Just realising how selfish and self centred some of my friends are

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I’m not falling out with anyone but I’m finding that some of the social media posts added by friends/acquaintances have lowered my opinion of them. A few people saying they’re not going to socially distance themselves, still going clothes shopping, going to pubs, letting their kids out to play with other kids etc. There’s also been posts that have shown how caring and thoughtful most of the people I know are too. I just think extreme situations tend to highlight the true nature of a person. Anyone else notice that?

Totally agreed.

Seen some fairly callous behaviour tbh

a girl i went to school with went out last night to an absolutely packed pub, splashed it all over facebook, then went to work today on a neonatal unit

^^

Despicable

I told my mother were are iin lockddown and she said 'aren't you being sensible!!!'

True colours are coming out.

Always see them in a crisis.

I'm fortunate to not know anyone who is selfish enough not to practise social distancing in this very terrifying time.

If I did, I would be distancing myself from them full time.

The health of our nation is at risk, I really can't believe that people can be so selfish.

Apparently it is perfectly normal to have been out shopping all over the place this weekend and to have gone to get a tattoo this afternoon, and the reason that I have been able to stay inside with DH is because I don't have children and so I don't understand.

I actually gasped at the selfishness.

We have two high risk family members and went into isolation over a week ago for precaution.

Had a few texts from friends 50% supportive, 50% mocking us.

Most of those are now in isolation themselves- and the remaining 10% won’t be friends of mine when this is all over.

If you are lucky enough to be healthy, please spare a thought for those who aren’t. As they are likely to be hit hardest in times like these. And don’t mock us for being frightened- I know too well what it’s like to be sat beside a bed in ICU. It’s not pleasant and I’d rather none of our family were in that position again.

I agree. People proactively coming together in groups to drink, do sport or just hangout take the piss.

It is infuriating.
MIL told DH today that she isnt self isolating, doesnt see why she should, but if she happens to get it, the Drs will be straight out for her and FIL because they're not time wasters.
She is a woman who spends her life pointing out the negatives of everyone else.

That is appalling sunshine and showers. I’m glad you reported her. I hope she’s formally disciplined.

PNomintrude - that’s how I feel too. Someone else told her she’s selfish which prompted the rant she put on social media. It bugged me that everyone commenting on it was praising her for going to work, saying oh yes people shouldn’t judge etc. Of course we should judge her. Her actions have serious consequences. I was so tempted to diplomatically tell her she’s being incredibly self centred but what’s the point? She’s not going to say ‘oh, you’re right. I’ll be more considerate now.’ Plus I’m not getting into an argument on social media. I’ll be distancing myself from her when the worst of this is over. It makes me question other stuff she’s told me in the past. I feel she lacks something, character wise, that’s important to me too.

I agree with you op. I had a friend on Facebook today saying how she thinks nurses and hcas are selfish if they declare themselves a key worker at school. And that all nursery's and schools should close completely. I explained to her we need the nurses/hcas and they need child care to be able to work but she declared them all selfish. Gobsmacked by her behaviour. also gobsmacked by no one else sticking up for the nurses/healthcare workers on there during her rants.
Its safe to say I can't be friends with her anymore

I have a mental list of companies I'm going to avoid when things get going again, and those I'm going to try to support. Really disappointed by some people.

This Country is totally and utterly fucked. Broken Britain? Been like that for years - it is all coming home to roost now.
What a disgusting, selfish, stupid. moronic Island of People. ( Obviously not all) One half of the Country trying to do the right thing and the other half hell bent on killing us and our elderly and Vulnerable.
Fucking SCUM.
Where is the respect and wanting to do the best for the people around them?
How have these people been schooled and brought up?
Whats happened to their morals?
I thought things would be better today but after reading all these posts they are worse.
I feel hopeless.

I've been very disappointed with friends on Facebook posting about going out for meals and to the gym etc. One of them is a fucking microbiologist!!! I called them out in public, got a telling off from DH for it (because it's not my place to say, despite being a senior nurse) and they all immediately changed their tune. Many people have been marvellous but a lot of people are selfish and disappointing

I have one friend with a very vulnerable child who today posted a rant about how the government are taking our freedoms away and that we will have to fight to give them back. She says we are all going to get it anyway and this is just about flattening the curve so let's just go out. The vulnerable child has an EHCP so will be at school but she is raging about the 5 year old being kept at home.

Her main problem is they have closed the gym she attend for several hours a day, I can understand her upset at having a major disruption to her life as she is autistic with an exercise obsession but we are all upset at losing normality.

People like her is exactly why we will end up in complete lockdown soon.

Someone I study with works as a home carer, last weekend she went to a music festival but then decided she couldn't come to class 2 days later because she needed to protect her clients!

My MIL won't not do (unnecessary -
SIL is unemployed) childcare for my nephews as she said she'll miss them. Won't believe anything we say about the fact children can transmit (or have symptoms themselves) and was going to visit her very elderly, very ill father until we told her very sternly not to. Still will carry on as normal apart from that though and thinks that as long as she doesn't have very severe symptoms herself, she's fine and can just carry on. There's no reasoning with her. She seems to think we're overreacting by isolating/social distancing on any necessary ventures out.

The fact that they are all going about their business makes the rest of us question what we are doing. We are distancing but already my teenage DD is saying everyone else is going out and can she have friends round. The answer is no. But it will get harder and harder if there is no form leadership from government. I don’t want to catch it and end up in hospital.

A lot of people are not actually that intelligent. They need to be told in very simple terms why this is not okay. But ultimately we need a lock down.

And just had a friend post on face book saying everyone is being hysterical by telling her not to go out and about. Sigh.

One of my work colleagues, who lives with their elderly parents, is now (rightly) working from home full time. Many other people from work have to be in due to the nature of the role.

Last I heard they were going to a jazz night at the pub on Friday because they had been “cooped up all week” and didn’t want to be “twiddling their thumbs”.

Apparently you can self-isolate and work from home on the basis that your parents are vulnerable, but if you’re bored it’s ok to risk infecting/killing them... the mind boggles.

Someone pit on our local.FB page that he's like to start some.sports and activities in the local park for all the kids not at school.

I mean kind gesture but where the fuck has this person been for the past week??

Thankfully people put him right and told him it would be inappropriate!

I think some people just don't get it. Others think if you are outside it's ok.

Mind you our Asda has decided rhatb3 morning's a week they are going to open the doors for the first hour to NHS, elderly and vulnerable. What a great idea. The most exposed members if society mixing with the most vulnerable!!

Sometimes I wonder.......is it me? Am I going over the top??

These people will be the same selfish gits who are ransacking the supermarkets like a plague of locusts every day, I would hazard a guess.

They are twats who need to be called out on it. They won't care much though.

I think this has shown just how selfish and stupid some people are. The reality is that for some people getting the Corona virus is extremely serious. You only have to see the hospitals in Italy dealing with it on the news.
At the moment I have a male friend whos lives in Ireland. He is in his late 40s and is waiting for the results of a Corona virus test. He has asthma and is a diabetic. He has been very sick with headaches, vomiting, aches and pains. He has a small child and he worried about this. He was washing his hands, using hand stabilizer and keeping a distance from people before he even got sick. He has not been outside since he 1st felt sick except to get this test done.
I know it not easy to stay inside and to turn down meeting up with friends but your doing it for the greater good. Your trying to keep yourself, family, friends and relatives healthy.

Meanwhile you dealing with the stupid and the I don't care crowd. How would they feel if one of their adult kids got it or their elderly parents end up on a ventilator in hospital with it? It will be everyone's else's fault but there's then. Then they will post up on FB they are worried for who ever has it and start to complain about the hospital, doctors ect.
I think that once this over a lot of people will find out that their selfish and self centered behaviour will end friendships.

I really think we need clips of hospital wards shown regularly (with pixelated faces) to show people how serious this is

Some people can be influenced others can't and that's the great divide at the moment.

We took our children out of school more than a week ago, both husband and I work at home so all of us at home. We have also been social distancing for two weeks, all bar shopping has ground to a hault. All of our friends know that, some followed suit, some didn't - their choice. As the says go by more are social distancing.

What I can't fathom is why one particular friend keeps trying to tempt us out, do the girls want to go to their house to play? We are going to x y z do you all want to come? Etc.

Amazes me, two weeks of invites. I think part of the problem is we are close and our children are also close. But being close doesn't mean I want o take your risks as mine!