My lovely Dad is gone

[Cherrycee]

Its the middle of the night and I just can't sleep after the traumatic 24 hours I've had. I wonder if anyone else is here?

This horrible bastard of a virus took my lovely Dad yesterday and I'm really struggling. The illness came on extremely quickly. He was given oxygen but he just didn't respond to it at all. I got a few minutes with him before he went but he was unconscious and I was so shaken I could barely even say anything to him, I was just a mess. I told him I loved him and I fell apart and had to leave the room.

We can't even have a proper funeral. This is just so so unfair.

The media is full of stats and commentary but with little focus on the victims and their families, unless they're the 'worthy' ones who were young or had no underlying conditions. My dad may have been elderly but he could have had a few more years left. His life mattered and he's more than a statistic.

I don't know how to cope with this. Can anyone relate?

Oh, worriedmama so sorry. It really is horrible.

So sorry OP for your loss

Your Dad sounds so so lovely.
He will have known you were there with him and how much you loved him

I'm so sorry. This is heartbreaking

I'm so sorry to hear this, it must be such a shock. You poor thing xxxx

My condolences on your loss Op. You are right, it is a bastard disease. Your Dad sounds lovely and his life and death definitely mattered. It is life changing losing a parent, but in time hopefully, you will be able to recall all the wonderful, funny times you spent with your Dad without that awful, jagged pain that happens when you have just lost someone close. For now all I can tell you is that you will get through this, you won't remember how, but you will. All the best to you and your Mum.

So sorry for your loss.

So very sorry to hear of your loss.

I wanted to tell you about my DM's funeral, I hope it helps.

My DM died in January (pre Covid) and we had a very small funeral, just five family members. We were able to sit in a semi circle together close to the coffin, rather than in rows at a distance. It was really lovely, very intimate and personal, we shared some thoughts about her and played some music she enjoyed. At home we opened a bottle of champagne in her honour, and toasted her memory. We all felt that was the day we said goodbye, and it was really special.

I know it's not what you would have chosen but it will be a "proper" funeral, honestly.

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family and all those losing loved ones to this awful virus.

So sorry OP - this virus sucks & somehow people are still not taking it seriously. Sending warm thoughts to you & your family 💐💐💐

Sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry xx

Sending you a hug OP. I’m sorry for your tragic loss. The shock will stay with you for a while I think. I lost my dad not through Covid but a fatal heart attack and he was never conscious for me to say goodbye. That crushes me and still does today even though it’s almost been a year.

Stay strong OP. We are all here for you x

So very sorry for your loss xx

Sorry for your loss

I’m so so sorry for your loss. It’s just the most heartbreaking circumstances when families can’t be with their loved ones at the end and then can’t support those left behind in the way they normally would. I despise this virus. Take care and be kind to yourself .

I'm so sorry for your loss.