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DS won't even wash his hands

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 15:47

DS who is 22 has COVID almost definitely. He has loss of smell, extreme tiredness and a cough. He has been in bed all day, just got up and is making stuff in the kitchen. He is refusing to wash his hands. I'm already annoyed because he went to the gym all last week despite knowing he was coming down with it. I've got a massive week at work and am asthmatic.

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TheLadyAnneNeville · 22/03/2020 16:31

You are not going to work for 14 days.
Throw him out on the street is he won’t comply with the directives. He’s being stupid and that stupidity could kill you and others.

koshkatt · 22/03/2020 16:32

He doesn't have SN but he is adopted and our relationship is difficult

As an aopted person I find your comment really unpleasant.Hmm

And irrespective of the fact that he is adopted he is acting like a complete dick. And you are enabling it.

n00bMaster69 · 22/03/2020 16:33

Yes he is being very irresponsible and stupid but no need for the piece of shit comments

But a person who knowingly risks infecting people with a virus that could kill them is a piece of shit, how could they not be?

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:34

My asthma is well-controlled. I use the preventer regularly and have upped my dose a little. Should I buy a nebuliser?

After DS was born 10 years ago I was hospitalised with a lung infection.

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rwalker · 22/03/2020 16:34

You are where you are rights wrong why not useful. I'd just explain that you are now frighten as where he's sort of breezed though it could be VERY serious for you.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 22/03/2020 16:35

You are HUGELY at risk from you DS.

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:36

Koshkatt, I'm not sure why my comment offends you. The adoption is not thte excuse for his behaviour, it is a contributing factor to my relationship with him.

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FoxEars · 22/03/2020 16:36

What a filthy person

Of course he shouldn't be washing his hands.

That's disgusting

He needs to wash his hands

FoxEars · 22/03/2020 16:37

That was meant to be washing his hands

Make him

user1486131602 · 22/03/2020 16:39

Wow!

I asthmatic too.
My son (18) stopped going to school and socialising with his friends BEFORE the govt told him to as he didn’t want me to get anything.

Your son seriously needs a kick in the pants!

You also, in as much as, you are tolerating his behaviour!

You will not have a big week at work, as you now have to self isolate.

son should go stay with one of his ‘herd’ as he clearly doesn’t think you are part of that, selfish little prat! Maybe one of those silly cows will take care of his illness.

Time to take care of yourself. I pray you don’t have it xx

rwalker · 22/03/2020 16:40

Forgot to add poster wants advice not a kicking

BovaryX · 22/03/2020 16:42

His behaviour is despicable. Selfish doesn't come close. As other posters have said, he could kill you. You should tell him to leave.

xcess2184 · 22/03/2020 16:42

Kick him out. Even without all the corona stuff he sounds disrespectful and at 22 it's not your duty to provide him with a home.

BodiesMakeForGoodFertiliser · 22/03/2020 16:48

Well we know who is going to be looking for a rental in few months....
Him. Op. He must move out. There is a lack of respect and then there is a blatant disregard for your safety.

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/03/2020 16:48

Should I buy a nebuliser

I can only go by what I have read online and studies, which state there is benefit to nebulising saline. I only get asthma with bronchitis. But I used to get bronchitis and / or sinusitis at least 3 times a year. Haven’t had it since.

Sending you a pm

TheSheepofWallSt · 22/03/2020 16:53

OP this might not be very helpful to your situation, but more generally the coronavirus family is GENERALLY less triggering for asthmatics than say, RSV or whatever.
No data yet on asthmatic adults and the
Impact of covid 19, but asthmatic children don’t yet seem to be faring any worse than non-asthmatics.

Potkettlexx · 22/03/2020 17:05

Selfish filthy little shits!

OP he needs a good telling. You’ve got asthma and he still refuses? He needs a good telling!!! Moron

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 17:05

Fortunately I am physically very fit and exercise a lot. He probably thinks that means I am not at risk.

Before COVID happened he was going to work overseas and then find a flat - we were weeks away from him leaving. Now I just feel there are months ahead of us and he is incapable of respect. I feel incredibly sad about his behaviour because I have worked so hard for his life to work out. He has a very good degree. In the long term he will be ok.

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Potkettlexx · 22/03/2020 17:06

I’m that aghast and disgusted I said the same thing twice!

Sunflower20 · 22/03/2020 17:07

I feel for you OP. He is extremely selfish.

TryingToBeBold · 22/03/2020 17:09

You probably would have caught it anyway... regardless of if he was washing his hands or not.
Hence why you having to self isolate if you live with someone because odds on you are likely to catch it anyway.

Iloveicedtea · 22/03/2020 17:11

He is a piece of shit. An ignorant, arrogant, entitled and selfish piece of shit.

Is this the way you talk to your own kids? I wouldn't be surprised. Selfish? Yes, a piece of shit? You shouldn't call anyone else's child that !

Eleanorrrelephant · 22/03/2020 17:13

What a selfish, inconsiderate, arrogant twat of an excuse for a human being. Vile creature

Potkettlexx · 22/03/2020 17:24

@Iloveicedtea

Is this the way you talk to your own kids? I wouldn't be surprised. Selfish? Yes, a piece of shit? You shouldn't call anyone else's child that

He’s not a child-he’s an adult. A very selfish adult at that. You make it sound like he’s about 11 and he isn’t!

He’s her son.....

Josette77 · 22/03/2020 17:24

I feel for you, but I'm also confused about him being adopted relevant in this? Does he have trauma related issues?

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