How to respond without using whataboutisms. Can't really. Because many of the things you say are not specific to the mid east.
Quotes from you in bold italics.
"the middle east has massive amounts of sectarianism,"
As does the west. NI for example.
"their own political thought which basically led to things like the muslim brotherhood and ba’athism"
Imagine that. Imagine them having their own political thought. Is that good or bad in your view ?
"he really thought westerners were total animals, women showing their bodies (i.e. being able to see them) animalistic sexual behaviour"
Yeah. Maybe he did. Not unusual really for anyone not travelled.
"People really have no idea how utterly unhinged some strains of thinking are."
Yup. Just look at any REFORM thread on here.
"The oppression of women and human rights abuses are definitely not taught by the west is it."
I assume you missed out a question mark. Do they need some teaching by the West ?
"The arab slave trade is much older than the western one and much more enduring,"
See US prisons and their labour system. Happens today. The UK has ppl in jail for for slavery.. today.
"When Arabs fight it’s gassing Kurds, dropping chemical weapons out of helicopters on civilians."
As opposed to dropping big bombs, and firing missiles at schools. Are you saying they don't fight fair ?
"Many countries still allow child marriage with a judges approval."
No doubt they do. Was there not a UK boxers daughter just got married at 16 ? There are still 4 US states with no minimum age.
"A lot of the problems really are still high amounts of religious conviction and sometimes an aversion to proper education."
Are those connected ? You mean like religious home schoolers in the west ?
"There is a tension between people who believe in caliphate style systems built around religious authority and people who believe in some sort of secularised governance."
Yes. Like everywhere else, there are different opinions. See above re Reform. Add in communists, separatists, religious fundies etc.
"Even with Sykes Picot, the border is drawn yet people insist on bothering their neighbours."
Naughty people. Arguing over borders someone drew for them. The UK and Ireland still argue over Rockall. Spain and the UK over Gibralter. Argentina.... And have you seen is going on in South Asia ?
"Iraq decided Kuwait was actually a province of Iraq."
Trump is saying the SOH is US territory now. Dictators really should stop doing that.
"When Lebanon was occupied by Syria Assad used to go on about Lebanon should be absorbed into “Greater Syria”"
Expansionist. Putin comes to mind.
"Literally nothing is forcing you to try to strong arm anyone else."
Tell Trump that re Greenland, Canada, Panama, VZ, ....
"With Arab countries every accusation is a confession tbh."
What do they accuse people of ?
"History didn’t start in the 1960’s"
Yup. Big bang. But evangelists disagree with that.
"I mean even the spread of Islam is a story of war, colonialism, Imperialism, eradication of indigenous religions and cultures."
Not familiar with the History of Christianity then ?
So there you go. I took the time to go through your gish gallop list of points. What is the trajectory of your argument? Because I am not seeing anything specific to the mid east here.
Now take those issues, the same issues that are found anywhere, and throw on a massive big dollop of foreign interference from the west. Mainly the US.