How long will I have to be alone? When will my baby see his dad, and family again?

[Hafod]

His first year is such a big one. So many milestones. They are going to miss so much. Some of them haven't seen him since he was 6 weeks old and now they may not see him again for what, 18 months by some estimates? I'm devastated. I don't know if I can handle being away from my family for this long. My dh is still working, my son and me have to isolate away from him which has broken all of our hearts. How much will he miss? We will never get these moments back. Now it's just me and a baby. I'm so worried about my mental health with this.

You're being way OTT, families don't have to isolate from each other if they're not ill, and then only in a separate room.

Try and calm down a bit

If you've isolated the past two weeks, and your parents have as well then surely you can see them? Maybe even sleep over?

My husband is a support worker. Cycles to work, uses PPE there, clothes in the washer as soon as he gets home, straight in the shower. You need to look after your mental health and have your husband home.

Thank you all. I just got over bad PND. I think it's all a bit much right now and I'm struggling so thanks for being gentle. I will have a chat with dh and see. I'm just so scared of dying and leaving my baby behind, or god forbid the other way around.

Bring him home. Take precuations such as good and regular hand washing and a shower/clothing changes when he gets in from work but don't push yoursef to a breakdown for this. Stay safe but stay together.

If you've isolated the past two weeks, and your parents have as well then surely you can see them? Maybe even sleep over?
Absolutely not. This is terrible advice. You should not mix with anyone outside of the people you live with, unless it is essential..

If you've just had bad PND OP you need your DP around. Theres no point isolating from him if its going to put you in a bad place mentally. Is he a key worker? If not I don't reckon he will be allowed to work for the full time anyway.

If you've isolated the past two weeks, and your parents have as well then surely you can see them? Maybe even sleep over?

NO, NO, NO, NO. THIS IS SHIT ADVICE

Hi op.

I just wanted to say I hear everything you're saying. I have my dh here, we have no other home for him to go to anyway. But regardless, I feel just like you do. I am not strong enough for this.

If you don't have underlying health conditions that put you at particular risk of complications if you do catch the virus, I would have your husband at home. It will make things a lot easier having both of you there and, as long as he washes his hands properly and tries to keep his distance from people at work as much as possible, the risk is relatively small. I have lots of sympathy, but I think you're probably going further than you need to at the moment and making your lives harder than they have to be.

(You didn't ask, so ignore this next bit if you want - it's meant with the best of intentions... ) You might want to talk to someone like your doctor or health visitor about anxiety, it's really common to be much more anxious after you've had a baby, and there are treatment options, even in these circumstances.

Op have a young baby too, dh is out at work for now. He throughly washes his hands through the days, and when he gets home showers etc.

We will all likely get this eventually and we will isolate as a family.

Dh needs to look after baby if you get sick and vice versus, and you both need to help if baby gets sick.

I would get dh home and manage this together. You'll all be fine.

What kind of work is he in?

OP, sorry to hear you've had PND. It sounds like you'd really benefit from having your DP back at home. This is a very anxious time for everyone but you need support right now OP

My DP still has to go out to work. I don't know what I'd do if he didn't come home everyday! We're not in a vulnerable group so sticking together is absolutely fine. It's just everyone else you need to avoid (except necessary trips to the supermarket)

Get DP back home and supporting you through this.