GG so sorry to hear about the quilting cry, but what a good way of releasing some of those feelings, in company with people who know your situation. I think naming the babies and making the quilt is a lovely idea and a good way to remember them.
Sassy you asked so here is my long-winded answer. I know it is not really info for you at the moment but maybe someone will be interested. Do ask me more if you like. The wait at clinics for donor eggs varies considerably. If you want no wait at all (or virtually none) you can go to a clinic in Spain such as Ceram and also MAYBE Ginefiv or Institute Bernabeu in Alacante which you may be able to contact direct or via Wessex Fertility Limited www.wessexfertility.com but the prices vary a lot. The one I have had most email contact
with is Ceram which does not seem to have a wait and which had a nice person who spoke good English (is English) and was most helpful, some details may be at www.ceram.es/ingles/treatments_2.html
PLEASE just note I am NOT recommending these clinics, I have not been to them. I have just found out the details on this here Inter-web-thingy and the Ceram clinic was able to give me lots of info by email. We decided to stick with Care Fertility in the UK which has about 11 clinics in (alphabetically) Bolton, Boston, Derby, Leister, Mansfield, Manchester, Milton Keynes, Northampton, Nottingham, Peterborough and Sheffield. I CAN'T recommend them all but we have been to one clinic and they were very nice, professional etc. I am pretty sure the list varies at each so you join the waiting list at one clinic but they should be able to tell you roughly how long the list would be. So if you were fairly close to two clinics that could influence you. There is also the Lister in London, which does donor eggs too (actually several in London do donor eggs) but they may actually send you abroad for the treatment so may use Spanish clinics or elsewhere. It is good to check all the details about where you would have the actual treatment. There is also Bourn Hall Clinic, Cambridge www.bourn-hall-clinic.co.uk and I have no idea where you are so hope that some of these leads are usual. It sounds like you have a very good chance with your own eggs so I hope that you just want to find out but will never need to use the info. I got my original info from the HFEA website. I am still hoping for a miracle so we don't need to spend masses more on treatment!
For what it is worth, re gender, I sort of imagine me having a girl again, I think I just picture it as I am from a family with two girls and also for a long time I thought I would adopt a Chinese baby girl. Sadly, we never had the money to do it and now we do the waiting list is too long! I mean I would be too old by the time I got to the top of the list! Having said this, a boy would be lovely. I almost can't imagine another one. In some ways a boy would be nice, to say 'my son' which I have never said before. I think Diege and Beattie said boys at one time so there will be a few around. Sometimes when I go out there are a group of boys and just my one dd. Last week there were 4 boys and just one girl. I guess I am just used to girls but I would be delighted with any baby, thanks.
Muchlove I think that is teenage boys who think of sex every 5 minutes, my old man thinks of bills that need to be paid not of sex!
Hippy what could possibly have got so heated on the charter thread, were they also discussing big brother or something!
djinnie thinking of you. The cushion company looks fab.
Diege read your profile for the first time. What do you lecture in? I am also a big fan of the Apprentice and I am a control freak by the way! Plus my husband says I love to delegate (boss) but I just know it will get done right if I am in charge!
Jolly thanks for your positive post. Have just had a row with hubby about money and this was on top of reading about women in Burma being gang raped and thinking about people who have children who have terminal illnesses and so sometimes just want to count my lucky stars and feel positive. Sometimes life can be so pressurised and you can feel you must get more etc. I bought 19p Morrison's conditioner this week and I am going to get my more by buying own brand! Anyway, I loved your positive post. Why have you moved or have I missed something??
Who is watching the X Factor, did anyone see the girl hit her own friend on stage having insulted the audience and asked Danni Minogue who she was! It was so weird, but the singer Cher was great. I am a saddo, I am hooked, 6 years ago I watched X Factor in hospital when I had DD or possibly just when I went in early when they thought I was going into labour early so it always reminds me of that. I still have a paid for swipe card for the hospital telly in my purse, been waiting five years to use it again! Yes, saddo alert!