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DS won't even wash his hands

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 15:47

DS who is 22 has COVID almost definitely. He has loss of smell, extreme tiredness and a cough. He has been in bed all day, just got up and is making stuff in the kitchen. He is refusing to wash his hands. I'm already annoyed because he went to the gym all last week despite knowing he was coming down with it. I've got a massive week at work and am asthmatic.

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Butchyrestingface · 22/03/2020 15:59

Your son needs to leave the house...permanently.

I accept this may be easier said than done given the current circumstances. do you have an outside shed?

But presumably he didn't just wake up one morning with this personality type - how long has he been this way?

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:00

My work is from home, I'm not leaving the house. I'm teaching and have to give my course online for the first time so it's been very stressful getting everything ready.

Sorry if that wasn't clear.

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SwimForBrighterDays · 22/03/2020 16:00

Put a bucket in his room and a lock on the door.

Devlesko · 22/03/2020 16:01

Tell him to live elsewhere then? Three year olds are managing it, does he have sn?

Yeahsurewhatever · 22/03/2020 16:02

You’re self isolating now anyway so stop stressing about your big week at work, because it’s not happening.

Put a lock on all the cupboards and fridge (you can order one on amazon) - if he can’t use hygienic food prep standards he can’t use the kitchen.
Literally, why won’t he wash his hands, the dirty b***d
I can accept someone forgetting when they’re ill and feeling rubbish, but to just refuse when asked, that is weird.
Once you’re all out of isolation kick him out. If he was going travelling he’s got money to rent somewhere.
If he can go the gym he can get a job in the supermarket rather than stay in bed all day.
He’s acting like a loser.

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:03

He doesn't have SN but he is adopted and our relationship is difficult.

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Winterwoollies · 22/03/2020 16:03

He is a piece of shit. An ignorant, arrogant, entitled and selfish piece of shit.

Symptomatic and attending a gym? Refusing to wash his hands at home? Bleating about herd immunity. He can fuck right off. If he does have it, you’ll have been heavily exposed to his filth, meaning you’d likely get it a lot worse. Kick him out.

Yeahsurewhatever · 22/03/2020 16:04

Just saw you work from home so ignore the first part of my post!
However still you need to stop stressing a bit, it is what it is now.
No matter how much he washes his hands you’re sharing a house with someone who is sick, you’re probably going to get it.

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:04

My work is happening, but I am not leaving the house.

Any conversation I start that he doesn't like he gets aggressive very quickly and guilt trips.

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Glassio · 22/03/2020 16:05

if he was trying to kill you in any other way I'm sure you would have him out the house ! get rid -hes old enough to survive on his own if that's his behaviour.

1066vegan · 22/03/2020 16:07

Unless you are in a flat, you don't need to kick him out on the streets. But I do think he needs to be sleeping in a tent in the garden unless he apologises and changes his behaviour immediately.

His immature, selfish attitude is inexcusable, especially as you're asthmatic.

GreytExpectations · 22/03/2020 16:10

Wow at the the replies on here. Yes he is being very irresponsible and stupid but no need for the piece of shit comments and to suggest the OP kick her ill son out of the house is not helpful at all. Newflash: plenty of parents have their adult children live with them. Not everyone kicks them to the curb on their 18th birthday as many on here seem to suggest

fluffdeloop · 22/03/2020 16:11

they would if they were threatening their life ??

GreytExpectations · 22/03/2020 16:13

What a ridiculous comment @fluffdeloop the OP probably already has been exposed to her ds before he showed symptoms. I'd struggle to believe many parents would literally dump their family member in the street

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:13

I'm not going to kick him out.

I have just sent him a strongly worded message explaining how ill I could be and he has message back sorry I'll wash my hands and stay away.

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mencken · 22/03/2020 16:13

Note everyone, OP is working from home. So the only person her arrogant shit of a son may possibly kill is her as she is asthmatic.

tent in the garden, now. If no garden - out. I realise that puts others at risk but they can at least step away from him.

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 22/03/2020 16:14

But I do think he needs to be sleeping in a tent in the garden unless he apologises and changes his behaviour immediately.

What world do you live in? 🙄

OP, fact is - you're too nice.
I'd absolutely not allow a child of mine at any age to tell me they aren't washing their hands in my house. I would hit the roof and he would be finding somewhere else to live quick smart.

That PP's suggestion of making him sleep in a tent. Ffs.
The OP can't get him to wash his hands, how do you think she will march him out to a tent, that's presuming they have a garden and a tent, so ridiculous.

GreytExpectations · 22/03/2020 16:14

People on Mumsnet are truly vile in a time of crisis.

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 22/03/2020 16:15

I have just sent him a strongly worded message explaining how ill I could be and he has message back sorry I'll wash my hands and stay away.

So that's it? You sorted it just with a message?

So basically you just needed MN froth before hand?

What a waste of time.

fluffdeloop · 22/03/2020 16:17

its not ridiculous in the slightest. she said he went to the gym all last week knowing he was Ill. hes knowingly probably infected others and still doesnt give a shit. hopefully with the new powers coming Into force these people will be arrested like they are being elsewhere.

mummmy2017 · 22/03/2020 16:17

I'd start wearing a mask anytime he comes into the room.
Wash everything before you use it.
Also print off the newspaper report of the £10,000 fine for infecting others.
As him if he would be ok with jail the me on his record.

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stormykettles · 22/03/2020 16:17

Well, that's the reply I got. I don't know what else to say to you. It most certainly isn't enough for me.

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OverUnderSidewaysDown · 22/03/2020 16:23

He’s been incredibly selfish and stupid, but he wouldn’t have been quite so stupid if he hadn’t been influenced by the words of our supposed leaders concerning herd immunity. They have blood on their hands for that initial stupidity. If we can believe what is being reported elsewhere it was Dominic Cumming’s view that they should go with the maverick herd immunity policy. And twat Boris blindly agreed. They are responsible for at least some of your son’s attitude.

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/03/2020 16:23

Have you got you medication up to date? Nebulisers etc. Are you well informed about good breathing exercises? Eg www.healthline.com/health/copd/breathing-exercises#diaphragmatic-breathing

I almost certainly have Coronavirus. I am taking a bunch of supplements recommended by a toxicologist/ Chinese medical doctor and nebulising saline. It’s a protocol for people with lung diseases - copd, Cystic fibrosis etc. All helping me loads.

Please stay safe.

CarolinaPink · 22/03/2020 16:29

OP No idea why you've had such a hard time here. Good luck dealing with your son - could be he's beginning to understand what you've told him.

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