Withdrawal method

[HelenRosie]

Just how successful is the withdrawal method of 'contraception'? Has anyone used it successfully?

I recall Billy Connelly's comments on this matter... "at the point of ejaculation there is no f**king way my arse is going in that direction"

plus, of course, sperm will leak out prior to the main ejaculation.

it can be quite reliable if you use one of those persona machines.

i used one for many years but you need to strictly obey the green light system

MN Hubbie - I remember that skit - sooo funny

lol @mnhubbie.

this method has always puzzled me, i don't get how it's satisfying for either party?

I'd thought that too, piratecat!

Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, and you will have no need of the withdrawal method as you will only be having unprotected sex on 'safe' days - that's the theory anyway! Seriously though, it is a very good book.

Or there is always bumsex (done in a way to be mutually satisfying), oral, digital (not online but using fingers, lol) or toy based options too but unless you are REALLY careful about your days I can't see how it can really be that great plus it kills two parts of it. Spontaneity for starting and mutuality of ending.

Well it me that is less satisfied by it, my partner is happy with it. We do plenty of bumsex, oral etc too and generally have a great sex life. I suppose secretly I'm hoping it will fail and I'll get pregnant!

You can most definitely still get pregnant. I speak from experience on that one.

Bizarre partner! I do know what you mean though. DW probably won't thank me for mentioning she loves the feeling inside (I'll leave it at that and you can fill in (oh... unintentional) the rest).

It always seems to be the way. A drunken fling and a split condom leads to pregnancy but years of trying leads to nothing. If you aren't timing things there will always be the chance of pregnancy due to pre-ejaculate leakage.

I had unprotected sex on a so-called 'safe' day. The result is asleep in his bed .

Worked for me for around 2 years - then DD was conceived!

oh for gods sake, is this a piss take?

yeah he must be bizarre. However we both hate condoms and I won't use any other methods.

Which is worse, condoms or an unexpected pregnancy?

Well if we are choosing this method then a pregnancy would hardly be unexpected.

Rasputin: that's what I thought too, and I'm now starting to worry as I'm still not pregnant.

arf.

no!

Er, DS is nearly 3 and there's another one due in 4 months. Need I say more?

Two bricks, I tell you, it's the way forward

So why not just bite the bullet and TTC?

I don't understand. Not being contrary, just genuinely confused: if you are TTC why are you using the withdrawal method?

We have stupidly been using this method this month as we rebooted the sex life with a vengence a few weeks ago and I have mini pill in the draw waiting for my period so I can start. DD is 2.5 and DS is first birthday was last week . We were going to TTC after christmas so it wouldn't be the end of the world but it won't be ideal as we are immigrating to NZ at the end of the year.

Gahh

We used withdrawal when we first got married too and it worked for months so hopefully....

He wants to be married before we start officially TTC.

...but you're worrying that you haven't conceived yet whilst using the withdrawal 'contraception'? Maybe you need to enlighten DF on the success rate

I get where you are coming from. I do understand. I don't know if I'm being sensitive or not here but I have to ask... are you completely mutual in your decisions as it just seems a little like "HE" is making the decisions for you.

I do, honestly, apologise if I am just being a pratt here.