care.

Every September we midwives are always run off our feet - you ask any midwife and they will tell you that it's the busiest month for us. That's because it's 9 months from Christmas and new year. Those babies are no less wanted or more likely to go into care, the pregnancies are no more likely to result in heartbroken parents than at any other time. I understand how you can end up oversensitive when you've lost babies but what you're saying doesn't really make sense. You say that having babies is the hardest thing you can do but that isn't really the case - it's losing babies that is the hardest thing you can do :-(.

To the OP - do you think that basically life should come to an end then? We should all presume this is the end of the world and that no more babies should be born ever? What about those people who got married later in life and know their time to get pregnant is running out? Should they stop trying for a baby because you think your appointment might be cancelled in 9 months? So nobody is to get pregnant in that time? It's going to be incredibly boring for us as midwives with nobody to care for because you don't want some completely non maternity related appointment cancelled. What you're saying makes no sense. Generally we have our own anaesthetist who specialises in maternity - epidurals and spinels and they can be moved to icu at times such as these. So women who are needing them now were already pregnant before this pandemic started and cannot change that now. In 9 months time it is likely that things will be going or gone back to some type of normal and everyone will be working in their normal department. Theatres who are trying to catch up with their work load will still only have a maximum amount of theatres to use and will be using their own anaesthetists as per usual. Maternity have their own separate theatres and use our anaesthetist. I'm really struggling to see why this means that people who are getting pregnant at the moment are selfish. It just doesn't make sense to me at all. People continued to have babies through plague times, Spanish flu, world war 1 and 2. Life continues because it has to.

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Pinkblueberry · 24/04/2020 17:26

Err I don’t think the idea or the ‘joke’ is that people are suddenly ‘trying for babies’ because their bored - people would supposedly be having sex because their bored. Sex can = babies, not always intentionally. That’s the joke. Don’t take everything so literally and seriously OP - yes you do sound like a fun sucker btw.
And appointments cancelled because of ‘purposely pregnant women?’ That’s a new one 😂 and quite hilarious actually. Maybe you’re not such a fun sucker after all...

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showmethegin · 24/04/2020 17:33

I've just got pregnant after 18 months ttc, operations, tests and a miscarriage. Do you think I'm ridiculous.

Life goes on, don't be so bloody stupid.

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ChipotleBlessing · 24/04/2020 17:53

@Frazzlerock I remember when I was struggling with miscarriage and infertility I was extremely sensitive to things people said surrounding pregnancy and babies. If you can do it, staying off Mumsnet for a while would probably be good for your mental health. There are just too many triggers here

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blvdbrokendreams · 24/04/2020 19:11

Having to deal with a pandemic was the last thing on mine and my husband's mind when I fell pregnant. I'm coming up six months now and Its not fun. People want to conceive. There gonna do it

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