Yes there is hate on both sides but until October 7th things were relatively peaceful.
This is the bit that pro-Israeli people tend not to get at all! Things were, in fact relatively (and, yes, relatively! I am not trying to minimise things here) peaceful for Israelis.
They have NOT been for Palestinians for a long, long, long time!
When the IDF is not terrorising them, on the West Bank at least, it is settlers doing so and sometimes carrying out what can really only be called pogroms against villagers. My ex-FIL, a retired school teacher and farmer in his 70s, the kindest man you will ever meet (unless he is trying to teach you to pronounce Arabic letters, in which case he is actually pretty terrifying), is afraid to go harvest his trees because of them. They are afraid every single day!
It is only because of a) Iron Dome, b) overwhelming military superiority, and c) the infrastructure of the occupation that this may have felt relatively peaceful to Israelis in recent times. In fact, this was basically the core of the policy Netanyahu took towards Palestinians: essentially ignore them, make sure to regularly "mow the lawn" (their expression, not mine!) so that the weeds do not sprout ... normalise relations with other Arab states, and just ... keep on ignoring Palestinians.
A lot of people, including some total hawks (some of them very pro-Israel), have said for a long time that this was bound to fail in the long term. I will freely admit that, while I was one of them, I has been predicting a completely different scenario regarding the HOW - but the THAT was inevitable and has been for a long time!