If we are all well and symptom free, would it be acceptable to visit my 72 year old Mum on Sunday

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To give her a card and spend some time with her before she begins isolation on Monday?

No.

Personally I would if she doesn't have any underlying health conditions and wishes to see you (but I will probably get a backlash from saying that). My mum is still likely to come to see us at the weekend - her choice and we were happy to do whatever she wanted. Physical health is obviously important but mental health is too. My mum would genuinely rather get the virus than be stuck at home for 12 weeks with no visitors, and I completely get where she is coming from. She will stay away from her usual social things but is choosing to have the occasional contact with others if they also wish to either in own homes or in eg a local garden. Maybe if there was no other social contact going on (schools, shops) and therefore everyone was affected, she might feel she had no choice but feels strongly that the choice is hers, effectively "I've had a good innings, if this is my time to go then it's my time to go." And knowing her, if she gets ill, she won't take up the time of the NHS as she will refuse to go to hospital. She will only stop all contact if it becomes law rather than advice.

If someone has had CV already and recovered could they see their elderly parents?

You see this is the problem with not testing people, we have no way to be 100% sure.

No i wouldn't op. It's really sad to have to keep away from your loved ones but even if you and family feel fine at the time one of you could still potentially be carrying the virus and not know it. I think you will regret going to your mums if it later transpires that one of you had the virus. If your mum has skype do you think that maybe you can skype her instead?

She doesnt have any health conditions - is a none smoker and none drinker. Is regularly active at gym/badminton/walking etc.

I work in a school, as does my sister.

None of us are in at risk groups healthwise.

No.
Remember they don't know exactly what the incubation period is.
Bluntly, we are in Italy, in lockdown but obviously one of us leaves the house every 2-3 days for essential food shopping. Every time that person goes out, it cancels out the time we've been in the house just the three of us.
We're a bit more used to all of this now and it's not easy.
And probably nobody is going to stop you unless you are in lockdown like us.
But you just wouldn't want to put someone else at risk would you?
A soundbite I heard today- every time you come into contact with anyone or are thinking of doing so, act like you have the virus and don't want to spread it.

You work in a school? Would that be the schools people are clamouring to be closed down because of possible infection risk? For real?

I am sure your mum will understand given the circumstances. I think you would feel terrible if she got Cv because you would wonder if it came from you. It's great that she is healthy but she is in the at risk age group. It's just one day. When eventually things calm down you can spoil her.
My dad is in a carehome and though they are restricting visits from volunteers and entertainers they are still allowing close friends and family. This concerns me greatly. Most residents are very frail and have dementia, some are disabled (my dad is one). None of them are washing their hands regularly. I have decided not to visit because it isn't just about me and my dad but other vulnerable residents and the staff, (I can't imagine what would happen if the stadyget sick) . I wish they would just close the doors to all visits. Knowing other people are going in really worries me.

No.

Yep, @justmuddlingalong - i work in a school and my husband works in a hospital.

Many many people my mothers age collect the children from the open schools to allow their children to go to work in jobs that arent shut down.

There is zero need for your for real comment - its unprecedented times - Im reaching out to discuss something that I am sure lots of people are mulling over.

Someone mentioned moving her in with us - wouldnt that then be a trillion times riskier than seeing her briefly at the weekend?

I'm seriously wondering how the heck I can stop parents visiting.
It's not that I don't want to see them, of course I do but I'm wanting to do the sensible thing and stay at home and not go anywhere.
I can totally see MIL coming round to visit and not taking no for an answer anyway
My mum I think will be more sensible and stay at home

Not unless you have all self-isolated for a week first.

I'm not sure at the moment. I'm in a similar position, my mother is nearly 90 and lives alone. No, I wouldn't forgive myself if I gave her CV but I also wouldn't forgive myself if it was her last Mothering Sunday for any other reason. If I go, it'll be at a distance in the garden for 10 minutes.

No...because if I’m 3 days time you start having symptoms then you will have probably passed it on!!

You might not be in the age bracket that is being told to isolate, but your DM is. Regardless of how fit and healthy she normally is. You, your DH and your DSis are all in jobs where picking up the virus is a real possibility. Why would you take the risk of any of you incubating CV and passing it on to her?

I am really struggling to understand what people don't understand with this. My very elderly Dad and I have accepted we can't see eachother for a long time. He could die at any time from a terminal heart condition. It may even be that I never see him again. Currently he's stable and happy with my stepmum, able to enjoy life at home. I have no symptoms and I am perfectly well. I STILL wouldn't take the chance. Not a hope. I don't want my Dad contracting this shitty disease. What on earth is wrong with people?

I've just heard of somebody else who's dashing off to another part of the country to see her mum who's just had massive surgery. She also works in the healthcare sector but because it's the "same country", it's not a problem apparently. If people who should know better are doing things like this, what hope is there for the rest of us?

It's just selfish and this is why we'll end up like Italy/Spain/Iran because people can't follow simple enough to understand instructions that protect us all. I'm a single parent to an autistic child and I am fucked if I get this while trying to look after him. What is wrong with people?

I wouldn’t risk it, I’d never forgive myself. I get it’s hard but it’s for the right reasons.

Nope I'm not seeing my parents. I've been on the tube today (can't work from home), and my kids are still at school so although I feel fine I can't risk it 😰

I'm taking my mum out for afternoon tea tomorrow, she's 73. We're both currently fit and healthy and have decided that we'll go. In the real world many other people are doing the same, I was in a cafe today with my granddaughter and it was as busy as any other Tuesday. Mumsnet does seem to have more people on it who are aghast at people continuing to go out and about than people I speak to on a day to day basis. There's three adults in our house and we're all still going out to work, our daughter is a nurse and she's the most laid back about the situation than any one else I know. If the country goes into lockdown I will of course abide by that.

My parents live with me and it's a scary nightmare what germs we may bring to them. OP don't do it voluntarily please

No

I am going to visit my elderly father this weekend - not for a “social” visit but an “essential” one to make sure everything is ok, make sure he has extra supplies in case he can’t get out for a few days (I will only stay a couple of hours rather than all day stockpiling just 2-3 extra meals in) & generally make sure that he can cope for the long term. I will only stay a couple of hours rather than all day but want to do things like check his smoke alarm battery too.
I’ve spoken to him tonight & we both accept that it may be some time before I can see him again.

I certainly will be visiting my mother. She is refusing to self isolate and said she will be 6 foot under before she locks herself away! I told her if she got the virus I will have to move in with her and then I'll get it. She doesn't have internet etc so will be food shopping up town twice a week still.

No.

No