Anyone else not see the point in doing anything?

[Stupidanduseless]

This could go on for months / years. I can’t see the point in getting dressed. Or eating. Or doing anything with the house. I know it’s the same for everyone but I feel like there’s no happiness or anything to look forward to - apart from eventually coming out of isolation and catching cv anyway and as I’m in a high risk group it may kill me anyhow.
I’m a one woman entertainment team for my dc for 14 hours a day and I hate it. Im too tired to show any enthusiasm. I just want to sleep and sleep and sleep. My parents are elderly and I might never see them again if this lasts for two years. I understand this is everyone’s new normal but I feel a bit like - this isn’t living, being locked in the house waiting to catch a virus.
I understand why and we will adhere to it but there is a large large part of me that wants to just give up now.

It sounds like you have depression. But get a grip! You have a dc to look after. Be strong for her. It’s tiring and hard. I’ve got 3 kids and a dog. My youngest is 3 months and woke 5:30am for the day. I’m tired, but the sun is shining! Come up with a plan. Sit by the window and feel the sunshine. If you have a balcony or garden sit outside. If not, open the window and let the air come in.

Motivate yourself. Try healthy recipes, fun activities with your young one. YouTube exercise video. Limit screen to just two hours a day. Read, take baths.

This is only the beginning! You can’t give up now!

Why does he need to hear what you're saying? That's creepy af

Wanted to add you have got a few things going on that are making it harder with elderly parents and a health problem, so understandable you're feeling depressed. Being unprepared doesn't help. I managed to get a few things sorted out in time, but as I'm not keen on watching too much TV or not a great reader, I'm thinking board games! Haven't got any, plus my OH is not into them or playing cards I'm F*** on that score anyway!

OP, why did your husband say no to you calling a friend unless he could hear what you were saying??? You know that isn't normal right?

You can call whoever you like . Is your husband trying to control you?

Yeah he’s controlling and this has given him total control over everything.
I need some space but I’m not getting any.

I think I’d feel better if I felt the restrictions would make any difference but I don’t.
As many people will die, but just over a longer period of time and some more will die in lockdown because they can’t get food / medicine / dv / suicide.

It is about not overwelhming the health service with all those deaths at once.

What you say about your DH is really worrying. Is he acting in other ways to control you?

If you look at Wuhan, they're lifting restrictions now and people are being allowed out in a limited way. It's not lasted 2 years there.

Your main problem is your partner. He sounds horrendous.

Well he usually gives me some money every month cos I’m a sahm but he’s stopped it because I won’t need to spend anything. Which is true I guess but if online stuff stays as it is i could order the odd thing online if desperate and it’s my mum’s birthday in a couple of weeks so was thinking I might send something directly to her now but can’t.

Agreed the issue isn't lockdown it is your abusive partner.
Use this time and space to plan to leave and change your life when it is all over.
Oh and develop severe constipation due to stress and lock yourself in the bathroom for long periods with a book .

It is hard OP, when I had kids it wasn’t with this in mind. I love them but struggled with motherhood at the best of times. We’re only a few days in and already I’ve had enough, I just can’t cope with their constant needs and it makes me so sad. I should never have been a mother at all.

I'm more concerned about your husband than the virus right now.

You have a 98? Percent chance of coming through it, but a real 100 per cent certainty of living with a controlling man.

No wonder you are depressed and I hope somebody can signpost you towards some professional support

You have more problems than a lockdown, OP. I'm sorry you're going through this. Can you take the kids and go live with your parents?

I can hardly wait for when lockdown gets lifted and then a new virus emerges at some point in the next 3-5 years and we all get to go back into our merry little worlds of meditation and language learning

Hi OP - if you haven't seen it already, read this thread/article to give you some hope!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3859245-This-pandemic-may-be-short

Watch this......

What he said about the elderly is heartbreakingly true.

OP I sympathise but I feel the opposite. Since we have to be here all day 24/7 I want to make my home as clean and nice to be in as possible. I thank God for the internet so we can chat and listen to music and swap anecdotes and support each other. I am doing some online courses. DC are doing remote learning school day today, that their school has set up.
I'm getting on top of the washing mountain.
It will be fine, and if everyone stays home, it won't be like this for too long.

No, I don't understand your point at all. I have one goal in all of this, which is to stay alive despite being in my 70s with health problems and if I were to let myself descend into a quagmire of hopelessness, I may as well leave the house and die now.

I don't understand how you can be so negative. If you don't do it for yourself, do it for your DC. What are you teaching them with all this doom and gloom?

Hi OP, that sounds really difficult and your husband sounds very controlling.

Have you been in touch with any domestic abuse support organisations in the past? If not, do you think it might be helpful to speak to the National Domestic Abuse Helpline online (see www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/Contact-us), if you feel like it would be safe to do so? Women's Aid also have an online chat service, which is open 10am-12pm Monday to Friday www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-launches-new-live-chat-service/

I know it might not feel like a lot, but please know that these services - and other local services - are there to support you through this really difficult time and are doing everything they can to support women who are currently stuck in houses with men who control or abuse them

Another vote for what the fuck is wrong with your "D" H?

This isn't right. I think you know that. Maybe now is the time to start getting together the evidence of finances etc that you will need in the event of RUNNING LIKE FUCK away from this controlling man when the lockdown is over.

@Mamabear12 get a grip?! Are you for real?! What a horrible thing to say to someone struggling with their mental health! OP I hear you, I started a thread to support parents struggling with their mental health and will link or below for you if you want to come and chat with us in the same place as you

Here you go @Stupidanduseless

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3857880-Thread-for-parents-struggling-with-their-mental-health