If we are all well and symptom free, would it be acceptable to visit my 72 year old Mum on Sunday

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To give her a card and spend some time with her before she begins isolation on Monday?

No

No

It’s entirely your decision as you are grown adults and understand the risks

I really wouldn't. You are contagious before the symptoms emerge and I would not consider it with the risk to my mum.

Will your mum be isolating by herself? Could she come and stay with you to help her sanity?
I probably would not go and visit at the weekend. there isnt some magical thing which happens on Monday making it more dangerous. It's dangerous now.

No

Depends how much you dislike her I guess.

No, I decided 2 weeks ago to not see my parents, personally I would never forgive myself if I visited them and then they got it even though you couldn't prove how they got it. Just to be clear some people do not show symptoms but have CV. Due to the lack of testing non of us can know if we have it or have had it. This is stopping people being able to support the vulnerable.

It is truly awful to leave our parents alone and it goes against every instinct we have and who knows how long this will go on. However I would not visit for the coming weeks - could you chat on the doorstep

Do you really have to ask?

How about visiting and all being in the garden with no close contact, or sad as it sounds phone her and talk up at the window. Which depresses me so much to write, but even though it would avoid contact she could see you in person that way? I also think leaving flowers on the doorstep for her to collect would be lovely for her to look at next week onwards. I hope you can find a way, OP.

It's so hard isn't it?

I agree with above, is there a way you could visit without being close to her, eg from the garden?

OR could you maybe meet her for a walk, just making sure you keep your distance?

no

Sadly not. “Over 70s, even if in good health should avoid social contact such as Sunday lunch with family” they say

No

Oh god it's horrible isn't it :(

I thought they'd said over 70s could make a few excursions?

If it's really strict, I could still do her shopping and put it on the doorstep and ring the bell. Once I was a few metres down the path we could have a shout conversation.

Imagine you go and she gets poorly. Would you not wish you could turn the clock back and not go? You are being given the choice now, but if you go, that decision could haunt you.

This is a decision only you and your family can make looking at all the circumstances at the time .

Is she well stocked up and prepared for self-isolating? Is she able to use the Internet and Skype?

My DP (also well and has been isolated for the past 10 days as working from home) is going to see his Mum this weekend to sort out her food and supplies, make sure everything is good Internet-wise and so on. Naturally I'm nervous about it but realise it's what he must do. So I'm going against what most posters here say. If you think you need to go see her and make sure all's well, then I'd say do so. Really a lot depends on your Mum's circumstances at the mo.

No. We had plans with my 75yr old mum on sunday too - all cancelled

Not worth the risk - you are infectious before you show symptoms, and some people don't show symptoms at all, and are infectious.

Sadly it's trips like this that will push the death rates up. Just don't.

well, I visited my mum on Monday, stayed at 2 m and didn't touch anything and she washed surfaces afterwards.

None of the grandchildren are allowed to visit. I was there because I took my dad to his hospital appointment, and did her shopping.

We are not visiting for mother's day. But my dh will need to go over at some point to fix her phone/internet so she can keep in touch.

It is about wisdom. Wash hands, keep distance, fewest number of social contacts, but if they need support, then you have to visit.

No. We're not visiting either set of grandparents.

I’ve been to see my mum this week and just chatted for ten minutes in the garden with a good space between us.

Is she in good health? Does she live alone? Are any of your family at high risk for catching coronavirus or suffering badly if you get it (eg commuters in London, healthcare workers, health conditions)?