Just realising how selfish and self centred some of my friends are

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I’m not falling out with anyone but I’m finding that some of the social media posts added by friends/acquaintances have lowered my opinion of them. A few people saying they’re not going to socially distance themselves, still going clothes shopping, going to pubs, letting their kids out to play with other kids etc. There’s also been posts that have shown how caring and thoughtful most of the people I know are too. I just think extreme situations tend to highlight the true nature of a person. Anyone else notice that?

Most of the people I know are distancing themselves seen lots of statuses etc . I think things will have to change . Shops are mostly closing from today, pubs closed yesterday . Some play grounds are closed .

I think it will change relationships.

I saw a friend say on fb (in a group talking about a potential corona vaccine that moved on to general vaccinations) say 'I am unvaccinated and so are many people. We are all alive and well'.

This is quite a highly educated. I was shocked that they were encouraging people to not vaccinate AND the she thinks all people who didnt have vaccines are alive and well. She went on to point out that vaccinated people die as well, as though someone claimed that being vaccinated saves you from dying of anything, ever.

Definitely made me look at her differently.

‘I just think extreme situations tend to highlight the true nature of a person. Anyone else notice that?’

Yes!

All of the people I know are distancing or have just gone into isolation. If I had friends who didn’t I’d end the friendship

Some people have really gone down in my estimation.

How can they be going to pubs? They closed yesterday.....

Pub in our town did "take-away" through the window in plastic glasses, lots of people milling about outside.

I’m not just talking about posts added today. I know people cope differently and it’s taking time to sink in how serious this is. I was just really perplexed to see a rant from a friend (not a close one) about how annoyed she was people were critical of her whole family’s refusal to self isolate. She’s always seemed a kind person but now I don’t think she is.

I will probably be flamed and called selfish. I had every intention to distance myself from others, however I went to the supermarket this morning for essential provisions. I did not intend to go anywhere else due to social distancing.Unfortunately I could not get any loo roll, paracetamol or cold capsules, soap, kitchen roll etc. so I went into town and tried Boots, Superdrug, Savers , Wilko and a few independent locals . I still have none of the items mentioned. Am I considered twatish because I ventured out? Perhaps if CFs had not panic purchased, the rest of us would now have sufficient groceries to not need to keep going out. I also have to go to work next week as my education establishment is open. The choice to distance myself has been taken away from me.

Snicketty - I don’t think you’re selfish. Having to go to multiple shops for your weekly shopping because of panic buyers is understandable. Continuing to meet up for drinks with your friends at home, going shopping for non essentials, letting your kids out so they can socialise with other kids - that’s irresponsible and selfish.

It's infuriating isn't it. Friends posting on FB that something like a pandemic won't stop them going to the hairdresser for some pampering. My blood boils.

So what about going somewhere for a walk with your family but not going to meet other people and social distancing?

Yes, same here. Friends and the odd family member as well 🙄. Out for the day shopping, in the pub last night because "it's all bollocks", saying they wouldn't dream of ordering in a takeaway right now because they're so high risk and then having a family gathering with 8 people this afternoon. I'm lost for words.

One friend moaning he struggled to get elderly Mum a shop but showed a photo of a 6 pint milk and 2 x 1 litre of UHT...

Then today was out getting free beer from a shutting pub with mates, all Stood shoulder to shoulder... one of them a DH of a nurse 🙈🙈🙈🙈

My brother has been stockpiling, he has been going out everyday at the crack of dawn and has 2 bedrooms full of loo roll/pasta/tinned food etc. He's 30, single and in excellent health. Why just fgs why? I'm struggling to get hold of stuff (single 3 kids) and he thinks he's so clever, boils my piss, I've told him what an arse he is but he's convinced by the YouTube videos that this is some sort of apocalypse.

Yep. I’ve got a friend who has posted several things on fb imploring people to socially distance themselves. Then she’s gone and posted pics of her meeting up in an park with a friend and their kids and the kids are all over each other. Made me look at her differently to be honest.

Dad and stepmum went out shopping today, for furniture. They're off again tomorrow to change it - wrong colour. 18yo sister went to a party last night.

They all live with my 87 year old grandmother.

They announced this on the phone earlier and I just put the phone down. Furious. We've been locked down with a stressy teen for a week, trying to keep us, and in turn everyone else, safe. What's the bloody point?!

(I know what the point is, and we'll carry on doing the right thing, I'm just sodding raging!)

‘I just think extreme situations tend to highlight the true nature of a person. Anyone else notice that?’

^^ this!

And generally a lot of people don’t seem to be very intelligent

a girl i went to school with went out last night to an absolutely packed pub, splashed it all over facebook, then went to work today on a neonatal unit...

It’s infuriating isn’t it?

Snicketty, I don’t think anyone would call you selfish for trying to buy essential items.

a girl i went to school with went out last night to an absolutely packed pub, splashed it all over facebook, then went to work today on a neonatal unit
I would absolutely 100 per cent be calling the hospital where she works and reporting her for this. That is not on at all.

@sunshineandshowers21 I felt like my stomach fell out when I read your post, please please report this person for the love of god

one of my mum’s friends is a ward sister at the same hospital and i’ve sent her screenshots of all the statuses and photos and she’s going to make sure they get to the relevant person. there may well be more people who reported her as well because there were a few comments about her behaviour before she eventually removed everything.

I've been feeling the same, I have one friend in particular who's always been a bit self-centred and she said to me that she resents things like cinemas being closed. She's been out in cafes, seeing friends and then yesterday said she'd had a good session with her personal trainer. Which made me snap and tell her how selfish I thought she was. I honestly don't think I can be friends with her in the same way now. It's really brought home to me that she lacks something, character-wise, that's important to me and even though I know she's not a nasty person as such, I just don't think I can get past it. I feel contemptuous of her.

NB personal trainer at the gym, to clarify.