***Let's get fat for summer !!!***

[homemama]

Hi girls, this is the new, combined thread. I figured that only those lucky enough to manage it this month would make it into spring, so I'm aiming for a big summer belly. Good luck to all of us!

Hi MandM, was thinking about you this morning. Glad to hear, you are keeping well - I am very of your "roundness"

Good luck at the midwife tomorrow.

will look at fertility friend, thanks! x

mandm, it's so nice to hear from you again! glad everything is going well! xxx

Hallooo..oo.oo.oo.oo.... is anybody here ...ere..ere..ere..ere????

Just thought I would bump this up. It is so quiet here these days!

CD16 for me. Obviously I am hoping to get pg this month, but to be honest I would settle for a nice 28-33 day cycle. It is just so annoying not knowing when I ovulate. It could be now, it could be in 2 weeks. Who knows... Ovulation kits would be a waste of money as I would probably need something like 30 of them. Will just need to keep BDing and hope we hit the jackpot one day.

Sorry, rant over. How's everybody else?

Puppy how are you feeling?

Homemama, how's the new house? Where about is it btw?

LL, how's the temping going, are you managing to do it every morning?

Hi.... just lurking at the moment. Trying to avoid the housework!! I'm on CD5 so will be hoping to get pg this month too otherwise I think I'll have to go bad onto clomid but knowing my luck it will be 5 months before I get an appointment with the gynae.

dana, i have been taking my temperature every morning for the last two weeks or so. and i am usually between 35.8 and 36.4. i should be ovulating today or tomorrow but my temp didn't go up yet.
two days ago DP walked out at work because his boss threatened him. so he hasn't exactly been in the mood to BD or think of having a baby

Sorry to hear that LL. Did he walk out as in quit his job or how? How did his boss threaten him? Doesn't sound very nice

hi anyone here, just a question, i had a fluttery feeling in the left side of my tummy yesterday followed by a shard pain in/near my right hip. later last night i had a funny turn (felt really faint even though sitting down) and had a slighty pink tinge in my CM when i wiped (sorry if TMI, but as you all in same boat thought you might understand!) then when me and dh bd'd last night it felt quite uncomfortable like he was pushing against something, and felt sick eating this morning (wasnt sick which was good, but felt it wash over me and disappear quite quickly)

does anyone think i might be pregnant? i could be imagining it by second guessing every twitch my body has, but what do you think??

dana, DP didn't get paid 14 hours of overtime (happens all the time and we're very fed up of his boss messing it up) and he asked his boss if he could sort it out. and then the conversation got a bit heated as the boss said he wasn't paying it even though he promised he would. then he was alone with DP, came up really close to his face and threatened to hit him if he spoke to him with a raised voice again. they stared it out and DP said he was going home sick. he's going in tonight to talk to his boss and if he's not able to sort it out with him he will go talk to the depot manager and maybe put in a grievance.
but on the plus side... we've had a nice two days together and did manage to get some BDing in today too (just in time as i had ovulation pains all day yesterday and today). we've also been talking about selling up and moving to belgium (where i am from).
sorry for going on a bit

Hi Dana, I've been over on the 'planning ahead' thread but lurking over here for a while and I wondered if you could share some advice with me. I'm not planning on coming off the pill till the end of December ish (new job) but from what I remember my cycles can be up to 45 days too. Do you think it'll be extra difficult to predict ovulation etc? I've thought about predictor kits but you're right, I'd need loads, and they're not cheap!

Decafgirl
x

LL, your DH's boss sounds a bit of an arse. Hope he got it sorted last night!! Has his overtime been logged somewhere?

decafgirl, I used to have a very regular 30 day cycle before I went on the pill. I only came off the pill in early June, and have had two long cycles of 45 and 42 days and am now on day 17 of cycle 3. I can't predict ovulation, but I do feel it (I think) when it happens. I get pains for a couple of days - also when BDing - and lots of CM. Actually had this yesterday, so think this month might be shorter. If you are planning to start TTC in December, I would suggest to come off the pill a couple of months in advance (ehh, that would be now, I guess) to let your system settle back in and get a feel for your cycle. But I am no expert. Others might have better/different advice.

Stacey, unless your last period wasn't a real period, it sounds more like ovulation to me. What stage in your cycle are you at?

dana, DP went into work last night and he got an apology from his boss and he will be paid all the overtime. he actually sent his boss home and ran the shift for him as the boss' wife has just found out she's got cancer and had an operation. so maybe that's why the boss did what he did, he's very stressed.

Argh, LL I hope everything works out with your DP the way you want it to. I hope your BD-ing pays off too

I have a friend going through a similar experience, they have been advised that the worst thing they did was resign over it - might be worth getting some legal advice before he walks out.

Staceym - your symptoms could be something or nothing - as Dana says it's hard to say without knowing what stage of your cycle you are at.

For decafgirl - I'm in my third cycle off the Pill. I was always irregular before going on, anything from 21 to 30 days cycle. First cycle off the Pill was 23 days, and I ovulated on day 18 (this would not have been a sustainable pregnancy, and anything less than 10 days between ovulation and period means the egg doesn't have time to implant. Last cycle looked better - 28 days with ovulation on day 12.

This cycle is the first cycle we're actually trying on, currently on CD14, had some good EWCM in the last couple of days, was expecting a temperature increase today to indicate ovulation, but it hasn't happened yet. Must be due soon though. Fertility Friend still says I am at my most fertile today

Some people say you are more fertile in the first couple of months off the Pill. I certainly would not have been in my first month, it's impossible to tell about my second month as we were still waiting for my smear test results to come back and hence not trying. Other people, like Dana, come off the pill to a different cycle. I think it's really swings and roundabouts, personally I wouldn't see any harm in coming off the pill now and letting your cycles settle down a bit - at least then come December you'll have an idea what you're dealing with.

I've been taking my temperature every morning (like LL) as a way of understanding my cycle and pinpointing ovulation. If you're interested in finding out more about this check out Fertility Friend .

Having a lovely holiday with DH in Wales - it would be really lovely if our baby is or has been conceived this week - nothing better than a relaxing week with friends. However, it's only our first month of trying, so it may not happen.

Hugs,
Artoo.

Glad to hear you DH had a chat with his boss and got things sorted, LL. Does sound like his boss could be under a fair bit of stress.

Think there could be some syncronised testing this month

Thanks guys, that's really helpful. I suppose I'll just have to wait and see! I'm a bit nervous about coming off the pill any earlier (new job) coz knowing my bloody luck I'd fall pg straight away! The boss would not be impressed; ttc was not something I mentioned at interview!

Hope everyone who's testing this month has good news, good luck everyone xxx

well AF should be due near the 28th here. i have little hope though. we BDed only three times so far this cycle. what about you all? when is everyone due/going to test?

(and thank you for listening dana, i really needed to talk to someone about the stuff with DP's boss {{hug}})

i gave in to curiosity and tested way too early and no surprises with BFN (except that i could have been 4 weeks gone but had af coz only just coming off pill iykwim). will have to wait till af is due on 4th Oct, god it seems like forever!

Staceym11, at least now you know. The waiting is horrible though, when you want it so much. You must be ovulating now or very soon if you are due 4th Oct, so get some BDing in

Decafgirl, understand your concerns, but could you not use other contraceptive in the meantime? Not up to me to tell you what to do though

LL, 3 times is enough if around ovulation time. My DS only took the once. - Only time at all that month I think. If I haven't totally misjudged the signs, I think I ovulated sometime between Tuesday and today, so should be due around 28th-30th. We have been BDing every day this week, but missed it last night as DS woke just as we were going to bed and when he finally went back to sleep (2 hours later!!), we were too tired . Will bed again today and tomorrow and hopefully that will do the trick.

How are things now at your DH's work?

Btw LL, how serious are your plans for moving back to belgium? Why? Is it better schools, family life or...? Does your DH speak French/Dutch? Would it be easy for him to find work? Just curious as we did the same thing 1 1/2 years ago. (Denmark, not Belgium )

Hello all, sorry i have not posted lately, after getting back from our break ds developed tonsilitis with a raging temperature highest was 40.1
How is everybody?

Thanks for asking how i was, I'm ok emotially and physically.DH and I are waiting till af arrives and starting over again whenever that will be, fingers crossed we conceive as quick as last time. I may not be on so much till af arrives as i will have nothing to report, but will check in to see how all of you are doing. Does anybody know how long preg symptoms take to get out of your body - the hormone has now gone according to a blood test, but i still have the blue veins and I use this as a indicator of pregnancy.

I def feel broody now as I completed a contract yesterday to look after a 6mth old boy and he is so sweet.Can't wait .

i know, iv got to calm myself, i know i will get pregnant i just want it to be soon, lol but the longer (within reason) it is the better as we moving in feb. just gunna keep bding all month long! lol

dana, seems we synchronized ovulation too now. oh dear!
everything is fine now at DP's work. he's off work from monday for a week and he's spending that time to set up his new hobby, a tropical fishtank.
for a few days we were so fed up of everything and seriously considering moving to belgium, though now we've calmed down and decided to do it in a few years when hopefully we will have a toddler and not a new baby, if we manage to get pregnant first of course. i found britain handier for having a baby (nhs!) and for the baby & toddler stage. on holidays to belgium we had great trouble with simple things like where to change a nappy in city centres. here that sort of thing is more catered for. of course we would have my family close by and they would have DD and hopefully another one to spoil. the moving part doesn't bother me, i've done it before (5 years ago tomorrow!). the schools are good in belgium. DP speaks a bit of dutch but he picks it up quickly. DD understands it a lot and knows bodyparts, objects and simple conversation. she's also showing an interest in learning french but my french is incredibly rusty! we could buy such a lovely house there with the money we'd get from selling this one (on a council estate), it would really be such an improvement. but we'll see.
are you danish or british? how did you find the move? did it take a lot of adjusting?
sorry this is so long!

Hello ladies!
Just wanted to pop on quickly to let you know that I haven't deserted you!
I'm still surrounded by boxes but glad to be in.
Dana, we're on the edge of leafy Surrey now But we're not as posh as the neighbours. No broadband for another wk so postings may be sporadic! Good luck to everyone testing soon.

Hugs to puppy and homemama, nice to hear from you ladies

Pleased to hear things worked out at your DH's work, LL, it sounds like there were external factors affecting his boss' behaviour.

I had a nice temp rise this morning, so hopefully I ovulated yesterday. We had some well-timed BD-ing, so provided AF doesn't rear her ugly head I'll be testing in a couple of weeks time, which will be very early October. So there are going to be a few of us testing around the same time, if all works out for us

Hugs,
Artoo.

Puppy, glad you're feeling fine. Fingers crossed that you conceive quickly again!!

Homemama, good to hear from you. Bet you are dead posh

Artoo, I see you have almost syncronised with LL and me too

LL, (this is going to be long) I am Danish - DH is scottish. He has been in Denmark for 1 year now. (we lived together in Scotland for 5). TBH, it has been a struggle. But that is mainly due to language problems and thereby difficulties in getting a "proper" job (also feeling left out at family do's etc). It's getting much better now though. He understands 90% and can speak it fairly well, but still not well enough to get a job within the industry where he has qualifications and experience. At the moment he works with kids on a temporary contract. It is a brilliant way to learn the language, but lousy pay - hence we are struggling financially too. He has just accepted an offer to work in another after school care place for at least a year. By that time he should be fluent and able to get a better job, but in the meantime we will have no money, so if we're not pg this month, we will need to put the baby plans on hold for at least 6 month . Part of me hopes that I am pg right now, but another part now hopes that I am not, because it really would be a struggle and I wouldn't be able to take the year maternity leave as planned etc. Quite sad about it really, as I am so desperate to have another baby and didn't want too big a gap between DS and little bro/sis.