That's it I'm done

[babasaclover]

Right that's it I'm done. I've been locked in this house since January. First due to health now Coronavirus. I'm done been positive and thankful for having a garden etc - i need to MOOOOOAAAAANNNNN.

Anyone else thoroughly fucked off with it all? Never thought I would miss work and mundane stuff.

Work has gone mental, but it might only be temporary. I cancelled my leave and have no idea when to take it. I will have no childcare for the summer so I suspect I will be taking it then.

Kids are getting. Ore addicted to screens as we are all losing enthusiasm with various things. Was planning to do gardening this weekend but the weather doesn't look very promising. Hopefully we will manage a walk though.

My mum is ghosting me because I don't have enough empathy. Just flipped when she turned on me saying 'it's OK for me as I am young and don't have to worry'. A bit rich when I have two at risk sons who I will eventually have to send back to school and two jobs both in jeopardy. On top of this having to work 10 hours a day whilst looking after 4 kids. I never moan but to say I have it easy it's a piss take!!

@JemimaPyjamas it's just shite isn't it. It's nice to be able to moan about it here without being told I'm being unreasonable. I think people forget that we can be disappointed and upset over our own circumstances AND also have sympathy for those in much worse situations. They aren't mutually exclusive.

I hear you all. I'm utterly fed up and had a very bad day yesterday. I was made redundant on 31st January and set up my new business as a self employed massage therapist which was going pretty well. Then this hit...I lost all my income overnight and am not entitled to any government help as I don't qualify for the self employed scheme and apparently DH earns too much as a nurse (yeah, right) to claim for UC. Then we got Covid-19 - DH is sure he picked it up from the hospital from a patient not known to be positive and staff were told not to wear PPE with patients not known to have Covid-19. DH had to isolate in a room in the house for a week and I came down symptoms 4 days later and still having to look after everyone including DCs whilst trying to distance myself from them and wear mask and gloves. To say it's been a nightmare is an understatement. We're both still recovering 2 weeks on and I feel like an utterly crap parent with DC being left to fend for themselves at times and way too much screen time. I have no sense of smell or taste (it's been 8 days) so can't even enjoy some nice food and a glass of wine to take my mind off this nightmare. I have no idea when DH will go back to the nightmare awaiting him at work, whether he'll have the PPE he needs and if he'll bring the virus back again to our DC. I have no motivation for anything and feel myself sinking into depression which I'm not allowed to do as I'm supposed to be home schooling again from Monday which I'm dreading! Life certainly feels pretty shit at the moment and I have no idea when I'll see my family again who live in France - we haven't seen them since last summer...moan over! Thanks for letting me vent....

I know how terrible this is for so many people. I really don't think the Government has any idea and just seems to have one priority - to stop what are mostly old and sick people dying al at once now though they may well die next years. I don't agree that is the greater good balanced against people's personal freedoms never mind economic livelihoods many of whom are falling outside all the state programmes.

I am very lucky as I have worked from home since 1994 and for the last 2 or 3 years gave up meetings and all international and UK business travel so in a sense started lock down early. Lots of my clients are not so fortunate and people are really suffering both on a personal basis/are sick from this thing or financially.

One thing that might help some people financially is that some on furlough are allowed to get a full time job eg with Tesco whilst also receiving their 80% of wages via furlough. Others can by law go to homes to do caring which might even include caring for a small child so a parent can work from home or otherwise. If you are in financial meltdown don't assume there are no ways to make money at the moment. Eg my son drives a delivery van of good full time under PAYE and has never been so busy. I bet they are recruiting drivers currently. The Hermes delivery man yesterday who came here said it is like Christmas week every week at present - so many deliveries - I was not sure if he was happy or sad as he is a nice man but always incredibly fed up - it is just his personality.

Do get help if you feel really bad. The NHS is keen to emphasise help for those who are suicidal, depressed and all the rest remains. One reason we have put the country into the biggest depression since 1929 is because we want to ensure there is NHS care not only for covid people but others too all at once.

People with underlying conditions and older people are not disposable people who will die “in the next few years”. And a society that discounts its more vulnerable in that way is not one to aspire to.

The main point however is that without lockdown the number of Covid deaths would vastly outnumber the number which lockdown may be causing and be even more damaging for the economy. That’s the calculation that they are making.

I see what you are saying xenia but the issue is that if hospitals get overwhelmed (not just treating patients but also their own staff being off) thenlots of people with treatable conditions will also die and those people could be from a wide range of backgrounds- children with asthma, road accidents, people who have fallen off ladders, people with gall stones, sepsis etc etc

The lockdown has been necessary but we do need a conversation about what we are going to do to get out of it.

Anyway, in the spirit of the thread, I am still in bed and can't be arsed to get up

Everyone has a right to be fed up - this is a rubbish situation (but is for the greater good)

I’m massively fed up as I’ve had what appears to be this bloody virus for a month and can’t shift the fever but can’t get any medical testing as I’m not critical - worse still I can’t even enjoy the copious amounts of wine and chocolate I had hoped to consume if there was to be a lockdown as I feel too rough. My kids are climbing the walls from lack of attention. I know deep down I still have it better than many but Aaaaaarrrrgghhh (and breathe)..

issue is that if hospitals get overwhelmed (not just treating patients but also their own staff being off) thenlots of people with treatable conditions will also die

This has happened before the hospitals got overloaded - cancer treatments, important surgery and preventative scans have all been cancelled, and lots of hospitals are still half-empty. We are nowhere near capacity yet lots of people are not getting the medical care they need. So WTF was the point? "Protect the NHS" seems to mean that anyone non-Covid just has to put up and shut up.

Hospitals are not overwhelmed. The Nightingales are empty. Covid wards are busy. Other wards are deserted. Not all NHS staff are “on the front line” despite the angels and heros narrative.

I’m not sure how much I care about “protecting the nhs”. I’ve paid millions (literally) in taxes. I’m not the only one. How do we not have the ability to deal with this?

I also don't really get "protect the NHS" slogan - I've paid into it all my working life. The NHS should be there to protect US, not the other way round. Protect our health system by not going to the GP/A&E until you're basically dead? That seems batshit and the wrong way round.

I want hug my dad. I want there to be some joined up thinking. We cannot possibly wait for a vaccine before lockdown is over. We have to start opening up society. Yes more people will die. I get that. If the NHS has capacity, then more people will have to catch it. I don't see anyway round it.

I want to have this discussion without being told that I am uncaring. It is just basic maths and economics.

There is a good subreddit called "LockdownScepticism" for anyone that wants to discuss this without being shouted at

Yes he’s a good mumdiva
At the beginning of lockdown, I saw a bit of Boy Scout streak emerge. I think he thought we were going to live on rice and beans a few days a week.
I nipped that one straight in the bud. I got onto the butchers and ordered a stash of meat, for which dh was entirely grateful.

It’s true what they say..the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Just waiting for our 4 th delivery now 👍

Good cook..mumdiva

Wynona..I would not judge anyone who wants to visit a relative who is ill, vulnerable or just not coping.

Take precautions and do it.
Whatever it takes
The politicians appear to be doing what they like

I am bored.

Really bored.

I'm being very good and sticking to all the rules. we have high risk people in the family and know why it's important.

But I am just so very, very bored.

And getting fat.

Perhaps we'll all boost the economy by emerging out of lockdown and suddenly having to buy whole new work wardrobes in a couple of sizes bigger?

Thank you for this thread.

I am sick of all the cheery let's be positive crap.

I am a teacher and have to continue my lessons but hate not being in the classroom with the kids.

I cried on the phone yesterday to the dentist's receptionist. I'd only phoned for some advice but I have dental anxiety and am so terrified of not being able to access dental treatment if I need it. I'm in my late 40s and was crying on the phone.

I go to bed early and get up late at the moment because it's the holidays and what else is there to do?

If we survive the virus, lockdown and recession is going to kill us.

BeijingBikini thanks for that link. Really interesting. Before this thread I thought I was the only one that was a bit sceptical.

It is good to know that I am not alone in my cynicism. Thank you.

Need to join the coronamoaners pls! Am drinking loads and feeling crap because of it. Hating work as it's stressful and worrying to try and keep the business afloat and I feel responsible for the 300 people who work for us. Not sleeping very well. House is a total state. Leak under the shower makes me think the bath will fall through the ceiling at some point. Sister has left abusive partner and is in another country and am worrying that she isn't safe as he is a psycho. Dog looks like a sheep and won't let me clip him. Neighbours are DIYing and happy to be furloughed. Feeling murderous towards them. Adult DD and I are driving each other mad having just adjusted to having our own spaces when she moved out a couple of years ago. Oh yeah and my skin looks like shit, am sick of cooking every night and just want a McDonald's. I miss hugs. Generally irritated, sad and frustrated at all of it. And cheerful people being jolly can all just fuck off. There, I feel better now. I really need to go have a stern word with myself and mentally prep for weeks more of this emotional rollercoaster! Thanks for starting the thread OP

children with asthma, road accidents, people who have fallen off ladders, people with gall stones, sepsis etc etc

seems to be the ones avoiding the hospitals so A&E is empty though...I mean something needs to change as even with lockdown those other conditions etc are still being untreated possibly due to non -attendance but not only that the cancer and routine treatments.

I saw a letter written about this in the Times yesterday from a breast cancer surgeon in private hospital which had supposedly been asked to take NHS patents but it wasn't happening, they were quiet too. Why is this not happening?

Yeah. I have been made redundant, as I keep whinging. I had that job for nearly 13 years and couldn't even go for a goodbye drink with people I have worked with since 2007. I am spending my 12 weeks notice on lockdown with a toddler, while still paying for nursery to keep his place so I can actually job hunt, probably in 2022 at this rate. DH is brilliant but WFH anyway so his work life is fairly normal/busy. I miss help from grandparents, shopping for summer toddler clothes, NCT friends, the park. We have missed our holiday and will miss another in June. I have horrendous toothache and my dentist appointment was cancelled. And I am sick to the back teeth of the same walk.

Glad to have found this thread, can I jump in? Have been trying to find the positives as I'm sure everyone is, but woke up today so grumpy and fed up and needing to vent!
DD (3) had a cough and fever on the first day the self--isolation measures were first announced, so we've had an extra two weeks of isolation/lockdown and my patience is wearing thin.
5 weeks in, have exhausted pretty much every craft activity known to man, watched Frozen 2 at least a billion times and I am just done.
Also, heavily pregnant and desperate for a gin and tonic Baby is overdue with no signs of appearing any time soon, cue annoying texts every day from well-meaning friends going 'Have you popped yet?' and the like. I'm SO uncomfortable and desperate for baby to arrive, but also dreading giving birth under these circumstances
Really, really bored and fed up, and missing friends and family. Have watched everything worth watching on Netflix, can't be bothered to read, and just scrolling through news/social media which is all about the bloody virus I even miss Brexit
Have also been baking constantly due to boredom (lucky to still have flour!) and eating ALL THE THINGS...I'm going to be the size of a house by the time the baby is born

Beijing, thank you v much for mentioning the sub-reddit site. I have just been reading it...

I am so fed up. My granddad is in a care home and i have not been able to see him for 4 weeks. I miss him dreadfully. My holiday in May has been cancelled. I was really looking forward to going on holiday. The football has been postponed. I feel as though there is nothing to look forward to and i am sick of crying my eyes out over the slightest thing.