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Is your whole family shielding?

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ofwarren · 13/04/2020 12:00

If you have a shielded person in your home, are you all staying in?
We have a shielded child and would struggle to keep to social distancing at home so we have all stayed home.
I can't imagine it would be easy to keep a distance, especially from a young child.

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FourTeaFallOut · 13/04/2020 15:22

The country needs to start back up and people need to work and go about their business.

Yes, of course. But the economic imperative to resume work and school won't shift my risk of dying if I catch it. I might have to move out of my home so that my family can get on with things.

PhilCornwall1 · 13/04/2020 15:25

@FourTeaFallOut it won't remove mine either, but my job is the priority to keep food on the table and a roof over our heads.

mrsbyers · 13/04/2020 15:26

Not here , my husband has been working

FourTeaFallOut · 13/04/2020 15:38

I'm not sure how many of us within the 1.5 million who are of working age who have been asked to shield and who cannot work from home and/ or who have other family members who are traipsing in and out of the house all day under normal circumstances or what we will be asked to do after mid-June and how that would be supported. All I can work out what options are feasible in my family.

crazyontheweekend · 13/04/2020 15:42

@ofwarren - so young aren't they:(
What type of transplant did your son have? How's he doing?
My DD had a kidney.

PhilCornwall1 · 13/04/2020 15:48

I've sorted what I'm doing regardless of what the government suggests going forward after this is lifted (for the reasons I already mentioned). At least I'm not then waiting around and worrying about what they might suggest, which will more than likely be just as unworkable as the shielding is now.

Perhaps it will increase my risk of dying, but I'm at peace with that as I know I'm going to go earlier than normal in life anyway. At least if I still have my job we are ok financially and if I die, my wife and boys will be more than ok. It's a risk I'll take.

Alone07 · 13/04/2020 15:52

2 of my children are shielding, we all have to shield (husband is a key worker and has to work so is staying elsewhere).
There is no way I can stay away from my child who has Autism.
And I have 2 young children who just dont understand to stay away from their brothers.

FourTeaFallOut · 13/04/2020 15:59

which will more than likely be just as unworkable as the shielding is now.

Maybe we can all be shipped out to New Zealand, they'll have this nailed in 8 more weeks?

tobee · 13/04/2020 16:03

We're shielding Dh, who is a transplant patient. However, he's also having to have in centre dialysis 3 x a week atm. He can drive himself there fortunately.

We're all socially distancing each other. I've been out to pick up bags of socially distanced shopping from relatives (also by car) and live with 2 adult dc.

We only go into the back garden other than this and I've been sleeping on the sofa for over a month. We are incredibly fortunate to have a small garden and two bathrooms.

Haven't cuddled anyone for weeks and don't know when we will again. Just can't think about it. Just do it. Thank god for my oversized teddy bear

QuaverQueen · 13/04/2020 19:27

I know what you mean @tobee, I crave human touch, DH live dangerously a few dats ago and touched my toe with his - it was bizarrely erotic

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ofwarren · 13/04/2020 20:01

@crazyontheweekend
My son's is liver transplant. He had it done at 6 months old so hasn't really known any different.
One good thing is his nurse specialist told us that one of their child patients has already caught the virus and survived. I think the fact that they are young is still massively in their favour.

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Patchoulicloori · 13/04/2020 21:39

I'm very glad to find this thread. We have all decided to shield together as partner just had heart transplant 2 months ago. Like others here we took our son out of school a week before they closed. Lucky that I can work from home, but like others here I'm concerned about the future as looks this won't go away any time soon. I think there's a big lack of discussion in the media around the type of issues people here mention. I wonder if it's worth thinking of joining a group to try and advocate for our types of families moving forward? Maybe collectively making demands? Anyone have any thoughts on this? Anyway, thanks everyone for sharing--i knew we weren't alone with these dilemmas but just couldn't find anyone else talking about them til.now. we live in a small flat, one bathroom, small rooms, and have no garden so can't get out safely. Obviously this can't go on forever, as it's not fair to our son. But what would be feasible?

RogueSymphonies · 13/04/2020 21:42

People aren't shielding if you are going out or walking the dog...

tobee · 13/04/2020 23:00

@QuaverQueen

Onmyown1 · 13/04/2020 23:06

Yes we’re all shielding. I’m the shielded person with my 22yr old dd (furloughed) and my 2 ds 8 & 9. I’m working from home.

Edujaded · 13/04/2020 23:47

I'm sheilding and so are the rest of the family. We can both work from home as we are both teachers. Once the schools reopen, I've no idea where we'd stand. Quaver queen, thank you for the sacrifices you are making.

Aveisenim · 13/04/2020 23:52

Yes we are.

user1498647726 · 14/04/2020 14:11

I'm the shielding one, and my wife is a key worker in NHS, and she's moved out, and it's me, our 2 old, and my MiL has moved in. Wife works full time, me part time, and I'm able to work from home. Really feeling it today. Been three weeks.

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