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Who is carrying on as normal/going out and about and sticking to plans?

360 replies

DennisReynoldsDuster · 15/03/2020 18:08

There seems to be a real divide.
Among my friends, ,many are staying put, cancelling plans and hunkering down for the next week and waiting to see how the land lies.
The other half are still of the 'pfff it's going to blow over' camp and are merrily talking about their trip to thailand and making plans for summer bbqs.

It's really unnerving. I flip between being utterly terrified to that reading about Nadine Dorries who seems to be recovering well, and hoping it's not going to be as bad as I expect.

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Amotherof6 · 17/03/2020 19:50

Self isolating here.
The longer the country takes to actually shut down and limit contact the longer it will go on... othr countries have been there done that and got the deaths to show what can go wrong and we have the benefit of seeing how they are slowing the death rate down but continue to slowly, slowly, slowly make changes... eventually we will have to lock down anyway... how many deaths or how many cases are we waiting for before we lockdown? Or are we waiting for the NHS to crumble first and run out of beds before we lock down...
Sad we didn't use experience of other countries to our benefit

okiedokieme · 17/03/2020 19:58

I'm still working, lots to do to get the place into a position to shut down

Amotherof6 · 17/03/2020 20:17

Some people are in really important roles (NHS staff, care home staff, supermarket workers etc) and need to carry on and need help to carry on (give them priority on home delivery for shopping, childcare etc)…

Then others need to self isolate due to prior illness/vulnerable group.

The rest need to be less selfish follow guidelines to limit social contact and help stop this virus spreading... too many don't care about others if they are in a non vulnerable category and just act irresponsibly… maybe spare a thought for others...

RangasNugget · 18/03/2020 01:41

Carrying on as normal. It IS highly contagious but not highly deadly. I'm more scared of people and their idiocy than I am of Corona. I have an 85 yo father, he also lives rural but 8 hours away, he's going about his business day to day.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 18/03/2020 01:45

So you’re deliberately going against government advice from both this country and others around the world?

MarshaBradyo · 18/03/2020 01:46

RandasNugget your father is high risk and also likely to be triaged should he require care such as a ventilator. There will not be enough for everyone and they may well go by age. I’d rethink if I were you.

marton4710 · 18/03/2020 02:02

I am not a selfish person as made out. Not at all. I think some if my comments have been misconstrued. By carrying in as normal I am referring to panic buying etc, I get lupus so can’t go,out very often. I am not worried for me because nothing changes for me. Ie I am able to carry on as normal at the moment. Of course this may have to change. I accept that. I don’t need to panic buy as due to my health I stock up well all the time. I go to church once a week and granny read at school. I ring before going to check if it has been cancelled. Here at the moment many things have not changed locally. On my way from church I brought some grocery items for a friend who is stuck indoors.

Daisy pond I feel hurt to be called selfish in fact that is not in my y
nature. My point was that many of my generation will cope because of our tough childhoods so don’t worry like younger people who I believe will find it hard. Indeed I hope and pray a vaccine is soon found. Another reason I don’t worry about me is thst I have had a wonderful life but sadly have lost too many friends far too young. Growing old is a privilege and I consider inowe it to my family and friends to stay positive.

MarshaBradyo · 18/03/2020 02:06

My point was that many of my generation will cope because of our tough childhoods so don’t worry like younger people who I believe will find it hard

This is very misguided thinking which will increase your risk should you need care. The more resilient action is to listen to the government advice and remove yourself as much as possible and do only essential things. It may feel harder but you are less likely to end up needing care when it is in short supply.

RangasNugget · 18/03/2020 02:59

MarshaBradyo,

We're all pretty good thanks. I'm on 1500 acres, I will continue my life as it is. What currently impact my life is idiots panic buying toilet paper.
For my father yes both he and I are well aware he's high risk. If he gets it, yes he will probably die, but at 85 that's a reality any and every day regardless. Am I uncaring? Hell no, I'd be utterly lost without my father. But I'm also a realist and I'm not waiting for him to be sick or worse to tell him I love him/ show appreciation for him. We've discussed death, his in particular, and death is a part of life.

MarshaBradyo · 18/03/2020 03:07

If he doesn’t mind dying that way just don’t use up a service and go for it. Sounds awful way to go though.

daisypond · 18/03/2020 03:13

My point was that many of my generation will cope because of our tough childhoods, so don’t worry like younger people who I believe will find it hard
This is a deluded and completely self-centred point of view. You are the one who is finding it hard, you are the one who isn’t coping even now. The only thing you are being asked to do is stay isolated, and you can’t even do that. You must not go to church. You must not go into schools. Perhaps you do not know that church services have been cancelled. You owe it to your friends and family to obey the guidance, not stay positive. If you are elderly and have lupus, it is critical that you do so, not only for your health but for everyone else. You ought to not worry, but consider the effects your actions are having. Of course it will be difficult, but you have said you can cope with difficulty - so cope. I may sound brutal, but keeping trying to justify your behaviour simply indicates that you fail to understand. Careless behaviour costs lives.

bettybeans · 18/03/2020 03:17

Was it not a church whose attendees were pretty much wholly responsible for sparking two outbreaks of the virus after Korean authorities had managed to contain it?

Don't get me wrong. I'm not religious but I do understand why, especially now, church goers would feel the need for faith or whatever, but can't you do your thing at home or online or something?

MarshaBradyo · 18/03/2020 03:28

Yes it was.

RandasNugget so do you just stay on your property then?

RangasNugget · 18/03/2020 03:41

Yes, pretty much. Especially as we have just started our busy season. We don't do church or anything like that, and once a week to town to shop. But we have garden and unlimited meat plus I can make bread if needed. But we're in a very rural area like I said, and currently in my shire there are no reported case. Son still goes to school as there are no school closures here yet.

MarshaBradyo · 18/03/2020 03:47

Then you’re applying by the instructions which is fine. I’d have a word with your Dad though. He really won’t want to die like that will he, really. At home panicking.

february08baby · 18/03/2020 08:00

Still carrying on as normal.

Been told we are not allowed to work from home unless we show any symptoms or have been around those with symptoms.

Schools still open and if they closed, it would be the higher risk group (grandparents) doing the childcare for the majority of these children.

I am still going to my exercise classes. Our teacher is self employed and is really worried about her business. She has hand sanitisers and has stopped all exercises that avoid physical contact. She's also trying to find out how to move her classes online but not all her members would be able to do that. I'm continuing to go to classes to stay fit and keep my weight loss up, and also to support her business.

I have a family reunion event today - seeing my adopted relatives for the first time. There's a lot of them, travelling from all over this part of the country. I haven't heard of anyone cancelling but it would be a real shame for my dad if they did as he was already very emotional about finding his lost family.

And the restaurant we are meeting at would lose money too so again trying to support local businesses as much as possible until we are put in a proper lockdown.

daisypond · 18/03/2020 08:22

@february08baby
Is your post a joke? It must be.
Schools still open and if they closed, it would be the higher risk group (grandparents) doing the childcare for the majority of these children.
No, they won’t be doing the childcare, as they have to self-isolate. Especially from children.

Equally, you should not be going to the gym, having a family reunion or going to a restaurant. Which part of no unnecessary travel and limit your contact do you not understand?

Tibblestoe · 18/03/2020 08:45

Boris will have to force a lockdown because of these selfish idiots.

FCEK · 18/03/2020 08:50

A dose of reality is needed by some people on here!

Not everyone can afford childcare, or to take time off work. Not everyone CAN take time off work due to the nature of their jobs. There will be high demand for childcare, some childcare providers are already closing eg local after school clubs. So it falls to family members to help out.

Can I just say that my husband is a director in an organisation that the government heavily relies on. His workplace is a very high risk environment for catching this virus. I am very worried about him but if he doesn't go to work, millions of people, including you MNetters will be seriously affected.

His employer tests him (and me) daily. Can your employer say the same? We are both fine so far.

Are you still going to your supermarkets? Dropping your kids off at school? Getting takeaways? Getting parcels delivered? Handling cash? Any one of these situations is high risk.

Too many people are seeing this as an excuse to bunk off work or school. Until we are locked in, I'm carrying on as normal.

daisypond · 18/03/2020 09:08

FCEK
How are you getting hold of the tests?

MaidenMotherCrone · 18/03/2020 09:08

Growing old is a privilege and I consider inowe it to my family and friends to stay isolated.

There, I've corrected it for you.

goldenorbspider · 18/03/2020 09:31

My gym was super quiet this morning, they've cancelled classes and a minimum of 100 people are allowed in. There was all of 5people

FCEK · 18/03/2020 09:40

Through my husband's employer.

I will not name that employer but none of us would have a job without them (not a government department but private sector)

ScatteredMama82 · 18/03/2020 09:49

Cancelling all social plans, kids are still going to school and I am going to shops every other day to keep fresh food topped up until the restrictions tighten. I am going to the shops while kids are at school, so they don't need to come with me.

I'm also planning to go to garden centre today to get a few more things for my veg patch as I'm growing my own as much as I can this year.

So, not really business as usual. Just topping up essentials and getting supplies in for the long-haul when it comes. Other than that, not going out at all. Thankfully I am now working from home too.

DH still has to go to work (military) and that worries me. They still eat in large groups in the mess, or use a shared kitchen facility.

ralfeesmum · 18/03/2020 10:46

What beats me is that people are going paranoid with anxiety over making sure they scrupulously wash their hands 5000 times a day, wear disposable surgical masks, refuse to shake hands, make sure they're at least 3 metres away from another human being but still..........pile into the supermarkets in droves and trample on top of each other to panic buy.

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