Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part3)

[BUnderTheBonnet]

Hi all,

Brand new thread!

I started it so I must get a BFP before the end - them's the rules.

Updating with me at the bottom

Magichen TTC#2 cycle UCL 29 CD44
bessie26 TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL31 CD41
northerngoldilocks TTC #1 cycle 1 UCL 28-30 CD29 --- BFP!
Hopefully TTC#2 cycle 8 UCL 28 CD25-BFP!
Fliesby TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL 35-80 CD29
Littlemiss72 TTC#1 cycle 6 UCL28 CD29
delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD27
vivcliquot TTC#1 cycle 8 UCL28 CD27
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 2 UCL26(?!) CD27
stuffedmk TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL 28ish CD24- BFP!
Hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD25
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 1 UCL 26-28 CD23
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 1, UCL 28, CD18
Barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 2 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD16
IvySedai TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL 30ish CD16
MrsGMack TTC#2 cycle 1 UCL 28 CD13
Digitalgirl TTC#2 cycle 2 (postMC#2) ACL 42 CD7
LucySnowe TTC#2 cycle 5 UCL 42ish CD6
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD6
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 CD2
Curlylox TTC#3 cycle 6 UCL 28 CD2
Cheepz TTC#2 round 4 cycle 1 UCL 28 CD2
Freezing TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD1

WTTC

ElmMum TTC#2 MC 28/2-17/3/10 UCL 28/29 on cycle 1 of (self-imposed) 2 or 3 cycle wait
NBelle TTC#1 MC 09/04/10
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, MMC May 10

MIA
Urd TTC#3 CYCLE 2 UCL28 CD73
InchyInchy TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL 30? CD48
TAcrazy TTC#2 cycle 8 UCL 28 CD44
Mummy4610 TTC#4 cycle 4 UCL 26-30 CD44
WildSheepChase TTC#2 cycle 1 UCL 60 CD53
LAF77 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL28 CD50

GRADUATES
amyboo - baby boy - Matthew
totally - baby girl - Faith
hoops997 - baby boy - Benjamin
Memorylapse - Baby girl - Olivia
Stressy BFP 22nd August 2009
becky78 BFP 4th September 2009
LittleOneMum BFP 7th September 2009
Waitingisntfun BFP 19th September 2009
Chamois BFP 7th October 2009
Apples BFP 9th November 2009
Meita BFP 10th December 2009
CakeandFineWine BFP 27th December 2009
boodleboot BFP 2nd January 2010
LeeWT BFP 21st January 2010
TFLS BFP 22nd January 2010
Louisesh BFP 22nd January 2010
MrsRigby BFP 27th January 2010
TheKurgan BFP 30th January 2010
effilump BFP 8th February 2010
Sarahlou8 BFP 10th February 2010
samanthab123 BFP 10th February 2010
redandyellowandpinkandgreen BFP 6th March 2010
floweringcurrant BFP 8th March 2010
HappyGirl1 BFP 23rd March 2010
Unbuffy BFP 28th March 2010
Zayja BFP 2nd April 2010
Goodluckbear BFP 10th April 2010
Malteser1981 BFP 11th April 2010
Gilda BFP 19th April 2010
AlbaDeTamble BFP 25th April 2010
sparklyrainbow BFP 25th April 2010
BunnyBaby BFP 27th April 2010
Margie32 BFP 26th April
LucyT66 BFP 30th April
Redheadgal BFP 10th May
Westyorkshiregirl BFP 19 May
dorcas111 BFP 24th May
slimyak BFP
clareanna BFP 1 june 2010
LadyBee BFP 8 June
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
Moofold BFP 26 June
SarahMia BFP
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July 2010

Evenin' all

Loops I dreamt I got shot last night.
3 times!

Backs away from Ivy trailing chocolate.
How are you me dear?

Cheepz forgot to say before may I cunt your colleauge in the bastid on your behalf.
Grrrrrrr.

Ha! Freezing Me thinks I have even surpassed myself. [loony emoticon]
Weeeeeeeeelllll....
You know lesson learned and all that crap.
No.
Not me.
The plan was I was going to see if RTD arrived by noon as always and if not take a little trip to Superdrug...
I had (most reasonably I thought)convinced myself that peeing on gamey FMU would be the best option as for one reason or another my other attempts had failed miserably.

I bought 2(of course) so automatically had to pee on one immediately(of course).

Didn't ackhtuilly need much of a pee
See a pattern here?
Dribbled peed in a sample pot that I just happened to have with me and gave it a swill.
Feckin negatory again.

I think I may be back to 28 days and the gamey pee should work in the morning!!!

I also didn't shove it back in the pack and fish it out of my bag walking to the train to see if it had changed it's mind.
That would be a bit mad wouldn't it?
Good job I didn't do that then.

Haddock me.
Haddock me now.

Surfaces from pollock slapping and does the honours with haddock

*Empty" nothing anyone can say will make it better but here are my suggestions for how to improve the evening.

1. Go into a room by yourself, close the door and just scream and scream and let it all out. Surprisingly helpful.

1. Get in supply of alcohol and/or chocolate

1. Get dh and explain that he has a very important task to do. Bludgeon the NHS into submission to your needs. Men are not great at emotional stuff but a mission with targets and achievements is something they can handle plus they are less likely to get swayed off course with emotions. Get him to plan strategy and devote time to getting it all to work, whether it's flirting with receptionists or putting the doctor's line on callback until he gets you an appointment.

1. Hopefully by this stage you are feeling a bit more mellow (particularly if you've gone for no. 2) but if not leave this one for another night. Make a list of all the people you can think of who've done amazing things. Now find out how many children they've had and what else has gone on in their lives. Think Mother Teresa, Roosevelt ......

I'm not saying that you will always be at this stage but try thinking about it as only the people who are truly amazing are given the real difficulties of life to cope with. The saps go about their everyday affairs unaware of what could go wrong and looking down on people who this happens to. If the same happened to them they would have crumbled a long time ago. Try and hold onto this list and when your SIL is being a pain remind yourself that you are amazing and special and you can get through this and come out the other side.

I hope some of these options help. Nothing can make this better and it isn't in our control. The only thing we have control of is how we respond to events.

Please try and find someone in RL to talk to - it's not the same over the net. Perhaps the miscarriage organisation or a fertility group?

I dreamt my husband had an affiar with Miley fecking Cyrus. FFS.

I told him about it - he has no idea who she is - bet he is upstairs googling her as we speak - talk about shooting yerself in the foot - a Miley Cyrus figure I do not have .... but then she is 18 and I am 37 and have had a baby ...

8s thanks
prettyv loving your use of the c word - not oft enough deployed
empty still thinking about you lady and hoping you find something to help manage your way through this
freezing nice update, catched me up on all the news, sorry to see you at the bottom but we can spot together ;)

right - of to bed

Got to be be better than Billy Ray!? Cheepz

Barsteward.
BFN.
Oh well.
Bod must have moved to 28 days again without consulting me.
I guess I'll be back down the bottom after today.

I really wanted to be even just a little updiffed before begining of Aug.

Sorry Pretty xx

Promise to come back later for name checking I have the brian capacity of a gnat at the mo.

Hello all, glad to see it's as mental in here as usual. I've not been able to get on as I've kept getting messages that the servers down. Until I went a really arse about face way to get in to the thread.

empty I won't pretend I know how utterly shit you are feeling. I can empathise somewhat in that being sprogless myself, 35 and having had 3 miscarriages in the last 18 months. I get why you feel useless. I've been there myself. I know everyone else has said to talk to someone somewhere and I have to agree. It helps. Alot. But only you can take that first massive step and until you do you will continue to feel like shit. (I don't mean to sound harsh) please get some help x

hopefully and stuffedmk congrats ladies, splendid news x

ladybee so sorry to hear your news. I hope you and dh are ok x

cheepz lovely news to hear you are back on it!!! X

Hi

'scuse me while I slink back in here and curl up in the corner with my pillow for a bit.

Worst of miscarriage happened on Sunday. Was incredibly painful, still getting some cramping off and on and am just sooooo sick of changing pads. Am just praying that my body did actually manage to empty properly, I just want this over now.

Got a couple of questions. EPAU Nurse said to come back after for a scan to check things clear. Any ideas when I should be aiming for? Do I wait for bleeding to stop completely or just go when it calms down - it's less than it was yesterday so I'm hoping is starting to settle.

Also, Nurse said that they'll ask me and DH in for some tests. I was a bit at that, because although I've had 3 miscarriages now, they aren't in a row. I am over 35, so maybe the protocol is different - or perhaps she just got my situation wrong. Anyway, I vaguely recall someone else had this offered, was it you DigitalGirl? Sorry if not, but just wondered if it was likely that tests would be offered or if it is a mistake, and if so - which ones?

Not ready to join any lists yet - still too scared to even POAS to see if levels have dropped. Just can't bear the idea of seeing a +ve while bleeding.

Sorry it's all mememe, still feel like I'm in a bubble. Tried speaking to friend yesterday and managed to talk for about 2 minutes until she said how sorry she was and then wept down phone at her (while she was at work). Can't bring myself to call mum as I know how disappointed she'll be and will just worry about "what's wrong with me" from afar (other side of the world). God this is shit.
The only thing that is keeping me going is knowing that so many of you lovely ladies have had it worse and are still pushing along, being generous with your strength and support.

Ladybee - so good to hear from you. I was still bleeding (but not heavily) when I was re-scanned. Probably 5 days after main event? Hope all has resolved, sounds like you have been through it, but on upside (where's the blimmin' upside??!!) sounds like you've cleared through really well (hope that's not insenstive but YKNWIM). Good news that you're being offered tests, if you feel you want to partake of offers. Still such early days, not surprised you're feeling wobbly. Big squeeze for you. x

Bless you, ladybee - and please don't apologise for being all mememe. That's what we're here for.

We had genetic tests done after we lost Gracie, but that was because she had a severe chromosomal abnormality and they wanted to make sure it wasn't a hereditary problem. It was just a series of blood tests and everything came back normal - so the tests weren't particularly intrusive or anything like that.

As I've not had a 'conventional' miscarriage (I've had one mmc and a termination with Gracie), I don't know if there are any other tests that they would do - perhaps some of the other ladies on here could help?

pretty - Sorry mate. If it's any consolation, I think I'm going to join you. 12dpo and my body's acting as the ultimate wind-up merchant yet again. Had a ridiculously big temp rise yesterday, after having a one-off dip on 8dpo. Also have a funny taste in my mouth. All good, you may think. But this morning, I also had a bit of spotting and some ewcm which are classic AF signs for me, so I fear I'm going to be dumped back at the bottom of the list by Thursday. Fucking fucking fuck.

Aw, LadyBee , hope you're feeling better soon. I had a check-up scan 6 days after MC began which seemed to be about right as by then was not bleeding too much and not in pain - plus I'd calmed down a bit too. The sonographer said she could see all was clear by then (she just did an external scan). I think any less than that and it might still have been a bit unclear.

Ladybee I had bleeding heavily for a few days then it eased up but then it came back with a vengeance for another 5 or 6 days so I would leave it a good 5 days of low bleed before going for a scan. On the POAS it took 21 days for me to get a negative and every positive ripped my heart out so best to avoid it for as long as you can bear to wait. I am 37 - nearly 38 with 3 in a row and have had all the tests the NHS offer which included about 5 different blood tests for various deficiencies and 'sticky' blood - something to do with coagulation! and also more recently a genetic test for both me and DH. None were intrusive - all blood tests so just involved going for tests.

Hope the information helps

Take care of yourself while you are at this really difficult stage it will get better. Much love

Ladybee so sorry for the awful weekend. Take all the painkillers you need if you're one for taking medicines. I had my scan 1 or 2 days after the very worst of it although I was still bleeding. Fortunately I didn't need to have another because it had cleared, but I just knew that anyway based on the bleeding. You probably know too but otherwise I would wait 6 days or so, like others have said. I also had to have blood tests every 2 days for about another week or so, but they didn't even recommend to POAS until my blood tests showed around 20 mIU/ml. I thought all EPU did blood tests but judging by Cheepz post, perhaps not.
Maybe you could ask, but blood tests every 2 days aren't very nice either.

Sorry I haven't added anything that the others haven't said already but just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and your DH. x

So sorry ladybee x

Quick question. Day one is first day of cycle so I count from that day. I usuallly get af on day twenty eight which I count as a new day one. Is that right?

Howdy Peeps.

LadyBee sweets, I'm so sorry you're really going through the mill.
Take care of one another and get your mitts on some mega pain killers to numb the physical side at least.
Mr.G and I are thinking of you both xxx

Hairy sorry mate I'm crappola, I've often wondered the same thing.
Pregnology wotsit says CD1 is the day after but we all know that it lies.
It's telling me I'm on CD2 and I'm not!
(Hence all the peeing on plastics!)
Grrrrr.
So your new AF should theoretically be on CD29 if you'd kept counting.
Your new day one I mean?/
Does that make sense???
Told you I was crap.

I have started a new fred though and FX RTD has not akchuilly arrived yet so we all know what that means!
linkylink

See you over there xx

LadyBee I'm so so sorry

Pretty Of course it would be mad to put the test back in the pack and check it every so often... ~whistles innocently~

Freezing Thanks for asking, wedding plans are going pretty well, I'm still waiting for my dress and veil to arrive, any day now. Other than that, I think we have everything - and only about 2 1/2 weeks to go! Eeek.

It seems the horrible hormonal feelings are ebbing off a little, so I take it I'm now on 2WW. pleasepleasepleaseplease....

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