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Confused: we can go to the supermarket but not the local independent coffee shop?

115 replies

LaureBerthaud · 18/03/2020 12:25

I'm not talking about the over 70s here.

We can go to supermarkets for essentials but can't pop to the cafe to stop me going stir crazy have a flat white.

Is that right?

OP posts:

Mysocalledlifexx · 18/03/2020 22:46

Would u really want to risk drinking a coffee that someone else has made ? They may have it ,its not worth the risk. Time to bring the uk on lockdown.
Me & my family staying in apart from my
DH to go a food shop.


Graphista · 18/03/2020 22:54

What "attitude" ?

The op has asked a ridiculous question in the current circumstances AND is also using a valuable service that they don't actually need to.


shinynewapple2020 · 18/03/2020 22:54

You are advised to only do what is essential but unless you are self isolating because you have underlying health issues or because some one in your family has symptoms, than , yes, it is up to you if you choose to go out for coffee and cakes whilst you can find a cafe still open. Just don't tell anyone on MN!


Eckhart · 18/03/2020 22:58

In the current circumstances many more people need to try to buy online because they've been to the shops and found the shelves empty.

The 'my need is greater' attitude. Some people may have greater need than you, but I bet you'll take the first slot you can get.

We are all struggling at the moment.


Graphista · 18/03/2020 23:03

If it were possible to sacrifice my slot for someone in greater need I would do what I could but that's not currently possible.

Those who can shop in person at present should imo.


Eckhart · 18/03/2020 23:06

Of course you would.

Like the rest of us, I'm sure you're doing your best.


Graphista · 18/03/2020 23:14

Not true of everyone sadly. The profiteers and scam artists are already out in force unfortunately.


Crafting1Queen · 18/03/2020 23:16

You can't legislate for Stupid!


HeddaGarbled · 18/03/2020 23:21

Eckhart, why are you having a go at Graphista?

We’ve had an email from Tesco today asking us to shop in person if we are able.

That’s all she’s saying. Your attack on her is borderline vicious under her circumstances.


Eckhart · 18/03/2020 23:36

I'm not having a go, and I've not said anything vicious. None of us know other's needs, so we have to police ourselves on this one. Some will be idiots, that's a given, and beyond that, we've all got to do our best.

Graphista is assessing another person's needs and then telling them what they should do. I object to that. I'm not going to treat her differently in a discussion because of her circumstances, although clearly she'll have different needs regarding practicalities.

I agree that we should shop in person if we can, but the fact is, none of us can get what we need in person, currently.


Excited101 · 18/03/2020 23:41

Fucking hell


Goodgriefidespair · 18/03/2020 23:54

Sorry but who are people to decide who needs a delivery slot and who doesnt? Im fit and healthy but il still be getting my shopping delivered as its convienent for me with 4 kids always have always will regardless on the dreaded Coronavirus

But if I don't go to the supermarket for food (have an online delivery) can I go for coffee out instead?

^^ blimey it’s all me me me on here.
Will you feel so strongly about your rights to a bloody skinny latte and a home delivery if it’s your elderly mother who gets infected.

Or someone you know undergoing cancer treatment can’t get a home delivery as they are all taken up.

I wish people would wise up. Protect your self but consider others. And we will have to put up with some inconveniences over the next few months.
And hope and pray that It will only be these minor and trivial inconveniences, compared to what some will be dealing with.


AbsentmindedWoman · 19/03/2020 00:31

The selfishness is honestly breath-taking.

Yes, we all know it's difficult and unpleasant and not good for mental health to have to hole up inside as much as possible.

Do those of you who insist on going out for coffee etc not know any people who will be vulnerable if they get infected - infected because so many people are refusing to do what they can to slow the spread?

Is it that you can't see the viral matter so don't really believe you're actually spreading anything?

Or is it that you still believe it's just like a flu?

Or are you aware of your older relatives and immunocompromised young colleagues being higher risk, and think oh that's sad but feck, not my problem at the end of the day?

Flattening the curve requires individual effort from us all, to do what we can to not spread the virus. It's quite simple.


Graphista · 19/03/2020 00:43

@HeddaGarbled thank you! I'm well aware there are others worse off than me but my life is also a constant battle under normal circumstances. I'm having a really shitty week not just with this but also my washing machine has packed up!

I am Ltd in what I can do to help but I am helping where I can.

I'm an ex nanny, childminder and guider so I've been posting on here and on sm and discussing with friends who are having to self isolate or socially distance ideas to keep the dc occupied indoors.

I've also been staying in touch with loved ones and helping them sort various things as especially the older ones maybe don't have internet at all or don't feel very confident using and they're asking me to lookup various things for them.

If everyone does what they can to take care of themselves sensibly and does what they can to help others we should mostly be fine.

It is scary but everyone can do something that will make others lives easier.


Fieldofgreycorn · 19/03/2020 00:52

I bought supplies from Hotel Chocolat yesterday. That is essential.

Browsing round shops for no particular reason isn’t essential.

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