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What small but significant disappointments are you facing?

459 replies

DoubleAction · 14/03/2020 16:21

Things that you know are nothing in the great scheme of things but still bother you more than you know they should.

I'm very concerned about how the illness will play out, how people will cope with a prolonged lockdown and how long it will take the economy to recover but I was knocked sideways by the realisation that the festival that DS2 has worked hard and saved hard for probably won't happen.

He's been getting more and more excited as all the "right" bands have been added to the lineup. I'll be gutted for him if it doesn't happen.

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lisclick · 15/03/2020 20:31

I still plan to have my mother at our house for Mother’s Day. She will have the added risk from my 12 year old but she won’t have to do so much shopping. Plus she’ll just get the stimulation and liveliness of being with us instead of on her own. I think you have to weigh up the risks and benefits. The elderly will be advised to stay at home and see no one - but not yet. I think that’s very sound - to be at home for months with no visitors is also a big health risk.
But I fear there will be no big tennis tournaments this year including Wimbledon. I will really miss those

lisclick · 15/03/2020 20:33

And I really feel for the athletes who have worked so hard for this olympics. I hope they can just postpone it for a few months or even a year

AdoptedBumpkin · 15/03/2020 20:34

Daughter will miss a couple of birthday parties.

We will miss a few family shopping trips etc.

susandelgado · 15/03/2020 20:34

I’ve booked tickets to see a favourite band in October, so I’m hoping it’s going to be over by then, but who knows really?
Also I’m over 60 and have asthma so if I catch coronavirus I might not be here Hmm

rainbowsandrage · 15/03/2020 20:41

Loads here. DP and I were due to go on holiday over the Easter holiday while DS and DD were going on holiday with my parents. That’s now cancelled. We have tickets to take DD to see Disney on Ice and tickets to take DS to see WWE, both in April, and tickets to a big football match next week that has already been cancelled.

ladynyland · 15/03/2020 20:44

My daughter is 18 this week, she has been a complete dick for the past 4 yrs and probably deserves to have a crap birthday, but I do feel bad for her none the less. That and the fact that if she does have a bad 18th the rest of the family will pay big time. I cannot imagine having to self isolate with her. It will be Dante’s 13th level of hell.

gingerninja1808 · 15/03/2020 20:47

So many things are uncertain.
Family birthday party next week at the other end of the country, intended as a happy get together occasion after there had been a few deaths in the family last year. Had to be called off.
Youngest child due to go to Spain in July with school, his first trip abroad without us. No idea if it will happen.
Middle child - GCSEs are up in the air, prom may not happen, due to go on NCS and no idea if that will happen.
Eldest is at uni in our city but lives out in uni accommodation. All lectures are cancelled (online only) to the end of the academic year so there has been a mass exodus of his friends and flatmates. He's contracted to pay fees till end of June so thinks he might stay there, alone Sad
I've got tickets for 3 concerts in coming weeks that probably won't happen.
Football season been "postponed" but most probably curtailed - LFC fans here so it also means no victory parade.
Planned trip to Alton Towers in Easter holidays, that won't be happening.
So basically, everything we were all looking forward to, probably won't happen.
Like PPs have said, all insignificant in the bigger scheme of things but all gutting to miss out on.

Walkacrossthesand · 15/03/2020 20:56

I have a big birthday at the end of May, was going to start planning a garden party for friends and family but there doesn't seem any point now. Now I just hope the country manages to limp through this part of the pandemic without too much long term devastation, but it's a sad, sad time

busyhonestchildcarer · 15/03/2020 21:07

My first grandchild is due in two weeks and I won't be able to go and see her.But...I have olde friends who are worried and in isolation.My grandchild will still be there for me to hug but my friends may not

Ifeelsuchafool · 15/03/2020 21:08

Been saving for ages for tickets to the Royal Opera House. Been on my bucket list for years and finally bought tickets for May just be for this all became news and was beyond excited at the prospect. As the pandemic is due to be at its peak May/June time the likelihood is I won't be going now.

keffie12 · 15/03/2020 21:10

Our annual holiday, in June! Something we save for every year. We don't spend on entertainment etc. Needs and wants at home are simple and inexpensive. Our money goes on traveling. High class problem I know.

PeterPeterson · 15/03/2020 21:17

Was really looking forward to a holiday at the end of June to Majorca with DP and DD, I'm 15 weeks pregnant and was just really excited for our last holiday as the three of us. DD is going to be 7 when her baby brother or sister arrives and although she's excited, I feel sad for her that our attention will be split for a very long time, I really wanted to make this holiday special for her. She also has a trip with my DParents to Disneyland Paris booked for August, that's also looking unlikely.
I guess also the little things like I work in a big city and really enjoy going there everyday, having a wonder round on my lunch, visiting the big library, the museum's, nice lunches, the idea of having to work from home fills me with dread.
In the grand scheme of things these are nothing but they make me feel really sad right now.

iknowimcoming · 15/03/2020 21:27

Once in a lifetime safari holiday with teenage dc which I guess will be cancelled, short trip to Grand Prix just me and DH, almost certainly cancelled, ds's first boys holiday almost certainly cancelled, and atm the silliest thing is DS's parents evening this week, which is likely to be the first/only positive one he's ever had following his recent diagnosis and treatment for adhd Sad

ButtonMooooon · 15/03/2020 21:37

Sorry to briefly derail OP but @lisclick apparently you can still visit people over 70 as long as neither of you are displaying symptoms and you stay 6 feet apart. I only found out earlier when I was telling a friend I was worried about how DM was supposed to afford 4 months worth of supplies

Sorry as you were, this is a great thread OP!

Italianmeringuebuttercream · 15/03/2020 21:43

I turn 40 next weekend. All my plans cancelled. I'm disappointed but get it. I'll celebrate when this is all over....

Italianmeringuebuttercream · 15/03/2020 21:47

I almost spring cleaned the house today but decided to wait for the impending lock down before I start clearing out and rearranging! I'm planning on a huge Marie kondo style clear out Grin

Kokapetl · 15/03/2020 21:53

My kids won't get to meet their baby cousin until maybe Autumn now (baby and family live overseas). She'll probably be a toddler by then.

bringbananas · 15/03/2020 21:53

again, like many pp, a couple of weekend breaks, and two very special holidays - both special for different reasons.
Several concerts - 3 of which are to see my absolute favourite band and I'll be gutted (if) when they are cancelled.
A few parties for friends turning 50 in the next month or so.

It is helping to read this thread - and although these disappointments are so minor when we think of the bigger picture and the more serious repercussions some are experiencing, of course, we are still disappointed.

Dory17 · 15/03/2020 22:08

In two weeks, our daughters third birthday party and in three weeks our wedding. Both likely cancelled. Possibly our sons first birthday too if things don't settle down by the end of May Sad

Bingeslayer · 15/03/2020 22:13

Disney on ice next month which will probe be cancelled,little mix in June for my daughters birthday present that she would have already have had to wait 5 months for and a caravan park weekender for other Dds birthday,thinking they will all probably be cancelled.

Bookworm1985 · 15/03/2020 22:42

Seeing my Nana on Mothers day, she lives in a home and they have stopped all visitors, for the interest of the residents heath, I think it's a good precautionary measure but She has dementia so isn't going to understand why no-one is coming to see her! 😔
And going for a weekend away just me and My Husband.
I work for the NHS so I am not looking forward to work these next coming months....

chicken12 · 15/03/2020 22:44

had to cancel my 50th b day party and realise if I cant go on my holiday to greece in june I will not be able to change my days off at work so will have to find somewhere to go for a week at end of september

MorrisZapp · 15/03/2020 22:48

There's a recently recruited salesman at my work. I'm almost certain he'll be first to go if difficult business decisions have to be made.

Absolutely gutting for him and his family, but my minor disappointment is that he's extremely attractive and quite flirty. Sniff.

Daffodily12 · 15/03/2020 23:00

Going out for coffee with my Other Half. A small treat at the weekend after work all week. Yet I still have to travel on buses to work . So scary.

Nimmykins · 15/03/2020 23:09

Friend’s wedding.