Ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Just to start us off.

May this be a happy and lucky thread for all of us.

jolly if you could see me in the vest top you would not be cheered up at all. God only knows why Hubbie likes it so much .

CAN NOT believe they will not give you a scan given your history. What are they monsters? robots? B*stards? arrgghh.

Glad you feel a bit better about it. but if you decide you really want a scan then you should make a big fuss until you get one. Thinking of you, honey.

rowing have you tested yet? Am worried that we haven't heard from you.

Hi all,
sorry for not coming back on. I am very cross because I ordered five hpts from an Ebay shop (pgshop) and they still haven't arrived.
Normally the test vendors on Ebay are so quick that you become accustomed to having the test the following day. I ordered on Friday! Grrr!
It looks like a bfn for me. I did cave on Tuesday and buy a clearblue which was neg, but I still don't have AF, just spotting and I still haven't managed to do a morning test, so feel slightly in limbo, but fairly sure this is a fail.
I do think the embryo implanted because I did have a lot of nausea and light cramping, but I think it must have stopped growing quite quickly and the symptoms all stopped on Sunday.
I was quite surprised that the FET worked, I just felt I had to get it out of the way before proceeding to donor embryos, but it is sad not to have any of our own embryos left.
So feeling down and need a bit of time out.
I will come back if a miracle happens when I test, but if not I will be taking it easy for a few days.

Oh Rowing, I am so sorry. I hope you come back with good news.
I can understand you may need time out.

rowing exactly what gum said x

rowing Still hoping for good news but totally understand what you're saying.

Take it easy honey.

Hmm, Rowing, I really hope you are wrong about this but completely understand how you feel. Come back to us when you are ready.

Big hug!
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Rowing, understand how you feel - really hope you are wrong. x

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Hey, welcome SassySusan. I am terribly sorry to hear of your loss - how absolutely ghastly for you.
For what it's worth, given the information above, I honestly think you'll be OK and will manage to have another baby. You're only just 40 and having conceived easily before, I suspect you won't have too much of a wait. Please go ahead and prove me right!

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sassy I cannot imagine what you have been through. I completely understand what you're saying that you cannot replace her but want to be parents again. i wish you well. I think you will be able to get a good idea of where we are all at if you read back. We have all had our fair share of disappointments and upsets along the way but are all hoping for one more baby to complete our families.

Welcome to our thread, i hope you are not here for long (cos you move over to the preggie section really quickly )

frostie you are so slim and glamorous - lucky you!

sassy - so moved by your post. Can't imagine what you've been through. Welcome and all the best, hope your TTC journey is short and sweet.

Hi to all. Not going to go for early scan. Am leaving in laps of the gods. Only 10 days to 12 weeks, and if all does go wrong would prefer to MC nat anyway than ERPC, so no real benefit of finding out earlier. Feeling really fine about it, and felt a bit more pregnant again yesterday. Wonder whether the energy boost I got at acu on Tues just made my body feel odd...?

Thanks Jollster Not that short or sweet unfortunately - got my AF today - so make that 4 months trying... We were at a Spa weekend before last, and I avoided the hot tub and the sauna and the steam room - so feel properly cheated now... People keep saying you haven't been trying very long - but it feel ages and ages to me...

Sounds like you are exceedingly pregnant - congradulations - right I'll nip back and read the thread now and see if I can figure out everyone's story. xx

sassy after my first MMC last summer, it took me 3 cycles to get pg again and like you I thought that was AGES. It's really not, but it's only words that are hard to hear when it's happening to you. You are only just 40, there's lots of older women falling pregnant all the time. I'm 42, and am on my 3rd pregnancy in the last 12 months, sadly the last 2 were both MMCs.

In terms of moving things along and people suggesting you are being hasty, I think you must do what seems right to you. It's about feeling you are doing all you can, whether that's seeking advice, taking lots of vits, having acu or whatever. It's whatever each individual feels is right in their case. And at the same time trying not to obsess (ha ha, easier said than done.... ).

Hi Sassysusan, I'm really sorry to hear about your dd, I can't imagine what you've gone/going through.

I was 40 in May and have been ttc since a mmc in Feb this year. Am trying not to get too obsessive about it, but that's easier said than done! I went to the drs this morning and have got the forms etc for the blood tests - now just have to wait for day 3 to come around. As I said to the dr, I'm not sure that I will do anything if I do have problems anyway as I have children so feel that it would be selfish to take resources up which would be better spent elsewhere. (My company works in partnership with the NHS in another field).

Anyway, am trying very had to relax this month - that's putting enough pressure on me! and getting reading for going on hols in a weeks time. can't wait.

sassysusan hope by now you've got the measure of us and can see that we're all very nice (if all a bit obssessed )

I kept thinking about you yesterday and it made me feel like i was making a huge fuss about nothing (not being able to keep hold of a pregnancy when trying for my third child).

I really hope that you are getting as much support and councelling as is possible. I know none of those things will bring her back but I just hope they help a bit.

How annoying that you avoided the hot tub etc. It would be so much easier if we just knew we were pregnant within half an hour of the successful shag and then we wouldn't need to stop drinking and enjoying ourselves during the bloody 2 week wait.

jolly Woman, you are so strong!!!! I understand why you want to wait. God, I'm gonna be a nervous wreck on the 16th - don't know about you!! haha. As always, wishing everything is still coming along nicely in there, lovie.

beattie I know it sems like ages for you, but each month could be 'the one'. I was so pleased when i got preg 3 months after the MMC but then that obviously went tits-up too. So i am hoping it will be 3 months again.

There was a thing on BBC news this morning and they were saying that they now think it IS true that you are more likely to get pregnant after a MC. I still maintain that it is probably just cos people want it to happen so they make an effort and try harder.

Speaking of which - who is SWI at the moment??

diege are you on holiday? I though we were best buddies - you don't write, you don't call!!!

rowing thinking of you.

rainbow glad you popped back. Keep us up to date on your tests etc. Are you gonna keep trying??

Love to all

Hi everyone,
definitely a BFN for me. AF has arrived in earnest and two morning tests say negative.
So we are now moving to embryo adoption, hopefully, in September.
We will still have a bash at natural conception, but don't think my remaining tube is up to it.
Sassy, I don't know what to say. I'm very sorry for your loss. I would be doing exactly what you are doing in, if I lost my son.
I hope you have a very quick success.
I'm not a very good advert for this thread, really I should be on the assisted conception thread, but I joined this thread a couple of years ago, before we realised I had problems with my fallopian tubes. Lots of the women on here conceive quickly and lots have graduated.
Have to dash, but back later.

Squeeze for you Rowing :( - admire your PMA :). Thinking of you.

Have read the whole thread... what a marathon read... am pleased to discover I am not the only one fed up of shagging.. I am however less tactful than you lot, and have no vest and shorts tactics... in fact, sat DH down last week and told him I never want to have sex with you ever again... He is however also desperate to be a Dad again... so I guess we will have to work something out...

This is a very strange time for us - we have gone from frantic working parents of a preschooler to not. I'm still off work, and ttc is probably the only really positive way forward thing I feel I'm doing at the moment - so a bit disappointed today...

Can I just ask som daft lassie newbie questions though? Has anyone given up caffeine - DH read somewhere it is not recommended whilst ttc - so missing my latte Also, have kicked my wine habit for the same reason. Are others drinking a bit, a lot or not at all... I don't really get why I wouldn't be able to drink tonight.. as I'm obvioulsy not pg.

Rowing - thinking about you...

Almost forgot - I am a positive post 40 conception story. My Mum conceived me (first attempt) just after her 40th B'day and I was born (normal - well, fairly normal anyway) just before she turned 41.

My Mum's Mum had her last (healthy) baby at 46. It was 1930s rural Eire, so I'm not sure there was a lot of choice about it... but it obviously did her no harm, as she lived on until she was 87.

Yay for older mummies

oh rowing I'm so sorry.

Sassy I'm not really trying this month (honest!) but have given up caffeine apart from my first cup of the day. I have read quite alot and also my caffeine intake had crept up.

I have phases like you where I abandon all attempts at subtletly with my dh, but that backfires because we either have a row (he is less keen than me on having a child) or it leads to performance issues! Anyway, I have promised him that I will stop thinking about it this month (which also happens to be the month I would have had the baby had I not had a mc), and I am trying very hard!

(so in answer to your question hippy we're not swi, oh no. ).

SWI? I'm going to be sorry I asked, aren't I?

I was going to say something about performance issues... but I know it will be TMI for people I have just "met"....

oh go on! We all share far too much on here!

swi= shag with intent (as opposed to swoi - shag without intent).