I am really struggling to find a definitive answer. My DD lives in London in a flat within the home of one of our family while she is at Uni. She also works in London. We had a series of events, she was finishing her final year project that needed to be submitted in person, she had to go to work, the Covid situation was not, at that stage, the critical situation it is now and I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I live 30 miles away with DS, who is 9 and ASD/ADHD. My diagnosis and surgery were fast and at that point, I was able to rely on a small group of trusted friends to help with DS. Then lockdown happened immediately after my surgery.
I now have a significant problem. I will be having active treatment going forward at a hospital some distance away and will need to make a daily 60 mile round trip, DS can't come with me for this. I now can't ask any of my friends for childcare obviously. All are pulling their hair out wanting to help but we all know that isn't possible. If I am able to get DD home for the foreseeable, then she can be here for her brother and it will take an enormous amount of pressure and worry away for me.
Unfortunately, the other occupants of the house DD lives in have not been so careful with isolating and staying in. DD has stayed in her space almost all of the time. None of the other occupants have had any symptoms. DD had a cold around 4 weeks ago and as a precaution, isolated for 7 days because she has a public facing job that requires face to face contact so knew she was at risk. Nothing materialised from that.
I had hoped to rely on ex-h for help as he lives very remotely on a farm with few people around. However, his delightful cunt of a girlfriend OW took my diagnosis and the Covid situation as a reason to ban DS from their property and effectively end contact. She did not want ex-h "helping" me. She also went on holiday with her son last week, apparently, and now there is no way on earth I can send DS there as the risk to him and me is far too great.
DS and I remain well and symptom free. We are trying to find the safest way possible for DD to come home. I am thinking if family member she lives with can drive her home and she isolates for 7 days here, then it should be OK? As I say, nobody she lives with has had symptoms. I think this would fall under "essential travel" and "care of a vulnerable person". However, so many threads on here have said that things like this simply can't happen and we would be hugely irresponsible for even thinking of entertaining it.
I really don't know what to do, what are your thoughts on this?